lit. proper behavior is based on reciprocity

? I'm sure we've all heard the phrase "ten years to see the mother-in-law, ten years to see the daughter-in-law"! As a 90-year-old daughter-in-law, I am very realistic, will not be "I will love you as my own daughter to love" such sugar-coated shells, I know that is not possible. How I treat my mother-in-law depends on how she treats me. I can't do "pay back the favor". I'm trying to be a good wife, a good mom, a good daughter-in-law, and if my mother-in-law wants to make things worse, I'm sorry, but I can't be a ninja.

? The mother-in-law to help bring up the baby, take care of the daughter-in-law monthly, to a certain extent, is to help their own son. If the mother-in-law can realize this, to set their own position in the family, do not interfere between the son and daughter-in-law, I believe that the family will be a lot more harmonious, the family should be in their own way. We are all women. Why should women make things difficult for women? To make things difficult for the daughter-in-law is to make things difficult for the son, and the daughter-in-law spends her days in this house, so will the mother-in-law's old age be comfortable? I can't do it after being hurt by others and still laugh it off, I will only return the favor, in its own way.

? Under the condition of mutual respect, I am a very polite person, if one day I am rude, please look in the mirror first! As the saying goes, "put your heart in the right place"!

? Moreover, now the elderly living environment, living conditions are excellent, where every day there is a group of friends accompanied, we listen to the opera, dancing, playing cards, this is also quite colorful life in old age. So how can you say that going to the home is suffering?