Mother-in-law to help bring up the child is a very normal thing, give mother-in-law with children money is also should, but I this mother-in-law with children looking for me to ask for money, I should not give.
When the child was six months old, my mother-in-law came here to see the doctor, so she lived with me, and my mom took care of the child, and at first there was no problem, but then there was a lot of friction because of the child.
The baby has always been with my mom, and every morning she would get up and take a bath, and after the bath she would breastfeed the baby, and then she would put the baby in the stroller and take it to the grocery store, and the baby would fall asleep on the way. The mom would do all the work during the two hours she was asleep, and when the baby woke up, she would carry the baby downstairs with water, and then come up to feed the baby when it was time to eat.
The baby will fall asleep after drinking milk and coaxing, and then the mom will make her own meal and rest and relax after eating. The baby woke up in the afternoon, the mother will carry him to the downstairs to go shopping, shopping to the baby to eat milk, go up to breastfeeding, breastfeeding and then carry him down to wait for me to come home from work. It's like that every day, except it doesn't come out in the rain.
The baby loves to eat egg custard, and his mom feeds him two or three spoons a day, not daring to give him more.
Mother-in-law is eager to eat all the baby, left to feed a bite right to feed a bite, my mother saw to stop her, said can not be eaten more, she was good, did not pay attention to my mother, when I came home on the complaint that "the child likes to eat to give him to eat, I fed him how much he ate how much he said that he ate, after the baby can eat anything, do not have to worry about starving him! "
Mother-in-law has always wanted to feed the baby congee, want to quit his milk powder, because of this matter, mother and mother-in-law had a big fight, even usually do not care about these things of the husband are out to persuade the fight.
Presumably because of the mother-in-law's appearance to stir up the life situation, and because of the work, the husband finally could not help but say to the mother-in-law, "You do not take the child you do not speak, help to take with me to thank you, do not want to take do not speak to me to thank you".
Husband's words didn't stop mother-in-law's behavior, her idea is that my mother can't take care of the kids, and bring the kids to be wooden and stinky.
I couldn't help it, I hated my mother-in-law and didn't want to see her, I made a very unwise move, I ran to my husband's company to find my husband and had a big fight, I wanted my husband to send his mother away and accused him of not caring about the family, only company in his eyes, you don't even recognize your own baby, what kind of a father are you.
Husband probably also saved a lot of anger, a time to vent to me, my husband yelled at me "you let the baby to her! You're asking for it if you don't give it to her!"
After my husband came back from the fight, I really felt that this family is too hateful, I don't want to stay in this kind of home for a moment, I want to take the baby back to my mother's home with my mom. But my mom accused me of this behavior and said that I shouldn't go to my husband to lose my temper with his mom.
In the mother-in-law's strong, mom more and more live more aggrieved. Finally I am not so insistent, I do not want to see my mother because I am aggrieved, I agreed to let my mother-in-law to help bring up the child, but about the law, she is only in charge of breastfeeding, the child every four hours to feed the milk, in the middle of the feed water, the daily complementary food by my work before work and after work I get my own, the child can only be brought here, can not be brought to her place to go. My mother-in-law agreed.
I wanted my mom to stay here for a few more days before going home, but she didn't say yes, she said that if she was here, she would surely be spared from mixing up, and that it would be better to do more than less, and wait for me to come back and visit some days later.
My mother-in-law and I said, "If you give the baby food and I find out, I will never let the baby stay with you for a while".
After my mom came home, I was basically at home taking care of the kids. Before I went to work, I settled the baby down and told my mother-in-law that the baby's milk at 8:00 p.m. would be fed at 12:00 p.m. and at 4:00 p.m., and that 180 milliliters of milk would be enough for each meal, and in between, I'd just feed the baby a drink of water. I'll bring it when I get back from work.
The two of us always seemed to be at odds with each other on the days when I was with my mother-in-law, but I had no way of complaining about it. My husband was completely out of the loop and didn't care about what was going on between me and my mother-in-law, so I had to keep my temper down on the job, and I couldn't let my temper get the best of me, so I had to keep the family together and keep the kids on the road. The only way to get rid of the boredom is to hold the baby at night in the square to walk around and see the square dance.
The days passed soon, mother-in-law intentionally or unintentionally revealed to me the need for money. I was completely speechless.
From the time my mother came home, I told her I will give you two thousand dollars a month, and I still can't get over the look on her face when she learned that the two thousand dollars included money for food. She grunted and said she wasn't feeling well enough to buy groceries.
So every day on my way home from work I would buy groceries and bring them home. Of course this money I didn't give her naturally.
I also only have a salary of more than 4,000 yuan. When my mother was at home to help me take care of the children, I only had to spend the children's contributions and home utilities, and basically I was able to save a little bit of money every month. Now that my mother-in-law is helping me, I don't expect to be able to save any money, I just hope it doesn't go beyond my paycheck.
In addition to the child's contribution and daily life, I only have these two thousand dollars left, I was going to give it to my mother-in-law, so that she can take care of things. I didn't expect her to look like this.
While she revealed to me that she needed the money, I pretended not to know what she meant.
Recently, she watched me pretend to be confused, and finally couldn't help but say to me that other people's nannies with children are 4,000 or 5,000, I'm still a grandmother, not a penny, it's not as good as a nanny.
Finally, when I heard that she still wanted to take the child to her place, I just couldn't help myself, I was furious.
"I did not ask you to take my baby, is not your own dead skin to rely on this, you do not come to my days do not know how to live a few good, I do not have the money, even if I have the money I will not ask you to help me with, I do not know what you think, know that people do not want to see you, but also rely on here.