(A) intermittent attachment relationship
Intermittent relationships are random and unstable. For example, in childhood, when a child cries, the father can make an appropriate response to make the child feel love, care and safety. Regrettably, several times later, when the child felt scared, depressed or excited, the father did not respond positively. This changeable parenting style makes children afraid and feel that the world around them is not safe. Father's inconsistent and capricious treatment of children has obvious influence on them. First of all, this type of child is easy to be wary of others. They have their own ideas, but they are unwilling to share their feelings or the joy of success with others. Secondly, this type of children's personality is in an extreme state, sometimes lively and cheerful, and sometimes unhappy. Finally, this type of children tend to have a negative attitude towards everything in the world.
(B) Avoidant attachment relationship
In the avoidant attachment relationship, there is less emotional communication between father and son, and less intimate actions such as hugging. Adult children will describe their father with words such as indifference and inability to express love. Of course, this type of father loves children, but they are ashamed to express their feelings for their children. Therefore, many of their children have become accustomed to facing the ups and downs of life alone without sharing their feelings and thoughts with others. The specific manifestations are as follows: First, the children of such fathers will keep their distance from others in the workplace when they grow up. Second, in the emotional atmosphere such as the workplace, children are usually regarded as loners, hermits or outsiders. This kind of father-son attachment is the most common in traditional families in China.
(3) Depressive attachment relationship
In the repressed attachment relationship, the father and the child lack interest in communication, and the child does not understand that the father's unhappiness is not caused by himself. In this way, children's self-esteem is easily hurt, either trying to make up for themselves through actions, or hiding themselves because they feel that everything they do is not worthy of attention. When children with this attachment grow up, they will satisfy their emotional needs by pursuing salary increase and promotion at work, not through interpersonal relationships. They are not confident and decisive, often can't find their own values, and it is difficult to choose, which has become a stumbling block to their career development.
Safe attachment relationship
Security attachment is the most ideal type of parent-child relationship. Its remarkable feature is that fathers can always give their children love and support. Emotionally, fathers can pay attention to children's needs, and children believe that their fathers trust themselves and get enough trust and security from their fathers, which lays a solid foundation for children's personality development, cognitive development and social interaction.