It has to be said that this is a song of superior quality, both words and music, are all heart work. It's especially rare in the music industry, which has been flooded with internet "sacred songs" in recent years. Like everyone else, I appreciate, I admire, I admire the author's writing skills and musical talent, but I do not like this song, I do not like the filial piety it conveys, that kind of filial piety in my eyes shameless view.
Why shameless? You don't realize that this song is full of grievances, full of resentment, between the lines of this song? It seems that in the eyes of the parents, the birth of a child to raise this matter, a waste of their precious life, exhausted their good years, as if the birth of a child to raise their children is not their share of the work, but the task imposed on them by outsiders. Listen to them, they are "getting old before they can feel young", they are "left with wrinkles in the twinkling of an eye", in a word, they are very aggrieved, aggrieved on their own behalf. From this point of view, I say, this song listen to just, can not study, a study will find that it where the heartfelt, full of complaints is more or less.
I don't know, those who grew up in the city since childhood, how their parents, their parents are how to instill filial piety to them, I only know, in our rural areas, but where children do not listen, parents like to move out of the sentence is - I have a handful of shit a handful of urine to bring you up, you are now great! You want to go to heaven? Between the words, all the complaints. Listen to that tone, as parents, it seems that "a handful of shit, a handful of urine" to raise children, standing on the high leadership seat, waiting for the toast to the smoke and wine, or standing on the glorious awards platform, waiting for the drums and drums for them to wear a big red flower, and then awarded a what "Best Parents Award! The best parent award" or something like that. In their concept, there is an unbreakable truth, that is - I gave birth to you, raised you, you have to look up to me, I am the old man, you are the boy, you have to obey me.
In China, how long will it take for parents to realize that having children is the right thing to do? The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what is going on in your life, and that you have a good understanding of what is going on in your life. Besides, he is the life you created, you know, before that, he did not exist, you took the initiative to bring him into this world, should not be raised? Even if you have a watchdog, you have to feed it, not to mention your child, your blood, your flesh. As parents, you must be clear that having children is a normal thing, not a noble thing, not to mention a thing to show off.
Perhaps this has something to do with our traditional culture. China has always emphasized the importance of filial piety, and all kinds of poems and allusions, such as "Meng's mother's three migrations" and "who said inch grass heart, to get three spring sunshine", have been passed down from generation to generation. When we were young, so young that we did not understand the meaning of "greatness", we began to write "my father", "my mother" such as the proposition of the essay, and then in the essay, the sky is full of praises "great father's love" "Great Mother's Love". This is how our textbooks are written and how our teachers teach. It seems that if you don't do this, the children will grow up to kill their mothers and fathers, and will be reduced to the same as the wolf hearted, vicious and rebellious son.
Not to say that we can not promote filial piety, filial piety, of course, to promote, just to change the method. The first thing I want to do is to change the way I think about the world, and the way I think about it. The first thing you need to do is to change the relationship between parents and their children. Don't look down on your child anymore, squat down, look at him, be his friend, put your heart on the table and talk to your friend. Do not move to put filial piety on the stage, do not move to mention "pay" to mention "repayment", do not move to mention the ear, you are parent-child relationship, there is no debt relationship, this reason you do not understand? You gave birth to your child, you cared for him, you sincerely listen to his heart, to return the favor, he will naturally miss you. Let filial piety become natural, become silent, not good?
Back to the song, the reason why it is full of grief, in the final analysis, because the Chinese parents do not have their own life, a lifetime of living in the child. As long as this deformed parent-child relationship is not improved, the selfish, foolish, and shameless view of filial piety will be passed down from one generation to the next. Look around, how many parents to raise children as a lifelong career, as if the child worked, married, gave birth to a baby, his life is over, the rest of the day, but step by step towards death. In fact, the child has a child's life, they can not be with you every day, in the long run, how can not grieve? Every time I see online reports of the so-called "lonely life of empty nesters", I am not even in my heart, it seems that all the blame is on the children, you can not find something to do for yourself? Can't you find something to do for yourself? Can't you cultivate some interests? Not to mention elegant such as painting, calligraphy, even if you go to a square dance and play mahjong, that is also a kind of entertainment ah. You have to know that the reason why the empty nest is empty is not that the birds have flown, not that the children have left, but that your heart is empty and you have no spiritual life. A good end of a person, just the body in the living, the heart has become an empty shell, can not empty?
Where did the time go? The first thing you need to do is to get to a place where you can see what's going on in your life. Don't deny that you have children every day, children have brought you joy, unexpected joy, the kind of watching a new life gradually growing process, itself is a kind of reward. Parents, instead of lamenting where the time has gone, think about where life has gone, find yourself, go to your own life. When one day, you realize that parents are parents, children are children, each independent and inseparable, there is no need to talk about filial piety.
Yes, may filial piety no longer become filial piety, may filial piety no longer become a topic.