In fact, whatever the situation, in the final analysis, there are his reasons. Nothing will happen for no reason. In my opinion, there are mainly the following reasons.
First, the change of attitude.
I have met many couples. When they first got married, they were very loving and harmonious. However, after the birth of a child, many women will transfer their feelings for their husbands to the children they gave birth to at great cost. Some even feel that it is not necessary to sleep together after giving birth, so they can sleep in separate beds.
Women think that they have paid more than men in this family and are qualified to boss around boys, which largely ignores the psychological changes of boys.
Two people have been together for a long time, and women feel that they are all family anyway, so it doesn't matter if they talk casually. Therefore, yelling has become a frequent scene. Every man wants his wife to be gentle as water. If his wife looks like a lion roar, who can stand it for a long time?
And many girls will think that men should let go of themselves and do everything right. She regards this feeling as a man's love for her.
After a long time, men will be physically and mentally exhausted, will there be? The son is still his own relative, and the daughter-in-law is someone else's. ? This idea.
If you interview a middle-aged man, many people will tell you that they regret marrying this wife, but the reality cannot be changed. Can't quarrel every day? In the end, I can only choose to leave her alone and turn a blind eye to her behavior.
The second is caused by the pressure of life.
The range of middle-aged men is about 40 to 55 years old. Think about it. What state is the man facing at this time? There are elderly parents in the world and children who have just grown up in the world.
At that time, their parents were about 60 to 80 years old, getting older and weaker. At this time, some problems appeared. Our family in China has always been filial, taking care of parents and sons.
What about the son of a middle-aged man? At this time, I was in my early twenties, at least at the age of going to college, facing a series of life pressures such as getting married, having children, buying a car and buying a house. In our tradition in China, generally speaking, parents have to help him a lot, so the pressure on parents will be very great.
Relatively speaking, men will be more rational and girls will be more emotional. Women of this age will go dancing and do various recreational activities to distract their attention and vent their negative emotions.
What boys often think about is how to solve problems and how to solve these pressures. It is precisely because of this that the same topic will gradually decrease, and in the end there will be nothing to say.
Third: the sudden intrusion of extramarital affairs
Men of this age may have reached a certain scale after years of hard work and struggle, and their material foundation is much better than when they were young. At this time, men's bad habits came out.
It is said that men become bad when they have money. There is some truth in this sentence. As the saying goes? Passionate and lustful? With a certain material foundation, the pressure of life is no longer pervasive, and I have more thoughts to do things that I can't usually do.
Maybe men have different obsessions about this kind of thing. When these conditions are ripe, an affair? It will naturally appear.
Fourth: Love has been transformed into kinship.
In fact, many times men are not tired of their wives. Maybe two people get along with each other for a long time, and often become very tacit. Love has been completely transformed into affection, and everyone knows what it means. In this way, they will gradually reduce their speaking time.
In the eyes of many girls or outsiders, this is a sign that boys are bored. Because I am bored, I talk less and less, and I don't want to talk to myself. In fact, this may be a misunderstanding.
Finally, by the way, the ancients said that the seven-year itch has a time limit, while modern people are faster and get bored after three days, so they all pretend to be themselves until the bride price is the first level, the wedding is the second level, and the year after marriage is the third level, also known as the running-in period.
It is the fourth grade to conceive a child, the fifth grade to give birth to a child, and the sixth grade before the child is three years old. Anyway, it's 998 1 level, and it's finally finished, so I'll do it in my next life. Sometimes I think, getting married is really tiring!