The difference between people and the world, and a lot of things are learned in the nick of time.
The first time I felt such things was the year my grandfather died. Grandpa's prestige was all very high in the walled village, and a lot of people came to his funeral at that time. There is a custom on our side that on the day of burial, there is a process of taking the coffin, which is to set a time to carry the coffin from the house to outside the door in the morning. The coffin must be taken out at the set time. At that time, we had already invited people to help us, but the time was almost up, and the people who said they would help us hadn't come yet. In fact, my uncle and his family had expected this to happen, because those people wanted to embarrass our family on purpose. Fortunately, my uncle and his family had prepared for this, and in the end, they did not let those people succeed. From that time on, I learned one thing, everything must be prepared for two hands.
The second thing is that my father went into business with someone else, and in the end, he got screwed, and all of his money was misappropriated by the partner. At that time our family was in an economic crisis, life was particularly difficult, at that time I was in junior high school, with 25 dollars a week, many times it felt like the next second our family was gone. At that time, one of my uncles even cut the wires of our house, and my father was not at home at that time. Only my mom was home with us. Later, my uncle wouldn't let us use the tap water, and when we used it once, he yelled at us. In the end, we had to go far away to carry water to drink, in fact, these things are only one percent of what they did to us. At that time, their family still owed our family 10,000 yuan, because their children are in college, my parents and they did not find him to ask for.
I never knew that people could be so desperate, and later I read Cao Zhi's poem "Seven Steps" and felt a sense of empathy. I have never been able to original them, they felt at that time, our family this life is finished, so desperately make things difficult for us. Later, our family got better and better, and a few years ago we built a new house and moved to another place. In fact, I can't remember a lot of it, or maybe I don't want to mention it again, but every time I see my mom's sad face when she mentions the past, I hate them from the bottom of my heart. A lot of people say that the past is over, don't worry about it, I can't do it. I can't do that. Why do you do so many wrong things without a word of apology, even if you apologize, I have to forgive you? All the harm a sentence of sorry can be? You can apologize, but I can also choose not to accept. For those who have been hurt, that one sentence of sorry, and there is no use, just again in the wound salt.
Many people feel that if someone apologizes with you, you have to forgive, huh? ...... That's really interesting. You have the freedom to apologize and I have the right not to accept it. Everyone is not easy to live, don't fall on your sword, please live kindly!