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The child is afraid of being born, forcing the child to take the initiative to say hello, may do more harm than good, so that the child is more evasive
The child was just born for a period of time, it may be how to look at how to like, but as the child grows up, not only has it become mischievous, but also will only be harboring, at home, the feeling of lawlessness, but when it comes outside It is not possible to let go, timid, not generous, and when you see strangers, you will be afraid to cower. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
01 case
Baby mother Yang, since the baby, alone with baby, do a full-time mother, in the New Year's time, with the baby 1 year old back home, the baby is very pleasing to the eye, not only the grandparents can hold, even around the neighbors can hold a little bit of, the little guy does not cry, every day, but also grandpa called and called, very pleasing to the eye.
But now more than 2 years old, not only began to misbehave, but to the outside, see strangers, became very timid, straight to the mother of the small Yang hide behind, even if you see the grandparents do not see much, but also so, feel very afraid of life, so that the child called the grandparents, how to also refused to call, which makes the mother of the small Yang tangled. I don't know how the little guy, who used to be very generous, has become so timid and ungenerous nowadays. I'm afraid that if the child continues, he or she will become introverted and will not socialize well with others, which is not a good thing when he or she is born into society.
In fact, the worry of the mother is not unreasonable, but the mother does not understand, in the process of the baby's growth, are going through such a stage. The baby in the birth of a period of time, is not very recognizable, what people, can be hugged, no matter what see people will smile.
However, as the baby grows older, the baby will enter the stage of recognition, unfamiliar with the people who do not often see, produce a sense of strangeness, fear and resistance to the heart. This is actually the normal performance of the baby's brain development, the beginning of the baby for the surrounding people or things, can not be distinguished and accurate judgment, therefore, on who feel more friendly, will not resist.
With the baby's continuous growth, the baby will be able to distinguish, and remember, often appear in their own side of the people or things, and for those who do not often see the people or things, resistance to psychology. Thus, it also appears, even if their grandparents, not often see, the little guy to the recognition period, will still express resistance. This is a normal phenomenon. As the baby grows up, it will slowly ease.
02How should we correctly deal with the baby recognition stage?
It's a good thing that babies are starting to recognize births. Parents need to understand that it's a necessary stage in a baby's growth and development, and it's also a sign of healthy brain development. The parents can not because the child began to recognize the child, the child is considered timid, not generous, not polite, and often criticized the child, or forced to force the child to take the initiative to greet strangers, which will hurt the child's young heart. The fact is that the company's products and services have been widely recognized as the best in the world, and the company's products and services have been widely recognized as the best in the world.
While we hope that children can be more generous, can have a better grasp of social skills, but the realization of the child to take the initiative to socialize the way, is not the only way to force the child to take the initiative to do, it is best to make use of some of the euphemistic way, to alleviate the baby's recognition of the problem.
For example, parents can encourage the child, introduce the child to some of the identity of the other side of the introduction of the other side of the information, let the child access to their own interest in the information, so that the child put down their defenses and wariness, and slowly let the child to accept to adapt to the initiative to communicate.
Additionally, in the face of a child's birth, we can praise the child, not blame the child, and say more about the child's merits. For example, say the child is usually quite generous and polite, today may be uncomfortable, so. This will make the child relax and take the initiative to greet the other person.
If you want your child to be able to communicate more generously with others and not be afraid of being born, then you also need your parents to spend more time with your child and communicate with him/her more; take your child out to play with strangers more often, so that he/she can play with more children; or take your child to a party to participate in a group activity such as dancing with your child in a square dance. This is also a good way to show your child how to behave in a crowded place, so that he or she will be able to let go slowly.
03Say a word of caution:
The child is himself, if he can not understand the child, then no one can understand the child. Especially when the child is small, the parents are the child's greatest dependence, if the parents do not believe in themselves, do not care about themselves, but think that the child is afraid of life, is timid, impolite feel that the child lost their face, and reproach words.
Then the child will be the most sad, saddest person, therefore, in the child's most need of parents, parents but only focus on their own face, and ignored the baby's emotions. Therefore, when the baby recognizes the birth, please don't force the child to take the initiative to greet, but should understand the child, encourage the child more, in a euphemistic way, to encourage the child to socialize, and to find out the reason from their own side, on weekdays, whether they have to help the child to get rid of the stage of recognizing the birth, if not, then change it properly, instead of being harsh on the child.
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