In real life, it seems common for the elderly to help their children take care of their children after retirement. But who will take care of the children? Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have something to say.
Mother-in-law:
Zhang Apo: I don't want to take care of the children. I have been busy for most of my life, working hard to raise several children, educate them, help them go to school, get married, and finally have children, and I have to be taken care of by my mother-in-law. I finally retired, and I want to live a leisurely old age for a few years. I also want to go out with my old friends and see the world I never saw when I was young. I want to have my own retirement, so I don't want to take care of my children.
Li Apo: Life is stressful now, and it is not easy for children. I also want to help them with their children, but when their children were born, I was already sixty or seventy years old and couldn't take care of them. Taking care of them every day, my back aches and my legs hurt, and I feel uncomfortable all over. I really want to take care of them. I can't take care of them.
Chen Apo: Nowadays, young people's concept of parenting is very different from ours. They pay attention to scientific parenting and dislike my unscientific parenting. I raised all their brothers and sisters. How did they become unscientific now? Help take care of a child, don't let him shake, and make milk powder strictly according to the scale, but I am presbyopic and can't see clearly if I want to see it. Take it for example, I have to use the baby's special laundry soap basin to wash it. I don't remember exactly. Kindly take care of children, in the end everything is wrong, full of grievances. Might as well not take it at all!
Wife:
Sister Zhang: At that time, when she was pregnant with a second child, she said, Give birth, and I will take care of your child after giving birth. As a result, I sprained my ankle and my foot recovered after giving birth. Half a day before holding the baby, her back ached, her legs ached and her arms ached. The last sentence did not move, and she was abandoned. If I didn't bring children, I made it clear from the beginning that I wouldn't have a second child. I won't take it now. What should I do? Dabao has gone.
Li Jie: My mother-in-law is retired. She goes out to square dance with her sisters every day and travels on holidays. I'm so busy, people just don't help, pretend to enjoy their old age, and their mother-in-law doesn't help with the children?
It's really fair to talk about taking care of children. The old woman is right. Who will take care of these children? A passage by Li Meijin, a child-rearing expert in psychology, is expected to solve this mystery.
Professor Li Meijin told a story about the last emperor Puyi. When Pu Yi wrote my memoir, there was a description: "I was very naughty when I was a child, and I loved to play tricks on eunuchs and maids. I won't listen to anyone who advises me, but don't be naughty, wet nurse, I will listen. "
Professor Li Meijin analyzed it this way. Because Puyi was brought up by a wet nurse, it is easy to reach the degree of * * * with the wet nurse, that is, I am deeply in awe of her, attached to her, and willing to listen to her in order to make her happy. Therefore, whoever takes care of the children is greatly influenced by him, and it is easy to obey his discipline. If you don't take him since childhood, he will be disobedient.
Children will eventually return to their parents and be disciplined by their parents. In order to better educate children in the future, children should still be taken care of by their parents, and elders can also help when their parents are busy, but the main role should be their own parents.