The 95-year-old wants to get married, but the 90-year-old is still small.
Yesterday a good long time not contacted after 95 fairies find me chatting, said "I would like to find a boyfriend to get married and have children ah", brain a group of "what" floated past, you want to get married after 95, after 90 I think I'm still small, or a child ah ~ girls! They chat about nothing more than dress, men, gossip, chatting down, I: "What is your standard?" She: "I now want to find an economic foundation and then good to me, of course, height and looks pass" thought, this is the standard girls choose a spouse standard. I think this is the standard criteria for a girl to choose a husband. I: "Then you now have a favorite object?" She: "I'm telling you," she said. She: "I told you that men will look for a little worse than their own, the choice is much to go, women want to find better than their own, no target so it is irritating". Another question in my mind, why wouldn't a man look for someone better than himself? My cousin just made a class jump by marrying a much better wife than himself. Today's social pressure is so great, a father does not struggle, mother does not strive to live after 90 is too difficult, a generation of people rich, the next two generations do not take drugs do not gamble do not make words, the wealth can be accumulated continuation, like an old saying, some will have more, not have to deprive of his original have, this sentence is cruel but the fact that it is also the truth, so I am not the second generation of rich people, unless to make themselves a rich generation I'm not going to choose to have a baby, because I can't give him a good material life. A million to earn 10% is 100,000, and 10,000 to earn 10% is a thousand, the principal of the starting point is not the same, the back of the earnings are not the same. Not to mention that 500,000 becomes 100 easily, 10,000 becomes 100,000 hard. So I think no matter men or women, finding one better than yourself is considered a skill. And nowadays society men and women are under a lot of pressure, men want to get married, the first thought is the house, the gift money, women want to get married, think of the career stagnation due to the birth of a child, the body out of shape all sorts of problems, men and women struggling to make a living in the big city are not easy. She asked me a question: "Zou Li, you have thought of flash marriage" I: "no, flash marriage and my character does not match, I will not do this, because the risk is too high, and I have the ability to resist this risk" she; "Huh?" Me: "although nowadays society marriage and divorce is commonplace, not as radical as before, but marriage is also risky, I have a lawyer friend, took a divorce case, the wife's husband cheated on her, she wants a divorce, the result is that her husband's property is transferred, only liabilities in the name of the property, there is no property, she divorced the money is not divided, but the liabilities" she: "Ah? TV series are not all divorced women's 70%, men's 30% of it, a lot of reports on the divorce is also ah "I:" Yes, that a lot of foreign examples, because Hong Kong or Europe and the United States legal system, the divorce of the male is obliged to give alimony "and China's law does not say that, so there is a love of the male will be given! But you can't sue him for alimony if you don't give it. And it's hard to judge family matters, how do you know how much the man earns a year, and whether the assets have been transferred? And premarital property is not counted, you can only ask for the distribution of property within the marriage, civil involves a lot, and a lot of forensics is more difficult, some are invalid, for example, you send a private detective to install a camera in the home of the mistress of the record of evidence is invalid, and even illegal, but you have installed a camera in your home, you are not at home, your husband and the mistress of the fooling around in your home to shoot is effective can be used as evidence. That's why it's hard to get evidence in a divorce, and it's impossible to get the man to do a clean break, that kind of thing just happens in TV shows. Of course, this also depends on the female IQ, IQ, some paragraph high, in the relationship period of the male voluntarily for her to buy a house, real estate license only her name, but the paragraph is low, may not be like just mentioned, the divorce can not be divided into pennies, but also burdened with debt. so, this era, everything depends on their own, and their ability to take a mismatch with the things sooner or later to be returned. Fairy may feel that I am too realistic, destroyed her fantasy, because she is trying to marry a rich and good for themselves, she also mentioned that a man before driving a Porsche about her dinner, 93 years of men, the Air Force origin, by their own from scratch to set up a company, there are a few hotels, clubs, and a few factories. My gossip heart came "that later you develop how" she said that the man was impatient, drove 2 hours to pick her up, the results of her late for a