Looking at Lili's tired appearance, I suddenly felt inexplicably distressed.
"Why don't you ask your mother-in-law to help you?" She said with a cheap mouth.
Lily got angry at this and said to me, "She hasn't taken care of me since the baby was born. Tell me, why doesn't my mother-in-law refuse to take care of the children? "
At that time, I blurted out: "She has no obligation to help you with the baby."
Lily's face suddenly darkened, but she couldn't find anything to refute me.
Because what I said is true.
Your child came out of your stomach, not from your mother-in-law.
Taking care of children is not within the scope of mother-in-law's obligation.
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I once saw a news.
After the grandson was born, a mother-in-law left her life and went to a big city alone to help her daughter-in-law take care of her baby.
Later, the mother-in-law actually made her son and daughter-in-law work hard.
Half a year's discount is 15 thousand, which is converted into 2.5 thousand per month
Now it's the daughter-in-law's turn to force her, and the mother-in-law asks for money with her children. Are you out of your mind?
I was very angry at once and posted for help.
But I feel that this mother-in-law is not wrong.
Parents have no obligation to help take care of their babies, even their most precious grandchildren.
Isn't it normal to pay your own labor and get your share of the salary?
Moreover, the younger the child, the noisier it is, especially when he is not sensible for a few years after birth.
What treasure mother can't eat and sleep well, and she has to get up in the middle of the night to nurse and change diapers?
Even girls can't stand this upside-down life day and night, and they are tired and become yellow-faced.
What's more, she is an old woman who needs rest?
Only when you get your due salary will your mother-in-law have the motivation to continue to help you with your baby, because she knows that this baby is not a leucorrhea.
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Think of those mother-in-law, who have been worrying about their children all their lives and will continue to help them with their babies when they are enjoying their old age. It makes them feel sad to think about it.
Some people are willing to give their babies to their mother-in-law for work.
Why don't you want to spend money on a nanny?
Because the nanny is too expensive, it is more cost-effective for the mother-in-law to bring it.
But taking care of the baby means that the retired mother-in-law lost her happy old age.
Some mothers-in-law have their own circle of friends. She can cook and do housework at home during the day and go square dancing with her friends at night.
Rich mother-in-law, she can also go shopping, travel around and run her own business.
But because she has to help the children take care of their children, she has to give up these "freedoms". I can't even be a grandmother who dances square dance.
A woman has to spend some time for her family in this life, and her mother-in-law doesn't owe you.
She also has her own life and children, and your children should be taken care of by you.
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Some people say that my mother-in-law has been urging us not to have children, which is really annoying.
But it's your business to live or not, and it's also your business to take it or not.
Maybe my mother-in-law just wants to have a grandson or granddaughter to play with.
I asked my mother yesterday, "Will you like it when I have a baby?"
She opened her eyes wide and said to me, "You can't expect me to take care of your children."
Even my own mother doesn't want to take care of the baby, and I think my mother-in-law certainly doesn't want to take care of the baby.
I asked my mother why, and she answered me like this: "I am old and may leave one day." I want to be myself for the rest of my life. "
Be yourself.
Women of the older generation always get married and have children early when they are young. Give up the rising career, waste time on the kitchen and children every day, and some even directly become housewives all their lives.
Mother is great. When they become mothers-in-law, they should retire and stand on their own feet.
It takes time to support the aged, doesn't it? You have to have your own time, right?
Not handsome enough when I was young. I'm old and don't want to be chic.
Grandchildren are naturally happy when they are born, but you can't count on them.
When I was stupid, my mother said to me, "I'm not a free laborer who wants me to bring money."
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Mother-in-law is not a free labor force.
Thinking that many women hate living with their in-laws and want their mother-in-law to take care of their children, I shook my head.
In the future, it must not become like this.
I'm used to listening to many people. Whether the old father and mother like it or not, the children are given to their parents as soon as they are born, and they only care about making money and eating, drinking and having fun.
It seems that they, rather than their parents, are supporting their lives.
I really hope that one day, everyone can understand that parents are old and in-laws are old.
They just want to have a good rest and live the life they want every day.