The child is small and doesn't understand whether some words are negative or positive, and saying the opposite may lead to ambivalence, which is not conducive to the child's ability to make correct judgments. It is not easy to communicate between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if in the case of persuasion is not fruitful let the child's father to step in, of course, the tone must be euphemistic, can not give her a kind of everything to listen to the daughter-in-law's feeling, the best reasoning, so it will be more persuasive.
In fact, the old man on all kinds of problems is our generation of parents can not stand, then how to do it? Communication, more coaxing the elderly, as long as they get along well communication will be relatively easy, even if there is a contradiction can be laughed off. I'm angry with my mother-in-law turned to forget, never to the heart, because the middle of the sandwich a husband, do not want to make it difficult for him, the family and to be able to prosper.
It's too hard to get the elderly to change, so old, even if they know it's a bad habit, want to change it is not an overnight thing. So the only way to change is to change ourselves.
When the child is small, or try to live with parents, you can properly reduce the contact time with the elderly, so that the child will be less affected, and, every time you go to the elderly home to visit the elderly, the elderly are still intoxicated by the joy of seeing the child, it is too late to say those words you do not like.
And then, once the old man said the opposite, parents should not ignore, hurry to explain to the child, the old man said the correct meaning of this word, although the child is confused, but, better than let him believe these words.
The most direct and effective way I think is to let the child with the old man together less, and that is with the old man politely put forward, so that talk, small children can not understand, will form the wrong concept, grandma this side of the father to say, grandma side of the mother to say, both sides of the old man will be more easy to accept, the child with the parents together, but also with the baby to tell the grandparents grandma grandpa like this! is to tease you, is to love you, but next time in this way, you can tell the elders, this is not right, I want to learn the correct way of expression.