The greatest charm of women is, of course, to let men explore you, be curious about you, take you, possess you, doubt you and enjoy some of your gains and losses.
It is a truth that what you can't get is always in turmoil. Let him get you at the same time, but not completely. Only in this way can you make men stop wanting you.
Explore you
"Wow, she is not the same as other girls! It's really different from those enchanting bitches outside! "
1. He has certain life experience, does not listen to others, and has his own values.
Know clearly what you really want most. People of every age and group have different values, and there is no right or wrong value. What we have to do is to analyze which values are suitable for us, helpful and useful to us. How other people's values will affect us in the next few years, and how they are different from our own values, so that we can learn to analyze the trade-offs. Don't be wrapped up in secular ideas and outside ideas, spend your life.
2. Be independent and have the courage to choose your own life, career and love.
You should know that you will encounter risks on the chosen road and you can handle them properly. Life is not perfect, as long as we look back, we will never regret our original decision. Have your own value system, follow your heart and choose the future, don't be influenced by other people's values, and don't go with the flow because of your inner sense of identity and belonging.
They look at problems more rationally, deal with the results they want to achieve with rational thinking, and will not indulge in negative emotions. Negative emotions often don't help, but actions can solve problems.
In the relationship between men and women, they have their own unique temperament. Chatting with such a girl is like a collision of ideas. She will bring you different freshness and singing, show you a completely different world, and you will appreciate her world.
The power of thought will constantly update your cognition and expand your world, and you will always be attracted without being bored and bored.
The law of attraction tells us that in a person's life, you will attract what you care about, care about and focus on. This is the most basic law of the universe.
Because your idea is your attraction. This charm will make people unconsciously want to understand and explore.
Curious about you
Constant exploration has turned you into a book that you can't turn over and read enough.
Your unique feeling makes him more curious and interested. I want to know why you are different from others. Why are you different?
Since we explore, we always want an answer.
Curiosity and attention to you are like a huge aperture, attracting all eyes.
Ask for you
People are like this, as long as they pay, they will return. What reward?
Please pay attention to him, your kindness, and hope that you are a different existence.
Possess you
Men are natural hunters, and they like the prey they catch. If you keep paying attention, men will want to possess it.
In the first stage, "help" appropriately and "trouble" him constantly. Asking for help is a great trick for women to deal with men. That is, using the Franklin effect. "The Franklin effect means that the best way to make others like you is not to help them, but to let them help you.
In the second stage, release goodwill and curve to save the country. Releasing goodwill is a behavioral signal that love women men convey "availability". By sending such a signal, I suggest to the boys that I am interested in you, as long as I "get closer, you can have me."
The third stage, the lust method. 1, let him get used to it. 2. Pick him up, pick him up and run.
In the fourth stage, with the help of external forces, it is loss aversion that creates a "crisis": people's pain in loss is often greater than joy. Step by step, you let the boy walk into the trap of Franklin effect, then get the inertia of path dependence, then step into the trap of cognitive dissonance, and finally wait for him with loss aversion. Do you think he can easily escape from your Wuzhishan? A man's possessiveness will make him want to possess you.
Doubt you
The word "doubt" here needs quotation marks. Why? Doubt is questioning whether you are the person you know. The more you keep interacting, the more possibilities you will find. Therefore, I suspect that I haven't realized the real you, or all-round you.
Many girls complain that boys care less and less about themselves. What can we do to keep love fresh and make men want to stop?
What makes him want to stop and can't see through can arouse people's interest. It's boring to know everything and know it clearly.
Keep it mysterious. Every meeting can bring him mystery and freshness, so that he can find something in you every time, which naturally makes him feel that you are a person worthy of deep friendship, and the attraction between men and women is nothing more than that.
The first mystery is that men want to explore your origin. This unknown and mysterious doubt is fascinating. The mystery of understanding is the emerging fresh interest, which gives a surprise from time to time, and the stimulation of a sugar makes people gradually sink; The mystery of communication is a small interest that you won't get tired of for a long time. This unexpected mood of life can make people feel happy and full of expectations.
Enjoy yourself, but also bring some "be swayed by considerations of gain and loss"
The brief summary here is-don't let him feel too safe (draw the key points)! !
The more you like it, the more suspicious it is. You can't hold it any longer. You didn't give him a sense of security, and then you found surprises. After you begin to enjoy it, you begin to "be swayed by considerations of gain and loss" and become emotionally dependent. We often say that loving someone means giving Ta enough sense of security. But absolute security can make people tired and lazy. Let's recall what is common in love: lovers in love will be heartbroken every time they meet, and love brings them great happiness and satisfaction. They often meet, even at first sight, and they are satisfied.
However, with the increase of the number of dates, the longer the time spent together, the lovers are no longer excited about a date and are no longer deeply moved by each other's efforts, and love becomes less important.
This is the diminishing marginal effect: when we yearn for something, the more emotional input we have, the stronger our emotional experience will be when we first touch it, but it will fade when we touch it for the second time, and even more so when we touch it for the third time ... In this way, the more times we touch it, the more indifferent our emotional experience will become, and the more boring it will become.
In itself, our excitement is getting higher and higher with the marginal effect, and a long-term and stable sense of security will cause human burnout, which is the so-called "comfort makes people perish" human weakness.
The pleasure of being together for two hours every day has been decreasing, and both sides are increasingly ignoring companionship. From two hours to half an hour to a few days, how can we keep our feelings from fading?
Many people fall into a bland and overly safe relationship and feel no passion. This is the easiest time to "desert". If a person can't control it, he will make mistakes in principle, so nothing can be endless, and so can a sense of security. Let's talk about how "insecurity" makes two people go further.
We often say that affection is a game. We don't mean to fight to the death emotionally, but we hope that this love balance will be as balanced as possible. If it is tilted and seriously unbalanced, this relationship will collapse.
We all know that there is no absolute balance, and this balance cannot always be perfect. Within a safe range, you chase after me and let the balance of love flow like a seesaw. This flowing process is a changing love game, so the prerequisite for us to go far in a relationship is to keep balance as much as possible.
In popular vernacular, a benign and long-term intimate relationship is to grope back and forth in "I love me more for a while, and you love me more for a while".
Finally, I want to tell you:
Intimacy is a flowing process. Only when two people constantly push their feelings forward with efforts and gains can they develop a benign but lasting relationship.
Don't tell me why love is so complicated. It's like a war. I'm so tired. This game has never been a life-and-death game, but a win-win game of mutual benefit! So why don't you work hard, why don't you keep a sense of tension and awe about your feelings?
I hope everyone has the ability to love themselves and spare no effort to love others!