Wen/Xue's mom
Nowadays, the old man has been a common phenomenon, because the child's parents are basically dual-income, the need for two people to earn money to be able to support the family's expenditure.
With the help of the elderly to help with the children, the children's pressure is not so great, to be able to spare more time to work, to enhance the standard of living of the family and efforts, but the elderly with children there are some problems, affecting the internal harmony of the family , as well as the growth of children's education.
The most obvious is the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the old man with children and young parents with children there is a big difference, the older generation of people more trust in their own experience, feel better in their own way; while the treasure mom is educated, more trust in the scientific way of feeding, can not see the mother-in-law some of the old ways of bringing children.
So the two sides are very easy because of parenting concepts on the issue of conflict, coupled with the children are busy working, caring for the children's things are mostly old people in the do, "out of the effort not to please" also let the old man in the heart of the face is also very uncomfortable.
On top of that, the lack of parental companionship for the child will also affect the parent-child relationship between the child and the parents. Like many families are children every day and grandparents together, the old man accompanied by the child's time is a few times the child, even after work parents are rarely accompanied by the child, are self-conscious about playing the phone, which is also not responsible for the child's education.
For many young mothers, let the elderly help is also a helpless choice, because the elderly age, every day so long to look at the child is also very tired, not their own old age, and the child lacks the companionship of the mother, which will make the mother mood incomparably lost, for which there is a better way to bring children began to popularize.
That is, during the day time, the elderly at home to help with the children, and then after work in the afternoon by the mother and father to take over, like "work clock system", the elderly with children on the day shift, the mother and father with children on the night shift.
So the elderly not only help children with children, but also leave the children with the children's time, the same old people after work can also do something they like, such as dancing with old friends, chatting together, so that the body of the day tired spirit rest rest.
And the children can have time to accompany the children, accept the children's education, This can be very good to avoid the concept of parenting problems, but also enhance the relationship with the children, and do not let the old man so much work.
More importantly, it reduces the direct friction between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law on the issue of parenting concepts, and the conflict between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is less and less, and we all have a clear division of labor, and each other can have a respite time.
Do parents no matter when and where the heart is thinking of children, most of the elderly willing to help with the child, in fact, is the heart of the children, want to help reduce the pressure on the children, but also inside the heart is like a child, there is a certain generation pro.
But the old man with a baby belongs to the love is not an obligation, we can not put the old man as a nanny like call, and is to help with the baby and laundry cooking, so not only will the old man tired of the body, but also let the old man cold.
Because of work reasons, the child during the day to the elderly to bring, this can be understood, but after work parents have to bring their own children, as far as possible to do some chores, because this itself is also our own thing.
Can't let the kids let the old man take, while disliking the old man parenting ideas backward, while letting the old man with accusations, that's too much to say. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and you'll be able to get them to fit in your pocket, so you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
Many elderly people from the countryside to help with the baby, in the city is not familiar with the life, no friends no chatting object, the spiritual world is boring and empty, the old man will be in a bad mood for a long time. Every Saturday and Sunday, the children can actually take the children and the elderly to walk around together, chatting and talking, so that the elderly heart also have a landing spot.
The same encounter with the idea of bringing children on the differences, or to communicate more, In fact, think about it, each other are not easy , after all, the old man's life ideas, not to say that a day or two can change, some of the problems can be avoided on the avoidance, after all, the old man's original intention is to the child's good.
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