However, for children's marriage, if the mother-in-law intervenes, it will not only help solve the contradiction, but also add fuel to the fire and cause greater contradictions.
There was a "mother-child dismemberment case" in Shenzhen, which was a tragedy caused by a quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The contradiction between flash marriage of female engineers and married mother-in-law escalated.
The husband not only does not mediate, but also helps the mother bully her daughter-in-law. Finally, the wife lost her mind and killed and dismembered her mother-in-law and husband in a rage.
How did all this happen? What is the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
2013 on may 2 1 day, a woman named pan yanfen walked into the Baoan district police station in Shenzhen. Pan Yanfen came to report that her husband and mother-in-law had been missing for several days.
The investigator looked at the petite figure in front of him and the woman's appearance, and his heart moved in a flash. It's really pitiful for a weak woman to encounter such a thing.
After patient inquiry, the investigator learned that Pan's husband was an engineer, Xu Sheng. Her mother-in-law, Chen Xiuhua, is an old woman from rural Hunan who has just arrived in Shenzhen.
My mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had a quarrel because of different living habits. The husband heard the voice and has been protecting his mother. The couple also had a big fight. Husband and mother-in-law left together and never came home.
Pan Yanfen felt guilty and said, "Actually, it's all my fault. I shouldn't quarrel with that old man. Maybe they are angry and go back to their hometown in Hunan. "
On the surface, family conflicts led to running away from home, but the investigators felt that something was wrong.
In the face of the disappearance of her family, a weak woman was so calm, made up beautifully when reporting the case, and even talked and laughed with the police. This is really a bit abnormal.
In the afternoon, the investigators came to Pan's apartment and looked inside the room, but found nothing unusual.
Subsequently, the investigators transferred the community monitoring and found that only the husband and mother-in-law were at home, but they did not take pictures of them leaving home.
In this case, the disappearance is definitely not simple, and the two missing people may have been killed.
To this end, the investigators came to Pan Yanfen's home again and conducted a thorough search. When the police opened the refrigerator, they found two skinned heads.
"What is this?" The police officer asked Pan. Even a three-year-old child can see that it is a human head, but Pan Yanfen insists, "This is the chicken I just bought."
Finally, under the constant questioning of the case handlers, Pan Yanfen admitted the bodies of her mother-in-law and her husband. How can a weak woman kill two people? Why is she so heartless?
Pan Yanfen, 1976, from Qingyuan, Guangdong. After graduating from college, Wendy Pan came to Shenzhen, first as a clerk, and later as a sales engineer in a technology company.
Although the work is smooth and the salary is high, Pan Yanfen has been worried that she can't find a suitable boyfriend. She is 30 years old and still single.
In 2006, under the introduction of a friend, Pan Yanfen met Xu Sheng, an engineer of a company. Xu Sheng comes from rural Hunan. With my own efforts, I worked as a technical director in a company and successfully settled in Shenzhen. He is a standard Phoenix man.
Pan Yanfen is 30 years old this year. Seeing that all the sisters around her are married and have children, she also has a feeling of "hating marriage". Although Xu Sheng has a successful career, she has never been married. In addition, he is several years older than Pan Yanfen, and his mother at home can't wait to have grandchildren.
Two unmarried old men and women, so together. In less than half a year, they got married in a hurry.
Although it was a flash marriage, the relationship between the two has been very good since the marriage, and everything changed slowly until the daughter was born. In 2009, Pan gave birth to a daughter, which disappointed Xu Sheng because he wanted a son more.
After all, she is her own daughter and Xu Sheng loves this child very much. But when her daughter was only six months old, she was diagnosed with congenital heart disease.
In order to take care of her daughter, Pan Yanfen quit her job. Xu Sheng was hit by this and began to ignore her daughter on the pretext of being busy with work. Before the operation, it was Pan Yanfen who took the child to the hospital for examination.
Pan Yanfen was exhausted by her daughter's illness, and her husband only had a job, which also made her feel sad and wronged.
During this period, Pan Yanfen's father was very ill and came to Shenzhen for surgery. Xu Sheng left two patients to his wife to return home alone, because grandma was 90 years old.
Pan Yanfen expressed dissatisfaction and hoped that her husband would not go back to help her take care of her father and daughter. However, Xu Sheng thought that if he didn't go back to his hometown, he would be called "inhuman" by his relatives and eventually returned to Hunan.
