Clean!
In the past, this word was used to describe, rely on the examination to help the upper class society of the readers. It's the kind of person who doesn't have a lot of wealth of his own, but is convinced by his talent and ambition. The father of Lin Daiyu in the Dream of the Red Chamber is such a person. The rich and noble Jiafu also want to marry the first daughter, marriage as a relative!
Nobility is not a reflection of wealth. It is a high degree of excellence. It is the result of a spiritual pursuit that goes beyond food and clothing.
I'll tell you a story about my youthful road trip to the Hong Kong gentry.
I dated a boyfriend when I was young. His family was a Chinese-Malay tycoon. It was one of those real "old money families". Their business development in Malaysia can be traced back to the late Qing Dynasty. And, the family's wealth continues to this day, without interruption.
He himself is a graduate of Yale Law School. At our central government research institute, he worked on economic legislation. I was his liaison assistant. I was his liaison assistant at the time, and we were part of the "friendship born in revolutionary battles" category. Like me, he was an ordinary office worker in Beijing. But his status in Hong Kong is very different!
Ben (my boyfriend's English name) graduated from an elite school in Hong Kong. His high school classmates were all "rich" in Hong Kong. A lot of them were from traditional families, justices of the peace.
Ben comes back to Hong Kong every year. He has a mansion there, and as soon as he arrives in Hong Kong, he greets his classmates for a reunion. When I was with him, I was able to get a glimpse of the grandeur of Hong Kong.
Objectively speaking, the women of the rich families, especially those of the traditional families, are really elegant. They are all graduates of English girls' schools, and have been smothered in ballet and piano since childhood. What about me? I was a child during the Cultural Revolution. My parents sent me to the countryside. I was raised by sheep and pigs.
An example:
My boyfriend's book, there is a delicate little box. Inside are twelve things for manicures. Small, dainty silver clippers with curved heads so they'll fit the edge of the nail better and can be used to remove dead skin. There are also small clips, small tweezers, small runt ...... like doing crafts!
Remember, then Ben often give me a manicure. The first time I saw this was in the 1990s, when there were no men's manicure stores in Beijing. However, in the western life for many years of Ben, there is the habit of manicure! It's a fine expression of life.
I'm actually a more masculine Beijing girl. I'm not sure if I've ever been in a position where I've been able to get a good deal on a product, but I've been able to get a good deal on a product. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I think I'm going to be able to do it. In this gang of classmates' wives, a group of Hong Kong noblewomen in the eyes, can be said to be "different".
I remember that there was a time after dinner when the wives were chatting together. One of them asked me: "You just came back from Paris? Where do you prefer Paris Milan?"
By noblewoman I mean fashion week style. They were people who could be invited to fashion week on the basis of their millions of annual spending. I was only earning 3,500 a month. I could buy a Chanel undershirt.
I went to Paris on an expedition with a colleague. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it. And of course I know that Paris is in the middle of fashion week. There's a bunch of fashionistas on the road, traffic jams everywhere, and hotel prices have gone up.
But I wasn't invited to Fashion Week!
The ladies are making it hard for me!
They look down on a poor girl from the mainland. Especially since I'm young. I am more than 10 years younger than my boyfriend Ben! I'm also "ugly and handsome". Chinese people think I'm ugly. But Hong Kong is a place of "Chinese and foreigners", so they know I'm the kind of oriental girl that foreigners like. The first thing I'd like to do is to get a good look at the woman I'm talking about, and I'd like to be able to tell you that I'm a good person. A mainland girl who "uses sex to get money". I'm not going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it. They are making me look bad!
I know!
So, I deliberately pretended to misunderstand and guffawed, "Paris, of course! We attach more importance to the Parisian side. France's position in Europe is unrivaled. It will also be the centerpiece in the future European Union. France is even our first friend in the West, politically. As for Milan? Rome is better left to the historians ......"
The noblewomen froze!
They talk about fashion. I talk about politics. Not on the same channel. So, you can feel that they are looking at me differently. Ben and I are boyfriend and girlfriend. But we're also working partners. And in a job that is at a level that no noblewoman, including their husbands, can reach.
We care about the affairs of state. They are nothing but businessmen!
Ben, my boyfriend, who was sitting next to me, couldn't hide his smug smile when he heard this. Because, inadvertently, I even a piece of him piggybacked on the praise. He deliberately told the ladies, "My Maonin doesn't care much about clothes. You guys teach her. How to be a pretty girl."
A little while later the after-dinner refreshments were set out. Everyone was to move to the small parlor. It is customary for the women to drink tea together. The men went to the study to smoke together and talk about business. At this time, a Taiwanese man took the initiative to invite me: "I heard that the chief (Taiwanese call government officials chiefs) also smokes, try the cigars I brought how?"
I was pleased. This is not a discriminatory attitude! It's respect!
