The Chinese New Year has come and gone, you in love at this time to see each other's parents, right? When it comes to meeting parents, many girls are very nervous inside, how to make their first meeting with the future in-laws can chatter a high score?
1, the selection of gifts
The first time to meet the parents is certainly to carefully select the gift, but many girls in the selection of gifts, they do not know how to choose, here Mr. Fong Yan to give you a brief description of the gift selection ideas.
1) Specialties
If the parents of the man and woman's hometowns are not together, then you can bring the man's parents some specialties from the woman's home, which are relatively cost-effective and sincere.
2) health care products
If the other parent is older, we can buy some calcium, blood, bone and other health care products; more expensive gifts to buy some bird's nest, Cordyceps, etc., but this should be first to understand each other's parents' physical condition, and then buy.
Of course, you also have to look at each other's family environment, more than each other's family environment, then it will be a little less good.
3) Tobacco, wine and tea
This is considered the most common way of gift giving in China, first of all, to understand each other's parents' preferences. Whether the father smokes, whether the mother let the father smoke. Whether mom and dad like to drink tea, these should also be discussed in advance two people.
In general, tea and wine are better choices. Of course here must be negotiated between the two sides oh.
4) hobbies
If the other parent has retired, it may be that the father is more idle like to go fishing, then send a set of fishing gear, the mother likes to dance, you can send dance shoes.
These gifts must be discussed with your partner in advance, after all, he knows his parents' preferences better than you do.
2, pre-preparation
In the eyes of most couples, once you meet the parents also means that the relationship is basically even settled. Two people are running to the purpose of marriage, so people will be very important to meet the parents.
We take the girl who meets her parents for the first time as an example, the first step is to make sure that you actively learn from your partner about your family and local customs, which vary from region to region in China.
For example: some places want to meet before the 30th day of the New Year, and some places want to meet after the third day of the New Year.
The second step is to find out about the family's relatives and who you might meet. Also determine your persona and tell your partner to briefly talk to your parents in advance.
For example, the girl is a more introverted and pretty girl who is very attentive; or the girl is a more cheerful girl who is very caring and so on. If you are a good matchmaker, you will be able to get the best out of the situation and you will be able to get the best out of the situation," he said.
3, meet the process of preparation
Gifts ready, the next is to meet. This time you have to think back to the beginning of your parents in front of the other side to establish down the persona, if not, do their own is the best.
The first step is our clothes.
In clothing in line with the premise of the persona, solemn and decent with their own persona in line with the most important, if you usually dress more personalized, then this time it is recommended that you try to converge some. Some strange headdresses, or accessories as far as possible, do not wear.
For example, I had a visitor who wore a hanbok when she met her parents for the first time. And she spent a long time wearing a vintage hairstyle.
He was very attentive and the boy thought it was nice. But the parents were very surprised when they saw it, and later feedback from the boys said that the parents could understand but still found it a bit unacceptable.
So what kind of dress will be more points?
First of all, the solemnity and their own age.
Secondly, the color of the clothes should not be too bright, relatively versatile and stable is a better choice.
Third, headdresses and hand jewelry should not be too flashy. With their own skin color and figure, decent and proper is better.
The second step is that we meet the etiquette and get along with the details, etiquette above believe that every girl can do very well, this point do not worry, the key is to get along with the details.
1) not pampered
First meeting in front of each other's parents do not pampered, do not show their own petite appearance, of course, after getting along is to learn to pampered. Later articles I am talking about how to transition.
2) boast partner
and parents chat together, parents will certainly ask you a lot of personal news. Don't be annoyed, we need to answer truthfully. Also compliment your partner from time to time and don't say anything about your quarrels.
Of course, this compliment must not be excessive, too much is counterproductive.
For example, if a guy is lazy and doesn't do much housework, don't say that he's a hard worker at home and does everything. After all, they know boys better than you do. What you need to say is, "He's tired at work, so I understand if he's lazy at home, but he does help me with the housework sometimes.
If the parents said a lot of his shortcomings in front of you, and these shortcomings are objective, then you do not refute. For the parents words simply cater to "haha, seems to be really it, but auntie do not worry, he is much better now, I believe he will get better and better".
This kind of chat will make your parents feel more at ease with your relationship.
3) Have an eye
When you see your parents cleaning up at home, you should take the initiative to ask your aunt and uncle if they need any help.
Of course, you will usually say no, this time you have to do some of the things you can do, so that others feel that you are a very understanding child.
4) Know the rules
In many places, there are family dinners on New Year's Eve. Then as a girlfriend, it is inevitable that you have to attend such occasions. This time is the best time to reflect the qualities of your wife and mother, do not be constrained, sit quietly and do not speak.
Of course, do not be crazy as completely as their own home field, this time to remember two points: 1, everything and boys to discuss; 2, do not give a definite answer.
For example, some relatives will ask, "When are you going to get married ah."
You answer, "That depends on whether the aunt and uncle are satisfied."
The other party said, "We are all satisfied."
You replied, "Ming, you heard me, you have to prepare for the marriage proposal."
4, after the meeting arrangements
After this meeting, basically you will add the boy's parents WeChat and contact information, then when the first day after the holiday home, must remember to report a peace. After that, you should also keep in touch with your aunt and uncle from time to time.
This follow-up contact is actually more important, never be embarrassed. Many girls say they don't know what to say and feel embarrassed to speak directly to their uncles and aunts.
Don't panic, in terms of content, share the two of you together a little bit, is a very good topic ah.
For example, take a selfie of you shopping together, a video of you eating together, the first time a guy cooks, a guy working hard overtime, and so on.
The central idea is to convey to them that your lives are rich and sweet. Their son is well taken care of and loves you at the same time.
These follow-ups will be a plus for you in dealing with your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the future.