After this incident, the relationship between husband and wife began to deteriorate. It was not until the arrival of her mother-in-law that this marriage was completely pushed to the abyss.
After Xu's father died on 20 13, her mother-in-law moved from Hunan to Shenzhen, and her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began to live together.
Chen Xiuhua is an ordinary rural woman who prefers boys to girls. Since coming to Shenzhen, she has been urging her daughter-in-law Pan Yanfen to have a son.
But her daughter is ill and needs to be taken care of. How can Pan Yanfen have the energy to raise another child? So she is not always worried about having a second child.
Not only does her mother-in-law complain about this, but her husband Xu Sheng also complains. I thought my mother-in-law was here and could take care of the children. But it backfired because her granddaughter was ill and Chen Xiuhua didn't want to take care of her granddaughter.
Every time the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel about it, Chen Xiuhua's mother-in-law will say, "You gave birth to a healthy child. Can I help you with it? "
On one occasion, Xu Sheng got stomach trouble and lay on the sofa groaning miserably. And Pan Yanfen and her husband have no feelings. Seeing this, they didn't care too much and have been doing their own thing.
When Chen Xiuhua saw that her son was unwell, but his daughter-in-law ignored him, she immediately became angry. She scolded her daughter-in-law and slandered her, saying, "You are not from outside, so you don't care about your man. It' s really heartless. " .
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is gradually full of resentment and hatred.
2013 May 18, Chen Xiuhua and his son were chatting on the balcony, and there was a song of square dance outside the window. The 4-year-old daughter heard the sound and danced excitedly, so she asked her grandmother to dance with her.
Pan Yanfen followed her daughter to the balcony. Her daughter's feet were unstable and she threw herself on her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law turned around and immediately asked Pan Yanfen, "Why are you so cruel and let the children hit me?"
Pan Yanfen explained quickly and kept saying "I didn't". But her mother-in-law Chen Xiuhua still refused to let go. She picked up a broom and fucked Pan Yanfen.
Pan Yanfen couldn't escape and was beaten several times. Just when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were entangled, her husband Xu Sheng also joined the "battle". He has always been partial to his mother and asked his wife why she let her children beat her grandmother.
Under the quarrel between mother and son, Pan Yanfen was defeated, and her stomach was full of depression and there was nowhere to vent.
At 6:5438+0 1 in the afternoon, Pan felt physical pain. She found several bruises in the shower. The pain in her body, coupled with the psychological depression in the past, finally made Pan Yanfen collapse, and she was completely crazy.
After taking a shower, Pan Yanfen picked up the pressure cooker from the kitchen and slammed it on her husband's head when he wasn't looking. After hitting him several times, Xu Sheng lay on the ground and cried in pain: "Why are you doing this?"
Pan Yanfen said while hitting: "I didn't let the child hit your mother, you don't believe it." My life is boring. Let's die together. If I crush you, I'll jump off a building. "
Mother-in-law went out to check when she heard the sound. Pan immediately rushed forward and knocked it to the ground. Finally, Pan killed her mother-in-law and her husband.
After the murder, Pan Yanfen tried her best to drag the body to the bathroom. Afraid of children seeing, she also prepared a urinal for her daughter to prevent her from going to the toilet.
In the next few days, Pan Shiwen began to dismember the body, boiled the large body in a pot, removed the blood and water, and then threw it into the wild with black garbage bags.
Shredded bodies and small pieces of internal organs were thrown into the toilet and then washed down the sewer. Because both ends are too big to carry at the moment, just put them in the refrigerator.
After the death of her mother-in-law and her husband, relatives and friends could not be contacted, so she called Pan several times to ask about the situation. Pan Yanfen said that every time they ran away from home, she didn't know where they went.
Finally, Pan Yanfen decided to turn around and simply report the case before stabilizing the relationship between relatives and friends. Unexpectedly, the murder case was finally exposed. After trial, Pan was sentenced to death and his daughter was raised by relatives.
It is precisely because of family conflicts that such a tragedy is caused, which deserves our deep consideration. When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict, if the husband is not always on the mother's side, the wife can't fall into despair.
If the marriage is not sustainable, you can choose to divorce. Why do you want to solve the problem by extreme means? It will not only ruin yourself, but also make relatives and friends miserable, and the price is unbearable.