As the saying goes, trouble comes out of the mouth. Whether the girl across the street is your wife or not, the words must be watched out for some basic skills. Do not be in a hurry on the first date to try to say: "I love you!" , reviewing the situation, the party now the hero of the love scene.
I've managed to book a date with the other person, but don't know what to say on the date? Also, I'm wondering if it's appropriate to say "like" or something like that on a first date.
The success of a date has a lot to do with how attractive you are.
First and foremost, instead of talking about yourself, it is important to listen attentively to what the other person is saying by looking into their eyes and mouth and listening to them, and showing interest in what they are saying. Especially when the other person said that they feel very proud of things, you have to show that you are also very interested, and let him be aware of it.
When you speak, keep your expression open, speak clearly, and answer the other person's questions in a clear and simple way.
It's also important to prepare a topic in advance. If you know what the other person is interested in, then prepare more conversation topics related to that subject.
Secondly, paying the right amount of compliments is also a recipe for success. However, it is not a good idea to be too overtly flattering. As for the other person's looks and body, it's best to avoid praising them on the first date. If you're a man, compliment your partner on his hairstyle, clothing, and distinctive look, and if you're a woman, compliment him on his knowledge, skills, and taste in designer lighters, ties, and so on. Topics that should be avoided on a date are displaying feelings of resentment or dissatisfaction about anything, as well as badmouthing or criticizing others. These topics will not only ruin the happy atmosphere of the date, but will also make the other person doubt your character.
Secondly, my answer to the question of whether or not it's appropriate to say "yes" on a first date is "no". Because it's your first date and you don't know what the other person is thinking, if you mention it out of the blue, you'll be shocked and overwhelmed, and you won't be able to go on a second date. If the other person is willing to go on the date, he or she should not hate himself or herself, and it's good to know that. Don't forget that "love" is not a one-sided wishful thinking, but must be naturally cultivated through date after date. Even if you don't say "like", as long as you can sense that the other person is showing you a friendly attitude, that's a sign of "like". As long as you don't say "like" out loud, there is a good chance that the other person will be happy to go on a second date. In addition, saying "I love you" may be counterproductive.
Here's how a young man thinks about what he should say. One day, he had a date with a woman he liked to go to the movies. The day before the date, he went to the station where he had agreed with the other woman, and then walked from the station to the movie theater. While walking, he counts his steps and calculates how long it will take him to walk the distance. Then, he thought about what he would say to her during the walk and practiced it over and over again.
This level of enthusiasm is necessary for a successful relationship. Normally, people don't plan what they are going to say in a few minutes, but if you try it once and practice your words over and over again, you will get unexpected results. I'm surprised that people prepare for entrance exams and employment exams, but I think it's a bit too much effort to prepare for a date. Of course, it doesn't have to be difficult, but especially on a first date, it's important to be as careful as possible and do your best to get it right.
No need to be too clever with your words, just do your best to make your sincerity known to the other person.
Tested Dating Tips
Tips for Eating with a Woman:
a. Take the initiative and ask her to eat, because girls don't want to say that they're hungry.
b. Ask her what she wants to eat first, and if she doesn't express an opinion, you decide the menu yourself. Don't push around, so you think you're being courteous to each other, but in fact you'll embarrass each other. When ordering, be careful not to ask for food that stains your teeth, as that can ruin the mood.
c. Try not to make any noise when you eat, and eat while you talk.
d. You can eat as much as you want, girls usually like it when boys have a big appetite.
Precautions about drinking:
a. Don't force your girlfriend to drink on a first date, as this will make her unhappy and she may refuse to go out with you again on the pretext that you forced her to drink.
b. Don't pretend to have a lot of alcohol, whether you do or not.
c. If she drinks and turns extra red, praise her.
If you're late for a date:
Rush to the date, gasp for breath, apologize sincerely, and then naturally find an excuse, such as, "I was stuck in traffic on Zhongshan Road, and I was so anxious that I jumped out of the car and ran over here, and it made me so out of breath that I was panting like a cow." Or: "I want to find a gift you like to give you, so that you can not catch up with the time ......" In short, to make up a reasonable and reasonable, can not let her perceive that you are a moment of carelessness caused by the tardy, at all with what the car ah gift ah has nothing to do. This kind of promise to help dissolve the girlfriend's dissatisfaction, the motive is good, can not be regarded as unintentional deception. However, if you're late for something like this, you can't tell it again, and if you tell too many lies, you're going to be exposed.
