Your mom asks you: why don't you have a boyfriend yet
You say you're just starting out in your job and you need to be stable
You say your studies are important, so you should go to graduate school first
You say your social circle is too small, so you don't have a direction to work towards
You say you're waiting for the right guy
Your mom says hurry up
25 years old
Most of your friends are already settled in relationships
Talking about marriage
Your aunts, uncles, and uncles have been talking about marriage for a while now. p> Most of your friends have settled down in their relationships
Talking about marriage
Your aunts and uncles, all of a sudden, know a group of young talent to be introduced to you
Your mom is also getting anxious, so you don't wait and don't pick
He said that women start to expire when they pass 25
You are starting to think that, otherwise, just anyone will be able to get the right man. You start to think, otherwise, any guy would be just fine, wouldn't he?
A decent, honest man
27 years old
Open the circle of friends, friends and classmates have already begun to bask in the sun
You have met a decent man
The family conditions are good, the appearance is good, the personality is good
Although it is not what you want to be like, but anyway, it's good to get by
The family is good, and the character is good
The family is good.
But no one asked each other, who is the number that can not be deleted from the cell phone
28 years old
You finally want to get married,
The wedding you wore a snow-white wedding gown, you when the scene of the most beautiful girl
In the swaying lights, you remembered that in the imagination, you have been and a person stood in this place.
That man came to you in a straight suit and a neat bow tie, holding flowers.
And to the sound of cheering, sure enough, there was a man walking.
Unfortunately, it's not the imaginary one.
Standing on the altar, the master of ceremonies asked, "Whether poor or rich, healthy or sick, do you want to be together forever?
You said: I do.
The groom said: I do.
Both of them accidentally said it very casually, as if anyone around could give this answer.
In the days that followed, you became a wife.
In the days when you were a teenager, you started to clean the house, learn how to do laundry, cook, and do the dishes.
That said, you haven't even done this for your parents a couple of times.
Age 29
You're pregnant.
You quit your job, which you've been working at, to stay home and raise the baby.
As usual, he leaves early for work and comes home at night.
The family's chores are still yours, and when the pregnancy is hard to bear,
there is no one around.
He accompanied you a few times to the pregnancy test, and then complained that it was a waste of time to wait in line and stopped going. Organize
Sometimes your mother-in-law will come and make you gorge yourself on food, all for the baby.
You're the one who made it through this long October.
On the day of the birth, he came.
You cried and screamed in pain.
He looked up from his cell phone, frowned and said: shout what, which is so painful, others did not shout it.
30 years old
This is the most painful year.
The child woke up once an hour, they said that formula milk is not nutritious,
must insist on breastfeeding, so you followed the hour to feed once,
You were pressed by the mother-in-law on the bed to sit in the month, not allowed to fall to the ground, not allowed to take a bath.
Every day you drink countless kinds of soup, eat a dozen kinds of meat and tonic food, the mother-in-law is afraid of starving his grandson, change the way to give you milk.
At two o'clock in the morning, the child cried again. You get up in a daze.
You don't have much milk, and the baby's hungry sucking hurts you so much that you can't breathe.
It's as if you're not drinking milk, but blood.
When you look back, your husband is not in bed.
From the third day on, he was too noisy for the baby and went to sleep in the guest room.
From that year on, all you think about is not dresses, food, cosmetics, but children, children, children. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new car.
Every day, you are surrounded by the cries of your children.
33 years old
The child has grown a little, you can finally relax.
After three years of bringing up a child never slept a wink. You have never had a good meal. Standing in front of the mirror, you can't even believe that the woman in front of you with the waxy face and withered hair is yourself.
So turn on your cell phone, want to buy something for yourself,
These three years you order on all the baby products, but remembered that they have been three years without work, the savings have been spent almost,
So at night, you told your husband to play me to play some money it.
Your husband was furious when he heard that: how to ask for money again!
I don't give you money every month!
You are also angry, with him the theory, to raise children a thousand dollars a month can do? Ask him if he knows how much a good can of milk costs. The child a month to drink how much milk powder, and how many diapers, you told him that all your own money in the sticker.
Your husband laughed, his eyes were full of contempt and ridicule,
"All this talk is just about money, all day long at home to play, but also to spend so much money." He said
35 years old
The child adapted to kindergarten.
You get a temp job.
Your husband gets a promotion, and everything seems to be going in the right direction.
However, you find a red lipstick on your husband's collar,
and you have a big fight, and you point at your husband and call him shameless.
Your husband says, she's gentle and understanding, what have you got?
In a trance, you remembered that when you first met,
he praised you in the same way
He said you were really gentle and spoke softly.
You can't even argue with people.
You recall yourself from earlier, and suddenly you're in doubt too.
Where is your gentle understanding?
In the end, you made up.
Your parents persuaded, her parents persuaded, your friends persuaded.
They said, the seven-year itch,
he is now the marriage slack, let him to collect heart.
They said, men, there will always be such a point of mind
You have to put up with
They said, other women in the powerful, the wife is also your It's okay.
So you put up with it.
Because there are others who say: the child can not be without a father.
40 years old
It's like you don't even know what's going on, and you're suddenly in the 4-letter word.
At 40, you're really suddenly open to life.
He is very fat, with a little bit of a big belly, eyebrows and eyes retreated from the marriage of the handsome, sleep snoring more and more loud,
But even really collected a little heart, and did not make too much trouble,
But you have not been too concerned about it.
You just do your best to take care of your kids.