I deliberately said, "It's not quite the rules, but it's an irresistible temptation."
So I moved to the study with the men.
Perfect for ditching a bunch of noblewomen.
I'm telling you about my experience.
I'm telling you about my experience. I'm trying to say that being "expensive" is about having a strong sense of self-confidence from the inside.
And the confidence is from: calm state of mind, and a wealth of knowledge and their own culture. You can't have one without the other! This is not something that can be built with money!
This kind of advanced training is worth girls, including boys to pursue a lifetime. Temperament is not a piece of clothing, a bag can be solved. That is a composite of high dimensional charm embodiment. That is the display of a person's comprehensive strength.
Wish we could all have a kind of "noble" atmosphere!
When that happens, the streets will not be full of "gold worship wind"!
This I can only say is born.
There are always people in the world who are gifted and talented, although the sad thing is: these people are usually not ourselves [frown] [cool] [sleepy]
I have a sister, the family conditions are particularly poor, from the university has not been using the family's money, completely rely on tutoring to support the four years of study.
The same is a poor child, in fact, I am much better than her economic situation, parents basically spend my living expenses, did not suffer too much.
But I was a village girl, full of anxiety and panic, as if to tell everyone: I'm poor, I'm very good at bullying.
Although I have been in the city for 28 years, the age of the city is almost two times the age of the village, still wearing a dragon robe is not like a prince, or dirt.
But I have been struggling in embarrassment before graduating from college, college sister, speak always softly, emotional stability, never seen her out of control, do things never rush.
In fact, she grew up doing farm work, but the skin is white and fine, no trace of labor.
She is also particularly good at wearing clothes that are not very expensive, but look particularly well-fitting, the color and style are just right, super temperament.
Her walking posture is also very light, in fact, gait is also part of the human temperament.
I've seen her wedding photos, her mom and older sister to attend, is a typical peasant woman, especially black, especially formal, although wearing new clothes, and the wedding site is still out of place.
She has also experienced a lot of injustice: being exploited by her employer when she worked as a tutor; her in-laws being arrogant after she got married; and so on. But when she told me, it was a short narrative, just a few words, and her expression was still light, unlike some people who are aggrieved and then burst into tears, complaining about every detail, with a grim expression and eyes full of bitterness and hatred.
The ravine is able to fly out of the golden phoenix. This sister of mine is full of noble and elegant air, at a glance, I think she must have come from a scholarly family, must be the daughter of a university professor, to be so elegant, so calm and relaxed.
In fact, her previous environment is so bad, see have not seen, learn have no place to learn. Our rural women in the Northeast is still relatively rough some, loud voice more, a lot of the true nature, want to laugh loudly laugh, angry loud scolding. But my sister grew up in such an environment, not assimilated, is born with a good temperament, people light as chrysanthemum, aroma like orchids. This may be the fate of the generous gift it [laugh]
Indeed, there are such people _____ may be favored by God, cloth skirt! I have such a classmate, family conditions are very common, but she grew jade flour, hair black hair, very common clothes, she put on flute is very comforting! The first time I saw this was when I was a student at the University of California at Berkeley.
The natural beauty ah
We all know that temperament and their own cultivation, connotation related, but temperament and habits, self-discipline also has a certain relationship.
A friend of mine is also elegant, spirited, just look at the surface, others think her family conditions must be very superior, in fact, she is in the conditions of friends is considered poor, the salary is very low, the family conditions are not good, live in the house and broken and small, and two years ago and her husband divorced.
This friend has been particularly self-disciplined, meticulous life, never complain, she herself often said that she was in a bad mood, as long as the door must be cleaned up their own spirit, to show their best side to others. Once, the courier came, my friend went downstairs to pick up the courier, the general public will just wear a dress on the down, my friend is not, she carefully changed a dress, and then went to the bathroom to depict the eyebrow painting eyes, cleaned up glossy before going downstairs to pick up the courier.
My friend is also particularly fond of dancing, she used to go to the square dance every day on time after work, and then enrolled in the dance class, other people learn to dance, three days, two days off, my friend never asked for a day off, and even the teacher of the dance class assigned homework she will also be seriously completed.
My friend's habits are also very good, she never sleeps, goes to bed early and gets up early, and on weekends she doesn't stay in bed. Usually meals will also be very fine, what to eat and drink what is nutritious, what to eat on the skin good, said the head, and the implementation is also very in place. She did the meal is also very delicate, the average person cooking fried vegetables, done casually mounted on the plate on the line, I have to pay attention to this friend of the plate, look at her good meal is like a beautiful picture.
I've known this friend for more than ten years, and I've never seen her sloppy, she always looks like a proud and noble person, and her temperament is like a person with a very high status. With her always feel full of positive energy, sometimes their mood is bad will be her elegant temperament and positive attitude towards life driven up.
