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Every woman, surely, wants her middle-aged life to be exquisite and happy, and wants to be able to freely allocate her time to do what she wants to do, without having to commit herself to surround the stove all day long.
Leisurely on a variety of flowers, tease the cat, and three or five friends and friends to dance to keep fit, every week will go to the beauty salon to do medical beauty, so that their youth forever; occasionally travel with their loved ones, the two people do not know in front of, like a young man to enjoy the feeling of love, which should be the woman on the rest of the life of the most perfect conception of it.
And in fact, each woman is not necessarily in accordance with the plan to live, some women to the middle age of life, early retirement to start enjoying; some women to the middle age, although not live into the imagination of that, but also not bad, let people envy; and there are women, in the middle age of life is not as good as in the past, the whole day are regretting the previous day's life.
Forty years old, can be considered an important watershed in a woman's life, in this no longer young age, to make any one choice, the future of life, have a decisive impact.
So, in the middle-aged shopping, over the forty-year-old woman, why some of the better, and some days worse? In the end, what pulls the gap between women and women?
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Xu Shan and Wen Ting is a close friend from childhood to play, two people in their youth, had nestled in the nest when talking about the sky, discussed what they want to live in the future, are hoping that after a few decades of two people can live a happy and fulfilling life, when the two people will be about to go shopping together, to travel.
But decades have passed and the two of them are living very different lives.
Xu Shan married her parents introduced to the object, the family conditions are better, the husband's monthly income is several times that of Xu Shan, so as soon as she was pregnant Xu Shan quit her job, at home as a housewife. The daily life is to take the husband's living expenses to do a good job of three meals a day, organizing the household chores, as well as taking care of her husband and in-laws.
After the child was born, she was also responsible for taking care of the child and educating the child. In fact, after all these, it was very tiring for Xu Shan, especially every time her husband pricked her, she felt that her life was too bitter.
But when she thought that without her husband, she would have to be busy for her work like Wen Ting, then she was still willing to stay by her husband's side.
Who knew that in middle age, these two people's lives would be reversed.
Wen Ting was in a free love relationship with an average family on both sides, so they were married for four years before they had children in order to improve their standard of living.
After Wen Ting's two families worked harder, Wen Ting's position rose again and again, her husband also because of Wen Ting's help to do their own business is getting better and better, even so the two people are still maintaining the posture of hard work.
At midlife, Wen Ting not only became the boss of her own store, but also remained a fashionable working woman, talking elegantly and sensibly, behaving in a decent manner, a successful woman.
But Xu Shan, who has been out of work for many years and out of touch with society, was disliked by her husband and divorced her.
Without a life of dependence, she had to help her son with his children so that she could have a roof over her head, but in fact, she still spends her days looking at her son and daughter-in-law's faces.
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Just how did this pair of former friends pull away from each other? It was actually the following three aspects that determined the insurmountable gulf between them.
Economic independence or not, determines the gap in the quality of life of women
Economic independence for women, is too important, there is an income of women, her quality of life is inevitably higher than others, because many times she likes things, can be obtained through their own, without having to reach out and ask the family; and there is no income of women is the opposite, the quality of life is quite poor.
In the face of favorite things, they can only get through others, however, this to the money process, usually suffered the family all kinds of contempt.
Some women don't even have the courage to ask for money, just take a look at the things they like and leave it at that, so the quality of life is definitely not high.
So, often economically independent women, are living a good life, and dependent on men to survive, reaching out to ask men for money women, but always live a very humble, even aggrieved, do not dare to speak out.
Whether the other half than their own importance, determines the gap in the marriage of women
There are many women who feel that women married, should be respected by the man to the family as a priority, even if they have reached the middle age, or so.
It is true that it is a good idea to respect and love your family, but losing yourself for your other half is not desirable.
In fact, many women in the life of the other half of the other half than their own importance, even if the angry, or the front and back for each other to pay.
And some women, no matter what the situation, she loves herself more, so they are in life, more will pay attention to their own emotions, encountered problems with the other half of the communication is certainly good.
So, their lover will give them respect and love, so the marriage is also happy.
It is undeniable that women who are happily married, because the days are very easy, so they look very young, and those who are not very happily married, because they have to carry too much pressure and aggravation, so they are very old, and the gap between the women and the women, and thus opened up.
The pursuit of different, get the results are also very different
Some women married, they feel that they can do a little woman, management of the man's life, to provide him with a quiet and comfortable environment, in their own capacity, to give their love to the man's body.
In fact, this kind of sacrifice, and will not get the man the same return, but will let them good and evil, only want to enjoy.
And some women in the marriage of the pursuit of equality, what are and husband *** with the sharing, at first there will indeed be contradictions, grinding once completed, the two marriage is bound to be mutual respect. Such a woman, to the middle age can live more relaxed.
In the end, the woman is living a good and bad, completely depends on their own choice, a thought of heaven but into the theater.
Choose to do a man's nanny, naturally, can not live too well, and chose to go hand in hand with the man, the housework together, the responsibility and pressure to carry together, although it may also be very hard, but at least be respected and recognized.
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At middle age, there is definitely a gap between women and women, because of the difference in outlook, different attitudes towards things, which naturally creates an irreversible gap.
So, time hopes that every woman, from now on, are re-examining their own lives, find their own value of life, to live for themselves, so that your life can slowly to the direction you want to develop.
In the envy of other women days easy and free time, you have to think, why their own days are not as good as others.
Women in this life, simply should not become dependent on who survive? The woman should not be a doddering doddering doddering doddering doddering doddering doddering doddering The first thing you need to do is to find a way to get the best out of your life, and you can do that.