45 years old
The child is in junior high school,
and has reached a rebellious stage, the way he talks to his parents has turned into shouting,
he yells: I want to be free, I want to be independent, don't you care about me!
You're carrying a fruit plate and you want to get closer but you don't dare.
You're looking at this beautiful child, and you can't figure it out.
The child I raised from childhood, how did it suddenly become different?
But you don't dare to refute him, you even stopped your husband who wanted to beat up the child
Because this child is your last hope,
Your life is like this,
You don't want your child's life to become such a cycle,
You put all the hope on the child's body,
giving more care and attention,
and you don't want your child's life to turn into such a cycle,
You put all hope on the child's body,
giving more hope and attention. more care and attention,
so your child yells louder.
48 years old
Your child is going to take the entrance exam, you are more nervous than him, every day to prepare her food and drink, for him to worry. Suffer the child's rejection to take care of him.
After the exam, you expect him to fill in a close to home, stable, good to find a job volunteer.
The child "bang" closed the door, filled in thousands of miles away, an interesting, but not so popular profession.
You're furious, but in the end you just let out a sigh and get his bags ready.
50 years old
Your health is slowly deteriorating.
A distant child calls and says he is homesick.
As soon as you hear it, you burst into tears.
But forced to put on the voice of laughter, said, that mom waiting for you to come back.
Then you told the child that the neighbor's dog had a litter, that the girl next door got married, that the house across the street was going to be demolished, and complained about his father's problems, as usual.
Still listening and laughing.
He said, "Okay, mom.
He said: "Okay, Mom. I'll go back and visit when I'm on vacation.
You were so relieved that you hung up the phone.
You saw that your husband was listening to the conversation with his ears open, and when he realized it, he pretended that there was nothing wrong with it and looked away to watch TV.
You're not going to be able to get away with it, but you're going to be able to get away with it, and you're going to be able to get away with it.
He said, "No, I don't think so!
He said, "No, I don't think so!
Then he turned his head and went back to his room
You burst out laughing.
Then you looked at his back, his fat body, his gray hair
and realized that you are old.
55 years old
The child graduated, and it was difficult to find a job.
He drifted away with sorrow, chagrin and bitterness.
Again the call came.
This time, you didn't stop him.
You said, "Son, go and do what you want to do.
You said, "Mom is at home.
You said, "Mom's home. You've got a home when times get tough.
The child was happy and stayed in that place.
Slowly, slowly, slowly you climbed up.
You watch him slowly get on track,
and watch him get better and better.
You're happy.
It's just that he's getting busier and busier, and he can't stop being able to come home more often.
So you sit on the couch with you and your husband, guarding the empty house. Waiting for the kids who come home two or three times a year.
60 years old
The child is also married.
The bride is a beautiful girl.
Snow-white skin, long black hair, and dimples when she smiles.
Very gentle.
Gentle to you, even thought to see their own young time.
She said, "Mom, have some tea.
You took the tea, patted the girl's hand, and handed over a red packet
You hoped he would always be so gentle.
The son and daughter-in-law move out together and have their own home.
The husband is retired and has nothing to do but go out and play cards and chess.
He is also not always home.
All of a sudden, your home is empty and you don't know what to do with yourself.
Looking back at the past 30 years, all you had in your life were your children and your husband.
At the age of 61
you started to follow your neighbors in the neighborhood to square dance.
The large speakers play the music that, as a joke, is laughed at by the young people.
You're still a little unsure where to start,
but soon, you're drawn closer to the crowd.
The lady upstairs says to you, "You're new here, aren't you? It's okay, just move with us.
She has a loud voice and is very enthusiastic about pulling you along.
You followed her a little bit into the team.
You're all women in the neighborhood, all with kids out of the way,
and husbands who are busy on their own.
So you agreed to dance and chat together.
This time you are quite happy, you finally know why so many people like to come to the square to dance,
How do you say that?
They are not dancing, they are lonely.
62 years old
The son's baby is born.
They are both too busy and inexperienced.
In the midst of chaos and hand-wringing, your son dials your number.
He said Mom, help us with the kids.
Your mother-in-law didn't help you much back then.
But today, your son's words still leave you with no way to refuse.
A word that pulls you back to that most painful year.
The difference is that this time you are carefully feeding your child with a bottle.
70 years old
The child's child has grown up too.
You're completely old.
Your hair is gray and you can't dance anymore.
75 years old
You're lying in a hospital bed, surrounded by people.
Everyone is crying.
You were a good daughter, they said, you were a good wife, you were a good mother.
You are a good man.
Your eyes are closed and you're having trouble breathing. You know you're dying.
But you still hear the words. You're a little dazed.
Good daughter? Does that mean you'll just marry someone to give your mom some peace of mind and not nag you?
Good wife? Is that something that you can put up with even when your husband cheats on you?
A good mother? Does it mean that you know that your life is like this, and you put pressure on your children in everything, or that you give up the life you love for the sake of your children?
Is that a good person?
At this point, a lot of things flashed before your eyes.
The white boy on the high school playground, seventeen years old flying skirt, and best friend hand in hand when shopping all over the mall laughing.
Many, many images appeared in this moment, rubbed, mixed together.
Your heart skipped a beat, and your hands and feet went cold.
The wailing around you got louder all of a sudden.
You just have time to think one last question before your consciousness fades:
Would I like to be a good person?
(ii)
You wake up with a start and realize you're back to 23 years old.
Your mom asks you: why don't you have a boyfriend yet?
You say: Hee hee
and then pull the plug on your mom.