Father is usually the wisest person in the family, but what is his wisdom?
In the process of children's growth, on the one hand, they are experiencing changes in the external environment, on the other hand, their physiology and psychology are also developing rapidly. In this process of turning pupa into butterfly, psychological fluctuation and emotional fluctuation are normal. Therefore, parents should communicate with their children more.
Pay attention to the child's psychological condition in communication. When it is found that children's psychological and emotional changes are great, it is necessary to understand their mentality through communication, help them adjust their mentality in time, eliminate psychological barriers, and let them grow up healthily.
Qiang Qiang is a junior two student. He has changed a lot in the past month. He stayed in his room after school, not to mention doing housework, and didn't say hello to the guests. When parents ask questions, sometimes they don't seem to hear and say anything. When I asked again, I lost my temper and didn't want to listen to my parents at all.
One Sunday afternoon, the family got together to watch TV. When they saw Pan Changjiang performing a sketch, Qiang Qiang's mother laughed enough and said, The performance is really good, but he is too short. Look at him wearing a red scarf. He really looks like a young pioneer! ? My husband took it and said, if he is not short, can he play this role? Suddenly, Qiang Qiang, who was sitting there, said, Why do you think he is so short? Why am I not tall? Hearing Qiang Qiang's sudden question, Dad seems to have found something.
Dad said: I don't think he is short, because his acting skills are quite high! I asked him about his height. ? Qiang Qiang said impatiently. ? Does acting have anything to do with height? I really don't know what you want to know, dad answered patiently. Qiang Qiang said:? I wonder if he is so short and often performs everywhere, and no one laughs at him for being short?
Dad thought: Why does Qiang Qiang always focus on the topic of height? Is it because you think you are short? Come to think of it, the child is a little short compared with other children of the same age. Perhaps the reason for his unusual strength lies in his height. ? The standard to measure a person is not to look at the height of his figure, nor to look at the beauty and ugliness of his appearance. The key is to look at his various abilities and qualities. Pan Changjiang's performance can entertain and relax the audience. Who would laugh at his short stature? Dad said. Qiang Qiang took the words: I mean, will his colleagues laugh at his father and say, you have to know that people can't be perfect, and there may be some shortcomings in physiology. How can colleagues make fun of someone's physical defects when they work together?
After dinner, my father said, Qiang Qiang, don't always stay in the room. Let's go out for a walk. ? Qiang Qiang reluctantly followed his father to the park. ? Qiang Qiang, sit here for a while. Do you want to hear my childhood story? Dad asked. Qiang qiang nodded his head.
Dad said: it's really interesting to say. At the end of the senior high school entrance examination that year, several of our classmates agreed to relax and decided to have a good holiday. I have been to all the interesting places in the city, even the interesting places in the surrounding cities. Compared with other students, I get the most benefits. Guess what I got.
? I don't know?
Dad, continue: I don't have to buy tickets anywhere I want. Sometimes I feel embarrassed and offer money, but those uncles and aunts not only don't want it, but also say? The child is really sensible. Give it to him when he grows up.
Qiang Qiang said:? You are so young in junior high school.
Dad said: not small, small. Now old classmates meet, and some still call me? Tiny? . ?
Qiang Qiang asked:? Good grades? I was second in the senior high school entrance examination that year and seventh in the city. Did your classmates call you? Tiny? Aren't you angry? I was really young at that time, and my classmates called me that. I didn't take it to heart at all, because my academic performance and other aspects are better than most tall students. Sometimes it is funny to see yourself so short in the mirror, and you will think: Maybe you will grow taller one day? You see, it's hard to imagine me now.
Qiang Qiang said:? Call? Tiny? It doesn't matter. Two students in our class called me? Wu Dalang? . ? Said and shed tears.
Dad said: Don't be sad. Do those two often make fun of your classmates' grades and performances?
Qiang Qiang said:? None of them are good. ?
Dad said: Yes. This shows that the classmates who make fun of you lack moral cultivation. It can be completely ignored. You are punishing yourself with other people's mistakes. At present, you are just not as tall as other students, but you are excellent in learning and so on. Many students can't compare with you, which shows that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. ?
Qiang Qiang said:? I think so, but when facing my classmates, I feel that I can't hold my head up. ?
Dad said: I can understand how you feel. You should think so. I'm just a little shorter than you, but other places are better than you. You should be the one who can't lift his head. What's more, being short is not a defect. If everyone in the world is the same height and looks the same, what will happen?
Qiang Qiang never said anything again. Dad stood up and said, if you don't understand anything, just talk to your mother and me. Maybe we can help you solve many problems. Come on, go back to sleep. ? Qiang qiang nodded his head.
Finding problems in time in communication is the art of being a parent. For the sake of children's mental health, parents can start from the following aspects:
Pay attention to the methods of educating children.
Improper parental education methods violate children's psychological laws, fail to achieve ideal educational results, and hurt children's self-esteem, which is often counterproductive. The most common educational methods that violate psychological laws are coercion, intimidation, reprimand, abuse and even corporal punishment. A good educational method is to guide children and let them wake up inside. Give hints and praise to children who are inferior, self-destructive and self-destructive, so that they can see their own advantages and abilities and enhance their self-confidence; For children with strong personality, criticism should be considerate and leave room for them to find their own shortcomings and mistakes; Children who eat hard but not soft should not be too accommodating.
Pay attention to the cultivation of psychological quality
Let the child always remain confident and optimistic, let the child develop a cheerful personality, and cultivate his courage not to be afraid of failure, even in adversity. Let children do the following things:
Talk frankly with your parents, vent the bad emotions stored in your heart, temporarily avoid your troubles and restore your psychological peace.
Transfer negative thoughts and emotions, and put aside emotions such as depression, worry, anger and sadness.
Be generous to others, minimize hostility, keep a happy mood, help others and make yourself satisfied.
Always keep full confidence and do things well. Don't do what you can't do, do it yourself and get rid of dependence.
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