I think a big part of it comes from the fact that mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law don't have their own identity. Mother-in-law always think of their daughter-in-law to treat themselves and treat their own mother, always picking and choosing, no matter what the daughter-in-law is dissatisfied, not as good as the daughter-in-law as the son's favorite woman, love the house so that the state of mind may not be the same. And the daughter-in-law thinking of mother-in-law should be treated like a daughter to treat themselves, but the fact is not so, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is impossible to transcend the mother-daughter relationship, so the daughter-in-law of the mother-in-law heavy opinions, not as important as the mother-in-law as her husband's life as the most important woman, their own is the husband's life in the most loving woman, perhaps this will make the daughter-in-law's heart a little more balanced.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be more understanding of each other, the mother-in-law at home, "the power of blessing" for so many years, suddenly someone to take over, this heart will certainly be unbalanced. And their own hard-earned son did not listen to their words, not with their own close, what are thinking of daughter-in-law do not take into account this mom, this look daughter-in-law is not easy on the eyes. Daughter-in-law in her mother's family pampered for more than twenty years, everyone is obedient to her, unlimited favor. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money from your family, and then you'll have to pay for it.
So the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are tolerant of each other. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in different roles, there is no right or wrong, different perspectives on things different, different ways of dealing with different state of mind is also different. The daughter-in-law sympathizes with the mother-in-law in the home to pay so many years, if she let go of the whole power, this is not to take her life? The mother-in-law tolerate this "foreign population", "ten years daughter-in-law boiled into a mother-in-law" themselves when the daughter-in-law also have a personal experience, should be more understanding is right.
As the mother's son, the daughter-in-law's husband, sandwiched between the two of them is very difficult, the man in the middle of this play a vital role in directly determining the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the man should be witty to deal with mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relations, because the man regardless of which side of the preference for the other side of the harm caused by the other side. To put it bluntly, they are all for you to make a big fuss. The man in the middle to play a role in mediation do not add fuel to the fire, find ways to make the daughter-in-law to the mother-in-law respect, mother-in-law to the daughter-in-law to have goodwill. As the saying goes, "all things prosper in the family", there is a harmonious family, no matter what you do have a solid backing, no matter what difficulties are solved, the home is the warmest harbor, do not let this sheltered house meet even the night rain.