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Colleague Xiao Li and her husband are both only children in the family. They had a child within two years of marriage. Both parents (in-laws) smiled at the baby from ear to ear and rushed to take care of the baby. Xiao Li and her husband decided to let their parents take turns to take care of the baby, which was fair and balanced the happy atmosphere of the two big families, and everyone hit it off.
However, this did not last for several years. When the baby was young, it was quite comfortable to go out in his arms. However, as children grow up and become independent, the more people they care about, the easier it is to create contrast. That's not true. When the baby is about two and a half years old, every time it is grandma's turn to take care of the baby, the child always cries and says, "I want grandma, I want grandma, I don't want to go to grandma's house ..."
In this way, the grandmother who has been "disgusted" by her grandson for a long time will be a little angry, especially when the baby pushes her to be a grandmother. You know, grandma's love is no less than grandma's. How many grandmothers can't eat or sleep well day and night in order to make their children live better, but these enthusiastic efforts can't compare with their children's "I want grandma" in the end.
As a result, some sad grandmothers agreed that the baby would live with her all the time, but after all, grandma was a little lost under the thankless work, and her relationship with her in-laws was not as enthusiastic as before. Usually, she spends more time traveling and dancing square dance with friends in the community. Although she lived a full life, her heart was a little empty. Whenever grandma stares out of the window and sighs,
As the saying goes, "a bosom friend is just a wife." In order to give grandma a step down, grandpa shouted, "Go, go, go to the in-laws' house to see the baby. I can't sleep." So after a few months, my grandparents took the initiative to visit my baby at my parents-in-law's house, which really increased my knowledge. It turns out that grandma and baby are really different, and there is no place at home.
Taking care of the baby with her in-laws for half a day, grandma found it easier and more atmospheric to take care of the baby, and simply said "like playing". What happened? Grandma was very clever when she learned about the way she took care of the children. It turns out that grandma usually gets along with her children by playing games. Of course, there are not only toys here, but also a lot of intellectual game training, and after each game, she will sort out the division of labor.
In this way, playing games is not only a game, but also a part of the cultivation of children's self-ability. Children can also find a lot of sense of exploration and self-confidence here, which is probably why the baby likes grandma and is attached to her. After all, children's growth needs not only food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also experience, recognition and support to grow up in play!
Then, in the companionship and education of children, how should parents play and grow with their children at ordinary times? The following methods are recommended:
? Early education game book
For some grandparents, grandparents with children, playing games with their children is fun, but more often there is nothing they can do. After all, generations have different ideas, and many ways of life, including education, can't keep up with the times. It's really embarrassing for them to grow up while playing with their children.
At this time, in order to help the elderly take better care of their children, young parents can prepare some early education game books for the elderly. In their spare time, the elderly can play with their children according to the game book, and they can also train their reaction and language expression skills by telling picture books and stories. For example, the Montessori early education game, which was born in Italy, has rich experience in early education.
Montessori's early education game was written by Montessori, a great parenting expert. As an excellent doctor of medicine, Montessori insisted on devoting his life to the cause of early childhood education. With his unique concept of early education, he has led countless children to get better physical and mental development and educational guidance. The whole set of Montessori early education games has also been trusted and loved by many families.
Among them, the development of children's mathematical ability, children's life ability, children's excellent character, children's intelligence, children's language ability and children's sensory ability contained in the whole set of books have great potential to stimulate children's enthusiasm through targeted game training.
Children are also more likely to experience self-confidence and happiness in interesting game content, thus stimulating their potential step by step under the influence of interest, and this kind of educational growth companion is easier to experience parent-child happiness and easy parenting than many parents who deliberately cultivate their children.
? Bowl group game
For some younger babies, more complicated games may increase their frustration. At this time, children's thinking and reaction ability can be stimulated through some simple games, such as simple bowl game props, which are easy for every family to obtain. Through the training of bowl group games, children's reaction and interaction ability can be enhanced.
Among them, the rule of bowl group game is to find six bowls with different sizes first. Considering the safety problem, parents are advised to prepare bowls made of non-fragile materials and guide their children to choose the largest and smallest bowls through different sizes. Finally, parents will disturb the order of bowls and let the children rearrange them. In the arrangement of different sizes, children's classification, thinking, logic and hands-on ability can be well exercised, which is an interesting parent-child interaction for parents and children during the game experience.
? Bus game
In the process of children's growth, many children prefer the characters in The Imitation Game, such as police catching thieves, making-up experience games, express delivery games, cooking games and so on. But for the elderly with children, many seemingly rich and interesting games still have to consider props and physical strength. However, if we recommend flexible games, I recommend you try bus games.
Among them, the easiest way to play bus games is that you can play with a chair. We need to put the chairs in the shape of seats on the bus, and then imitate them with children of different roles to realize the bus scene. In the process of game experience, children can exercise a good sense of security and cooperation in the experience of game characters. If they encounter unexpected situations, their adaptability, language ability, organization ability and leadership ability are still well stimulated.
? Swing checkers
This checkers game is suitable for children over 5 and 6 years old to improve their advanced ability. Checkers are usually in the shape of a six-pointed star. This game is suitable for two people and many people to play together. If six people in the whole family play together, all six corners can use the 10 hole.
If two people play together, parents can prepare six colors of chess pieces and corresponding colors of 10 checkers in advance In the process of counting, direct association and adjacent games, the process of "jumping" chess improves the coordination ability of children's hands, eyes and brain, especially the coordination ability of children's index finger and thumb is very helpful for future writing training.
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