Saying goodbye to her:
The best way to say goodbye to her is to wait with her at the appropriate station until the car arrives, and then leave when she gets on the bus and the car leaves. This way the woman will not feel that you are not pestering her tightly. If she is willing to let you send her home, that means she has a little heart to heart with you. This must be timed separately, meaning that the first date should end when the girl still wants to spend time with you. This is a great way to make her look forward to the next date. In the meantime, you should utilize the following invitation techniques. For example, while waiting for the car, you ask her, "Today is the summer solstice, do you know what the meaning of summer solstice is?" She says no, and that's when the car comes. You say, "Well then, I'll tell you on our next date."
Repeat the time and place of the next time one more time, then walk her to the car. Or, she says this as she's about to break up:
"I had a great evening with you". You must immediately press the point and say, "That's just great, I'll make you even happier next time." Then repeat the time and place of the next date appropriately.
Dating Tips for Boys
1) Don't lie, never lie, never. If it's just a one night fling, that's fine. If you're believing it for fun, great, you've earned a second date. Then again, going forward you have to act consistent with the lies you told on the first date. The tricky part is that after the fifth date, you have to spend two days before each date going over your previous lies.
2) Don't beat around the bush, your date may be as enjoyable as the fat guy. But her phone calls are to that guy, she meets that guy, and even gets into that guy's bed. But when at the end of the day she curses out x your mom, she's cursing you, not him.
3) On a first date, don't surprise her with a movie with delicacies unless you already have a slight idea of her likes and dislikes. It wouldn't be a good idea to take an innocent girl who has complete trust in you to see 'The Ten Tortures of the Tang Dynasty Harem'.
4) A little sense of humor (as much as possible) will be your best ally, and women love a man who can make them laugh.
5)Be careful to keep your fingernails clean
6)Don't make up stories about the date and what happened to other people, it usually turns out to be a big mistake. Further advice
7)Don't take off your pants before you take off your socks.
8)****->Huffing and puffing is a big mistake. Caressing->kissing->****->resting, is the right thing to do. More practice will make you improve, but will never reach perfection, before meeting your prince (princess), always have to kiss only countless frogs, wish you luck!
At the end of the first date, you can't help but ask yourself, "How did I just do?". Everyone in the world has their own habitual actions and words. Although it is said that these personal behaviors or habits should belong to private matters, but if you think of some of these actions, habits can add beauty and infectious, so that you are graceful, charming, and become an important factor in the favor of the girls, and some habitual actions, language, but staggering, disgusting to the girls, and become a stumbling block on the road to love, leading to the repeated failure of your relationship is not known, you will be motivated to "Promote their good and avoid their evil". The following content may be in love with the men have some revelation role. 1 Don't act all "cool": snap your fingers, smoke like no one's watching, comb your hair in the mirror too much, and walk with your hips wiggling. 2 No one will like such a vulgar person: always like to roll up the trouser legs when sitting down; thighs stretched legs, swaying around; spitting; spitting; speak with uncivilized language; smoking cigarettes all the way to the cigarette butt; pulling out the mustache with the hand; in the cinema and other public **** place to put their feet on the front seat; smoking cigarettes in the mouth to make the sound of "popping"; writing articles with the mouth open; the mouth is open; the mouth is open. Writing with his mouth open; often taking off his shoes and socks to smell his feet; burping; pounding a toothpick in his mouth after eating; banging his chopsticks on the bowl while eating; falling asleep anywhere; scratching his scalp; digging his fingers into his nostrils and counting his money while dipping them into his saliva in front of people without any fear of doing so; dancing and dancing when he is happy; staring at other girls; staring at the back of a pretty girl as she passes by; staring at her back as she passes by; staring at the back of a pretty woman as she passes by; staring at her back as she passes by; staring at her back as she passes by; staring at her back as she passes by; staring at the back of a beautiful woman as she passes by; staring at her back as she passes by. The beautiful woman walks by, and stares straight at her back. 3 If a man is very "feminine", such as too often blinking; laugh with a hand to cover the mouth; sissy, not to mention women, even the man himself can not stand. In addition to these, you have to pay attention to is, sweet words to "say more, often read", but never too much, or easy to give the girl left: this person is not honest oil slipper bad impression!
