I love parent-child education, and I am the initiator of Parent-Child Creative Players, the practitioner of "Nourishing Children with Art", the creator of the Chinese Poetry Gesture Dance, and the advocate of lifelong growth of practice and children.
I'm glad to let you know me in writing.
Every day now makes me feel full, happy, blessed and grateful. Not because of what I have gained, but because I continue to practice being a lifelong learner and giver.
Every step in life is not in vain, and every pit is not stepped on in vain. So the person I am today is an accumulation of those 15,000+ days that were once there.
I was born in Jiaxing, the birthplace of the Party, and spent a lot of my childhood here. When I was a kid, I loved to sing and dance, and once I saw a group of children wearing tutus and dancing beautiful ballet on Shanghai's Oriental TV program, not to mention how envious they were.
So, whenever you see an airplane flying by in the sky, you will make a wish that you also want to be their good wishes.
Unexpectedly, in my fifth grade graduation, my father's a mentor and friend recommended that I go to an art school, I think I'm a ghost, long and thin. So just like that, my little wish actually came true. Opened the road of professional dance learning, since then my life has become different.
That year, at the age of 12, the streets and alleys are playing the song "About Nine Eight". Mom and Dad sent me to the Hangzhou Art School to study dance. A girl, a shoulder bag, the dream, from here on.
The campus life alone is not good, the first time away from home, all the living have to come by themselves. Dance learning process is not as glamorous as what you see on TV, every day is practicing, reading. Day after day, I practiced soft opening, technique training, and learning combinations. I don't know what it's like to learn these things.
The days when you don't have a mom or dad to rely on are very lonely. Every day, I saved coins, cried and called my parents, and then hung up the phone and continued to laugh and dance in the dance studio. It is also this experience of art learning that has forged my independence, strength, and the quality of not being afraid of suffering.
Graduation from art school, the examination of the university. Still alone, a duffel bag, sitting in a dozen hours of hard seat train to Beijing exam, that year I was 16 years old.
Finally, I chose to study dance in the beautiful Hangzhou, to open my university life. The life of the university is still practicing every day in class, with the stage experience I usually also perform. The difference is that the class teacher is a graduate of the Beijing Dance Academy modern dance choreography.
What is the difference? Modern dance is different from ballet and Chinese dance, and emphasizes more on the real and inner feeling. The class teacher brought me a great influence, let me see a different world and a different understanding of art. Until now, I am still influenced by his thoughts.
In the art school belongs to the moderate basic learning, the university is the liberation of the body and the stage of artistic thinking. It was the class teacher who conveyed to us that there is no right or wrong in art, and that we should look for the difference, and that there is no beauty or ugliness in art, and that we should find our inner voice.
It turns out that not only people with a good image and a good figure can learn dance, but dance is a way and a way to know oneself and to talk to oneself. This ignited a new emotion in me towards dance and art that attracted me.
In 2006, my senior year of college, I had the opportunity to go to the United States to visit Broadway for an exchange program, and it was this opportunity to see the world that planted a small seed of love for the arts and the pursuit of the arts within me.
The first time I went to a place so far away. We went to Broadway, toured Harvard and MIT campuses, and went to the Juilliard School. We experienced the different cultures of different countries, and the campus environment and learning atmosphere of the world's top institutions. The first time I saw this, I was able to see it in my mind's eye.
Not long after returning to China, I graduated from undergraduate school and became a dance teacher. I was 20 years old.
Although I graduated, I still wanted to learn and see the world. So I made a bold decision to go to the highest school of dance in China - Beijing Dance Academy to study.
I used the fastest speed to search the Internet enrollment, carefully screening the information suitable for their own. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to get my hands on a new one, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to get my hands on a new one. The first thing I did was to get the money back from the bank, and I started to regret it. I have to return the apartment I rented? My dance lessons were going to be passed on to my friends? I was going to say goodbye to the city and friends I knew so well? And when I called my mom and dad to tell them about my worries and reluctance, they said, "Go ahead, come back and start whenever you want. You are still young, the world is so big, you will be very rewarding.
It is also the support of parents, I went out of the comfort zone, dragged on a big box full of belongings, set off to the north!
Again, one person, one suitcase, off you go!
In the carriage, because my box is too big, under the bed can not be put, put on the aisle. A northeastern brother with a joking tone said loudly: Whose box, so big? I know the big brother is not malicious joke, but at that moment all my grievances can no longer control. I regret why I don't stay in Hangzhou to continue the previous life, I regret why I have to toss myself.
I cried loudly in the carriage, crying to the northeast brother apologized again and again, crying to the conductor called. Finally, the conductor of the northeast brother after some education, with my luggage placed in her lounge. I look at the window lights, know that has become a fact, my emotions slowly calm down.
The closest thing to a dream
The process of arriving in Beijing and arriving at the North Dance was not so smooth. I found a house to rent in the neighborhood, met new roommates and classmates, and started a new life.
