-01-
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship from ancient times is a difficult problem, some people lament, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to be born between the enemies in general, you do not allow me to I do not allow you to be, have to quarrel until the sky and the earth will not give up.
It is no wonder that some people would say so, in our country, many families are because of the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship and the frequent conflicts. Especially for families who live with the elderly after marriage, it is a chicken and dog fight. Two women in the house to fight for a man, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law tit for tat, the man is caught in the middle, left and right difficult.
In fact, the complexity of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is due to the fact that the situation in each family is different and cannot be generalized. The key to resolving mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationships is the man. How a man can harmonize the relationship between his mother and his wife requires a strong sense of responsibility on the part of the man.
There are a lot of old people in the neighborhood where I live, and when I commute to work I can often see them in groups, either playing chess or dancing. Later, I heard from the property owners of the neighborhood that many of these old people live alone and their children are not around. They need to be taken care of by others.
On one occasion, the property owner organized a volunteer activity to send warmth to these old people. I was off that day and signed up. I was assigned to visit Auntie Zhang.
Auntie Zhang is 56 years old and has not been in good health for many years. Her children are not with her for some reason, but she has hired a nanny to wait on her every day. But that's just it, the old man is moping around every day.
Seeing us enter the house, Auntie Zhang's face rarely smiled. A group of us gathered around her and chatted, which also brought life to her hut.
Looking at our group of young people taking care of her so diligently, Auntie Zhang's eyes reddened and she choked out, "You are much better than my unfilial son and daughter-in-law, those two unfilial sons!"
-02-
Things turned out to be like this: when she was young, Auntie Zhang was a formidable character, and she was the one who had the final say at home and outside the house. All her life, she managed to keep her husband and son in line.
A few years ago, Auntie Zhang's son got married. He had already bought a new house, but Auntie Zhang couldn't bear the thought of her son moving out, so she forced the young couple to come home and live together.
Who would want to live with an old man when they get married? But Auntie Zhang was so forceful that her son had to take her daughter-in-law home to live.
Everything in the house is still on Auntie Zhang's say-so. The daughter-in-law is not used to Auntie Zhang's strength, but the good thing is that she is still able to tolerate it. The daughter-in-law is not used to Auntie Zhang's strength, but she is able to tolerate it, and has maintained superficial harmony. But all this has changed since the daughter-in-law got pregnant and gave birth to a child.
After the birth of the child, both the daughter-in-law and the son were very happy. But a problem arose in front of them. Both of them had to work during the day and there was no one to take care of the child.
So the son brought his daughter-in-law to Auntie Zhang, and the daughter-in-law began by saying, "Mom, you see, we both work and don't have time to take care of the child, can you help take care of it?"
Unexpectedly, Auntie Zhang refused flatly: "Why should I take care of your child? I'm not sure if I can do it, but I'm not sure if I can do it."
Because of this incident, the daughter-in-law still holds a grudge.
-03-
The mother-in-law didn't help, so her daughter-in-law had to work and take care of the baby. During the day, she would put the child in the daycare center and pick him up at home after work. Just that year, the daughter-in-law lost more than ten pounds from exhaustion. Even so, Auntie Zhang really didn't help look after the child for a single day.
Until the child was two years old, the child was getting more and more mischievous. When the daycare center could no longer take care of the child, her daughter-in-law had no choice but to quit her job and go home to look after the child.
Reduced to a housewife, the daughter-in-law, even more so Zhang Auntie look bad. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," said the CEO. She also often runs to her son to fan the flames.
Possibly unable to tolerate her unreasonable behavior, her daughter-in-law also quarreled with her tit-for-tat. The family is now in a state of flux, with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law often quarreling with each other.
After the fight, Auntie Zhang had to go to her son to complain, but he was caught in the middle, with his mother on one side and his wife on the other, making it difficult for him. So he didn't care about anyone and came home late every day.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting deeper and deeper, but the man in the middle of the indifferent, refused to act. Finally, that time, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled. The daughter-in-law, in a fit of rage, went back to her mother's house alone.
This is gone is half a year, the man went to beg many times, daughter-in-law is refused to go home. She also said that she could go back, but she would have to move out.
The man has been a father and mother for the past six months and has suffered a lot. Finally understand the wife's difficulties, simply bite the bullet, really moved out to live.
-04-
The family was reunited and lived happier than before. But Auntie Zhang's health was getting worse and worse, and at this time, she wanted her son to take her over and take care of her.
But her son refused to take her over, as if he was determined to do so. Later, Auntie Zhang found out that it was not her son who refused to take her, but her daughter-in-law who said, "If you dare to take your mother home, we will divorce! You filial piety is your thing, you give money and things I do not care, but why should I take care of her?"
"She did not help me look after the children, now why should I support her old?"
The man begged bitterly to no avail, and did not dare to really divorce. So he had to hire a nanny for Auntie Zhang to look after her.
After all this, Auntie Zhang was in tears as she spoke, "This unfilial woman, she is the one who turned my son bad! You guys say, are the two of them still considered human beings?"
Listening to Auntie Zhang's story, a group of us were silent. We as outsiders are not good at judging who is right and who is wrong, and we can only speak out to comfort her.