If you have no savings, no pension and good health. You'd better get a job. On the one hand, work can ease the mood, on the other hand, it can increase income. Those who have no other children and meet the conditions of five guarantees in rural areas when they are old can live in public nursing homes for free or enjoy five guarantees at home. The basic life is still guaranteed.
If you have savings and a pension, don't worry about your financial resources. Mainly adjust your life according to the arrangement, and try to make yourself live more fully. You should choose what you like to do If you like square dancing, you should dance with your aunts. If you like studying, you should apply to a university for the aged. Music, calligraphy, cooking ... learn what you like! One day, you can choose to live in a nursing home according to your own conditions.
The son-in-law is a stranger to you now, which proves that he doesn't want to care about you old people and tries to avoid too much contact with you. This can be fully proved. The son-in-law will inevitably have the idea of remarriage. There is only one bond between you and your son-in-law. If the daughter had no son before her death, then this last bond would be gone.
Try to plan for your pension as soon as possible. If you have retired and have a fixed pension, you need to find a suitable nursing home now. The economy is within your tolerance, and the conditions are as perfect as possible. You can move in when you feel old enough.
If you don't have a pension, you have some savings. Try not to move around when supporting the elderly, and keep it for a rainy day. If you don't have a lot of money, you can use the house to support the elderly, sell the house and use the money to live in a nursing home.
In short, the son-in-law has no intention of supporting the elderly, so don't be too reluctant and don't negotiate in any way. Even if there are laws or policies that force your son-in-law to support the elderly, your life will not be much easier. There is a saying: I would rather look at my son's ass than my son's face. Without blood relationship, there will be no pension relationship. After all, old people are a huge burden to young people.
The most critical issue is to adjust the mentality. People will inevitably encounter all kinds of misfortunes and pains in their lives. Use perseverance to suppress inner pain and let time heal the wounds of the soul.
Keep your life busy. If conditions permit, you can travel and make some friends. If the economy does not allow, you can dance square dance, grow flowers and grass, and enrich your life. In short, make more friends, support and help each other. The most important thing is to rely on yourself and support yourself with your rich heart.