In the Northern Dance, an eye-opening experience. See the top actors and teachers in the country. Yesterday also in the dance room to see the duo dance, today in the CCTV TV dance competition to see. In front of the dance theater, I also saw the dance world's leading teacher Pan Zhitao, shyly took a picture with him. In the elevator of the dance academy, I met the teacher of my class, Ms. Wang Mei, and listened to her and another teacher chatting about the phenomenon of the current dance circle, which made me nervous and excited. I also ran into Mr. Zhang Jigang at a place not far from the dance academy where I got my hair cut. I can say that I saw cowboys everywhere.
All of this makes me realize that the platform is really too important. The resources here are top-notch in China. Your classmates, your teachers, the activities you participate in and so on.
Also in Beijing, I studied hard, got a lot of dance-related certificates, and met a lot of teachers and friends.
A year later, back to Hangzhou, took the preparation into the system, continue to be a dance teacher, life seems to be on track.
Newborn
Again, I had to change the birth of my child, I was 28 years old that year.
I was very calm about having a baby. The pain and suffering of years of dance study hadn't crushed me, and nothing else had. So I felt good about myself and took one step at a time. But the reality was not good.
Breastfeeding tortured me because of my lack of feeding knowledge. I could accept the physical discomfort, but I was devastated by the disagreement and lack of understanding from those around me. I took it for granted that if my child wanted to drink milk, I could have it if I fed him. I didn't realize that my child couldn't suck it out and cried. I wanted to try hard to breastfeed, but the family around me kept urging me to give my child formula, so I had a fight with my husband.
I know I should breastfeed, but the reality is not like that. And if my little sister's children were able to breastfeed without any problems, why couldn't I? I began to reflect on myself and what went wrong.
After I was discharged from the hospital, I searched for information on the Internet and asked a local breastfeeding coach to come to my home to guide me in breastfeeding. Luckily, this teacher was very professional and gentle and patient. She gave our whole family a lesson in parenting and corrected the wrong parenting knowledge from those old ideas. At the same time, she also gave me unlimited confidence and encouragement, so that my child and I re-established the parent-child relationship, and realized the exclusive breastfeeding.
It is also through this incident and learning that I learned that parents need to keep learning in order to become qualified parents. Parents need to learn even more in advance to be able to cope with the different problems that their children encounter in the process of growing up.
Metamorphosis
So I started the path of parenting learning. Every day, I read books and reading. I felt too fragmented, not systematic, so I participated in a three-year cycle of Montessori philosophy learning. In this Montessori education philosophy and practical system of learning, in addition to day and night practice, writing papers, internships, etc., so that I have a deeper understanding of the growth of children, the growth of people have a deeper understanding and awareness, but also ignited my passion for children's education.
In my interactions with my child, I found that both my child and I were particularly happy and enjoyable. Apart from the fact that I know her, understand her, support her, as well as being able to sing and dance with her, I will utilize the moment's environment to make some very creative, pie-in-the-sky games. For example, if my child was banging on the face basin, I would play with her and explore the sounds of different parts of the face. Then the face basin turned into a mirror, a hat, a steering wheel, a rice bowl, a frisbee, etc. Every time, everyone was so surprised that they couldn't let it end. So while people around me were griping about how hard it is to bring up a child, I couldn't wait to spend time playing with my child.
With my kids, I have a million ways to play. So I wanted to share them with the people around me. But I realized that I had ideas, but I didn't know how to do it, and my games were not systematic. By chance, I joined Uncle Cat's community and started a year of deadly learning.
A year, every day reading, output, practice punch card, and a group of very good old iron company, from time to time to share and exchange ideas. This year I had a lot of breakthroughs, it turns out that my persistence can also make me a learner. This year, I read 100 + books, daily review, began to make plans, rediscovered the dream of life, began to get up early, began to develop good habits, began to eat healthy, exercise and so on.
Two years have passed, and now I still keep reading every day, outputting practice notes, waking up early, reviewing every week and month, time management, high-performance life, lighting up a skill every year, and so on. It's these good habits that have given me very steady and confident growth.
Now when I do something, I can do it when I say I will and take 100% action. For example, I studied English for 180 days, practiced yoga for 100 days, meditated for 100 days, and got a scholarship in addition to returning my tuition. The video number insisted on daily updates for 100 days, from a small white to have learned, but also passed the official certification, became a dance blogger. It is also the accumulation of the early stage, so that I can do something more persistent, and still love to continue.
I'm a teacher and a role model for my students, and I'm working hard and chasing my dreams, so why don't you?
I am a mother, the best teacher for my children, I read, play the piano, get up early and exercise every day, my mom can't do it, why should I ask you?
Now, I will still keep such a productive and fulfilling life. Every day, I share my knowledge content through the output of video HAO (Candy Mom Growing Up) and DOU sound. Sharing through weekly review exchange through phone calls with Xiao Shan. Record your monthly and yearly review through, dou petals to witness the growth. Share the beautiful things worth experiencing through da crowd review.
Finally
Of course, more importantly, I am constantly practicing, working hard and moving forward towards my dreams. I hope we can work side by side and cheer together as we move forward.