while, the man scolded her, she asked where to eat, the man asked "in my drive to the 2 hours, you even think about it, it's too much of a waste of my time! "According to my realist ideas, can only say" you with him together will not be happy "is not that I acid, there is a so rich to chase him, but think like this from nothing to have all this, in addition to their own hard work, the essential thing is shrewd, wandering Some gray areas, otherwise penniless he did not do the new economy industry chain, but the traditional construction industry, it is not possible to just a few years jumped so fast, of course, I do not deny that his execution, shrewd and capable. The point is from my friend's point of view, the man is not going to respect her, because their own strength is too big a difference, the man from nothing, in the social experience, I think what she wants, what he looks at him, he knows exactly, so it will always be in a superior attitude with her, know more than 2 months, in addition to eating a few meals, that is, sent a Victoria's Secret Sexy pajamas to her, the beginning is not cherished, do not respect, later what will happen. The good thing is that she is also clear in her mind and has no contact with him anymore. Complained to me a few words why want to find a quality boyfriend so difficult, hahaha, not difficult I would not be single, of course, it may also be because I myself is not good enough, so can not attract good to chase me. So girls do not fantasize too much bully president in love with me, or down-to-earth to improve themselves, when their ability to improve, you deserve to have a better. To return to the main topic, after 90, although I almost ran 3, but really feel that I am still small, can not bear the responsibility of marriage, after all, one person to eat the whole family is not hungry, once married on the 4 old, under a baby, hahaha, the burden of life is not small ah. In 2016 it was my mom's crazy urge to marry, my mom is thinking that her marriage is not happy, married my father, because of late marriage, lost in age. To be honest, my mother is so beautiful, there were many suitors when she was young, 165 height, fair skin, unlike me who inherited my father, dark and tanned, my mother just because she was too picky when she was young a few years down the road, the quality ones are all married, and had no choice but to marry my father through a blind date, my mother is the third in the family, my grandfather's favorite daughter, and also the prettiest of the several sisters, but unfortunately, she married the worst, and married the The poorest one, in my mom's sisters, my family is the poorest. Because my father is lazy, not much ability, but quite a big temper. He always buys lottery tickets and stocks and spends all the money he earns. He tried to get rich overnight through this, but unfortunately, God only takes care of those who work hard, and all the money he invested drifted into the sea and couldn't come back. By the way, in the past few years also learned to play mahjong, my mother earns more than him, the result is that the money is my mother to earn, the work is my mother to do, the gas is still my mother to suffer, he did not work at home, only playing cards, and do not clean up after the game, my mother came back from work and have to clean up for him, I once asked my mother, "Why do not you want to get a divorce? I have the ability to pay the down payment, buy a house for you to live, anyway, Dad did not support you" she said "a divorce at a very old age will not be laughed at? What do people think" I "you care about what others think, divorced, do not have to suffer, do not have to take care of him, they are happy to enjoy themselves, singing, square dancing is quite good, not to mention the last time you do not feel well in the hospital is your brother to take care of you, the doctor said to take a ct examination, he still think it is too expensive, unwilling to, you still expect that in the future you have something to take care of him to take care of you? "But in the end my mom is still reluctant, probably like buying a stock, was set for decades, now stop loss is not worth it, would rather get delisted. So this two years home a funny phenomenon, my mom asked me to get married, and I asked my mom to divorce, really is an odd phenomenon. To be honest, I do not reject marriage, I also know that marriage brings is not necessarily unfortunate, marriage can be very beautiful, although the occasional small quarrels and quarrels, but there is a person to accompany by the side, together to fight against the storms of life, and enjoy the beauty of life is a very happy thing. I also long for a good marriage, and hope to completely detach myself from my unfortunate family of origin and maintain my marriage. But the prerequisite for me to get married is that I must have the ability to get divorced and the ability to ensure that I still have a good life after the divorce, so that I can enter the walls of marriage. What's more, I'm still young, old lady~ (I don't know where the courage comes from, but it's just so confident)