Nowadays, many children have no motivation to learn. A very important reason is that children don't understand what learning is for, especially middle school students and college students.
If primary school students can also rely on their curiosity about knowledge as their motivation, then most middle school students should have begun to think about why they should study. It is difficult for a person to be motivated when he doesn't understand the purpose of doing something. Without motivation, his enthusiasm will naturally be affected.
Second, put too much pressure on children.
Learning is a happy thing. I believe that everyone will experience happiness when learning new knowledge and mastering new skills. This should be human nature, because everyone likes to have fun.
But in real life, when children can't experience happiness from learning, but feel more pain, children will naturally hate learning.
Zeng Qifeng, a famous psychologist in China, said that if you want your child to learn badly, you should talk about the importance of learning in front of him all day. The more you talk, the worse your child will learn.
If parents put too much pressure on their children's study, it will be difficult for them to appreciate the joy of learning and their enthusiasm for learning will be affected.
Third, don't give children time to play.
Many parents believe in the story of not losing at the starting line in the process of educating their children, and have reported various extracurricular cram schools to their children since kindergarten. This practice will definitely make their children lose interest in learning early, and their future study will definitely be bad.
Children's main activity in childhood is games, and games themselves are a kind of learning. Many parents don't realize this, thinking that only learning in books is learning, which is a great mistake.
Therefore, when children are young, we must ensure that children have enough time to play every day, even in primary schools, so that children have time to play every day.
If parents spend all their children's time studying, then children will definitely not like studying.
Fourth, pay too much attention to academic performance.
Many parents only pay attention to scores in their children's learning process, and always judge their children's learning situation by scores. Laugh when children get good grades, praise and reward them, and don't give a bad look once they get bad grades.
This practice will make children pay too much attention to scores and cause invisible psychological pressure to children. Under such psychological pressure, children will be tired of learning for a long time.
As parents, we must treat grades correctly. Although the score can reflect the learning situation, it often has certain contingency, so it is normal for the test scores to fluctuate.
When a child does not do well in the exam, his heart is uncomfortable. At this time, parents need comfort and encouragement more than criticism.
The knowledge of the lower grades of primary school is very limited. Even if the child didn't master it well at that time, as the child grows older and his brain matures, he will soon master this knowledge. Therefore, the important task at this stage is to protect children's interest in learning and should not be dampened by paying too much attention to the results of learning.
In primary school, protecting children's interest in learning and developing good study habits are more important than academic performance. As long as children have good study habits, don't care too much about grades.
Boys, in particular, develop later than girls in all aspects, and it is normal for them to temporarily lag behind in their academic performance. Parents should treat it with a normal heart.
Compare your own children with others' children.
Many parents like to compare other people's children with their own, and always treat other people's children better than their own. This practice will seriously hurt children's self-esteem and self-confidence, thus making them lose their motivation and interest in learning.
Every child's talent and learning ability are still different. Not all children can have very good academic performance. Don't always compare your children with other people's children.
Smart parents will let their children compare themselves with themselves. As long as children make progress, they will praise and encourage them, let them feel the happiness brought by progress and establish good self-confidence.
Six, too much homework
Some teachers like to give children a lot of repetitive homework, such as writing a new word many times, writing an English word many times, doing the same type of math problems many times, and some teachers like to assign punitive homework. Some parents have to do their own homework after their children finish the homework assigned by the school, which will seriously hit their children's enthusiasm for learning.
In the lower grades of primary school, it is understandable to assign repetitive homework, because there is very little to learn every day, and the necessary repetition will also help children master what they have learned. However, if you repeat too much and the homework task is too heavy, it will take up a lot of children's play time, which will inevitably make children feel bored and lose interest in learning.
Seven, parents can't play the role of role models.
Every parent wants their children to enjoy learning, but many parents themselves have never played the role of role models, leading a lazy life, working passively, complaining all day and not striving for progress. Parents' attitude towards life and work will seriously affect their children's learning attitude.
Every parent wants his children to like reading, but they never read. Many families don't even have extracurricular books at all. How can children like reading in such a family environment?
Many parents are strict with their children in their studies, but they let themselves go. In their spare time, they either play mobile phones, watch TV, go out to eat and play cards, and some even play mahjong at home. How can children like studying in such a family environment?
Parents are role models for children to learn. When children were young, many words and deeds were imitated by parents. Therefore, if your child likes learning, parents should first set an example.
Eight, bad family atmosphere
Bad family atmosphere mainly refers to the tension and depression of family relations caused by disharmony among family members, which will exist in many families.
Family is the spiritual harbor for children to grow up. A good family atmosphere will make children feel the care of their parents after returning to China, and the pressure and negative emotions in the learning process will be well released.
But in some families, the relationship between husband and wife is tense, the parent-child relationship is not harmonious, and the family atmosphere is not good. Not only can children's negative emotions in their studies not be released well, but they also worry about their parents' affairs. In this state of mind, it is impossible for children to study at school with peace of mind.
Nine, can't see the advantages of children.
Many of our parents always wear a pair of critical eyes and can always find all kinds of shortcomings in their children. If you let him talk about the child's shortcomings, he can talk for a long time. But if you ask him to say something good about the child, he may not say a few for a long time.
Everyone has shortcomings, and it is normal to have shortcomings, especially your children, because you know him too well and it is easy to find his problems. Why do we always think other people's children are good? The point is that other people's children don't live in our house.
Everyone must have advantages. As parents, we should see the advantages of children, affirm children, see their progress, and make them better and better.
Many parents are never satisfied with their children's grades, especially in primary schools, where they scored 70 points, 80 points, 80 points, 90 points 100 points. This practice makes the child feel that no matter how hard he tries, he can't satisfy his parents. His parents can't see what he has done, and it is easy for children to lose confidence and motivation in learning.
Ten, educate children in the wrong way.
In the process of a child's growth, the laws of psychological development at different ages are different, and most of our parents simply don't know this knowledge.
In the process of children's education, children are often educated according to the experience of the previous generation or the educational methods of people around them, but many of these methods are unscientific, and some even seriously violate the scientific laws.
Rousseau once said that the wrong education method is farther away from wisdom than no education. How can a child who is wrongly educated like learning?
Educating children requires continuous learning, and the old methods and experiences in the past have fallen behind the times. This requires our parents to know some scientific knowledge about children's education and educate their children in a scientific way. Only in this way can your children get a good education.
According to psychological research, more than 80% of children have normal intelligence, but why do most children have poor academic performance? The key point is that many children lost their interest in learning very early because they didn't get a good education the day after tomorrow. Without interest in learning, it is almost impossible to get good grades.
There is no child who is born with a dislike of learning. Children don't like learning, which is mostly caused by the day after tomorrow. Many responsibilities are on parents. Therefore, if children want to love learning, parents should try to avoid making the mistakes listed above.