So, the good temperament and the family's good or bad relationship is not very big, the good temperament from their own, from their own life attitude, habits and self-control self-discipline.
This question reminds me of the famous actor Zun Long, who is obviously a poor boy from a poor background and had a miserable childhood, but his temperament is just super good, with aristocratic temperament. There's also Fat, also a poor kid by birth, but with a superb temperament! I feel like it's a natural gift from God.
My hair little, family conditions can be said to be very bad, very bad, dad eyes a blind, a can only vaguely see, mom "brain" has a disease, sometimes good and sometimes bad. The family relies on her uncle to help, and once in elementary school her uncle did not give her money at the time of enrollment, he watched us go to school.
Later, in junior high school, her father died, leaving her and her mother, her uncle took them to his place of work, so that she continued to study, and his uncle to help look after her mother.
His uncle is a construction site, those years earned a lot of money. Until a few years ago, the site is not good to do a big project to lose all the money at once, had to return to our hometown. At this time, her uncle is also old, do not want to continue to struggle, but also do not want to go to their own children in the city's residential, my hair small on their own money in the old home to his uncle to repair a small farmhouse, so that the elderly pension.
This matter is widely spread in our old home, everyone praised her. She was the most graceful person in my heart, and she was really pretty.
It is just a pity that my hair small emotional line has not been smooth, before talking about a boyfriend talked about 6 years, ready to get married, the results of the male family inquired about the family environment of my hair small, that her mother will be a drag on them, the male parents are reluctant to die, the man's mother to death to force them to break up.
Later on, I was introduced to a man who was also a part of the family because of his mother's reasons. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to find the best way to get the most out of your life, but I'm sure you're going to be able to find the best way to get the most out of your life.
I hope she can find her own happiness earlier, and someone can really love her.
A strong woman with a strong heart! The woman who lives and understands! I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get it right, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get it right! I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it!
One of my classmates, junior high school she transferred to our school to repeat, simply, too beautiful, said it is amazing for the sky is not too much. Skin white, small face clean very, two big eyes, long eyelashes flickering, nose straight, small lips angular, standard boat bottom lips, but also the color is very red moist, great body, not high, not low, not fat, not thin, is a standard type. At that time and she took the bus to and from school, turnover rate of 100%. It is that you look at the feeling of feeling very high class. Later see her parents, really put me shocked. Ordinary people can't be more ordinary. Not much culture, just from the rural cleaners feeling. At that time, I also suspected that it was not their biological, but a closer look, nose and eyes of certain places still have a relatively similar place. This is a precious daughter, pro can't not. She is not very good, junior high school graduation repeat did not get into high school, on the technical school, soon graduated. Later saw the boys sitting on the back seat of the car, the boys are also very ordinary a person. It's a pity. I always think she looks like Tan Xiaoyan, but her face is smaller than Tan Xiaoyan's. I've never seen her more beautiful than her. I've never seen anyone prettier than her, and she deserves to be called "gorgeous".
So being beautiful is only one thing. Nobility is not equal to beautiful. The most important thing to remember is that you can't be a good person and you can't be a good person. There is a saying that "the belly with poetry from Hua". Have culture, have experience, have the idea, steady, do not panic, is an ordinary person, can also have extraordinary temperament.
Since ancient times, people have been rich and noble together, what the rich and powerful, blossomed rich and famous, rich and powerful, rich and peaceful, in fact, rich and noble is definitely not a concept. In fact, richness and nobility are definitely not the same concept. Richness is the material aspect, nobility is the spiritual aspect. A person wants to be rich, through various efforts, it is possible to reach the standard of rich, but a person wants to be noble, for many people is a lifetime can not be reached. If you don't want to have this kind of expression, that is to say, no matter how rich you are, you can't reach the level of noble.
That is to say, a person's body of noble, and innate origin has nothing to do, more than money and material can be piled up.
"The true spirit of nobility, the first is the culture of upbringing, resist the temptation of materialism, not to enjoy the purpose of life, to cultivate noble moral sentiments and cultural spirit."
Aristocratic spirit is more of a person's cultivation, which comes from the precipitation of knowledge and self-cultivation
-- writer Wu Guanqi said so.
Temperament is also something that has nothing to do with birth and wealth, some people's temperament is innate, self-temperament, and some people are formed later, then need to cultivate and self-cultivation. Isn't there a saying that "the belly with poetry and books from the gas"? Visible more reading, belly goods, there is self-confidence, this self-confidence can be manifested from the outside of the person. Temperament and noble combined, the formation of a noble temperament or noble temperament.
So that's why your BFF is all noble and temperamental despite her average family conditions.
The belly has poetry and books
Read more books, naturally shown in the temperament.
At the same time, dress decently and generously, clean and sharp ...... give people a different temperament.
Cheerful, confident, sunny ...... temperament is not bad naturally