Men and women should be on time for the appointment, so that each other will feel each other's sincerity. If you are unexpectedly late, you should apologize and explain the reason. After the meeting, the look should be relaxed and generous. If you are too shy, you will make the other person feel constrained, and if you are too free, you will make the other person suspicious. When listening to the other party, do not be absent-minded, or stare at the other party, should be natural look appropriate. ※ Clothing neat and not pretentious as the saying goes: "seven points looks, three points dress." For those who go to the appointment, dress should be better than usual, which is the importance of the date, the importance of each other's expression. Women's clothing can be more brightly colored. Men should never wear dirty clothes to a date. In summer, you should pay attention to the cleanliness of your shirt, and you should not forget your handkerchief. If possible, choose the clothes that best suit your skin color and body shape, and dress in a way that "avoids the shortcomings". Of course, if you overdo it, it will be counterproductive to dress in a fashionable way. ※ Talking enthusiastically and not frivolous is probably a Chinese custom, the protagonist of the first date should be the man, the woman is more subtle. The man should take the initiative to ask some questions and arouse interest in the conversation. Both sides should avoid a long cold. The content of the conversation is to strive to popularize a wide range of questions to be short, so that the other party is happy to answer, but also can answer. You can talk about work and study, hobbies, life trivia, do not make the other side of the blank and embarrassed, and do not ask some of the other side of the problem is difficult to talk about. If the other side is silent and unresponsive, you should quickly change the topic. Both men and women can consciously write a self-introduction, including their own family members and personal hobbies, specialties, etc., but do not self-aggrandizement. Some young people have gotten into some bad habits, then do not let it in the first date when the scenery. Swearing is even more important, otherwise, it will be seen as disrespectful to each other, uncivilized and impolite. ※ The location of the date to the two sides are familiar with the public **** place is appropriate The location of the date, to the two sides are more familiar with the public **** place is appropriate. Such as parks, squares, riverside, lakeside, music cafes, theaters, etc., it is best not to be alone in a party's home or in an unfamiliar place, the first date should pay more attention to this. The location of the date, the best is both quiet and not too remote place. Seclusion can create a good atmosphere for dating and facilitate conversation, but too remote is not safe. The choice of dating location, it is best to consider the distance between the two sides to the appointment, especially to take into account the woman's distance to the appointment. A girl once told someone about her boyfriend being very considerate. Asked her from what aspects can be seen? She said: "Full of times dating, he chose the place are quite close to my unit, while he ran a long way, he is all for my convenience." ※The topic of the date to relax and enjoyable appropriate dating in the conversation, is to understand each other and the best time to show their own. At this time, you should grasp the initiative of the conversation, as much as possible from the conversation to understand some of the other party's interests, hobbies, to avoid their own shortcomings early exposure to the other side, so that the situation in favor of you in the direction of development. The topic of the date should be one that makes the atmosphere pleasant. Therefore, the date must maintain a happy, happy mood and state of mind, because dating is not a class, no need to preach, not to mention the need to appeal to the personality, so the topic must be relaxed. If she likes to talk a lot, you should not interrupt her. You may as well just be a faithful listener. At the same time, you yourself should not talk about some academic topics. Dating, the topic is best taken from around the things that often happen, such as television programs, newspapers, social pages and other aspects of the topic, or about music, sports and their own side of the cute pets like cats, dogs, tropical fish, pigeons, birds and the like, because talk about some easy and interesting topics, can be closer to you two strangers to the distance. ※ dating etiquette can not be ignored dating as a special form of social interaction, should be permeated with modern culture Ming color, etiquette and courtesy throughout the whole process of dating. The proposal of the date should pay attention to etiquette and manners. The initiative in the proposed date, whether it is a direct oral invitation or telephone invitation, letter invitation, should be polite, discuss the tone, not with the commanding tone of the other party. When deciding on the location of the date, you should first consult the other party's opinion, to the other party's convenience as the principle. If the other side clearly state that you want to decide, you then put forward your own views, please the other side to decide, the other side think it is appropriate, can make a decision. The courtesy and politeness on the issue of time is even more important. Generally speaking, the person who made the appointment, to be first to a while, which reflects the respect for each other. In the event of special circumstances, can not be on time or need to change the appointment time, we should try to find ways to notify each other. If you can't even notify the other party, you should apologize to the other party afterwards. Because missing an appointment is a kind of impolite behavior. The first party to arrive, for special reasons and late or missed appointments for the party, should also be sympathetic and comfort, do not be unforgiving. The termination of an appointment is usually initiated by the person being dated, the female. If the person, the male, is in a hurry, of course, he can also bluntly propose the termination of the date, but he should apologize to the other party. If you feel that the person you are dating is not the right person for you, do not leave after only three to five minutes of conversation. If the two have nothing to say to each other, can talk about some other things, to form a certain atmosphere, since politely proposed to say goodbye. At the end of the date, the man should send the woman, which reflects the respect for women. If the time is not late or in the daytime, the woman can be sent to the car or tram, and sent away; if the evening time is late, to take the initiative to send the woman to go home, such as the woman does not reflect, should have been sent to the door.
Dating to be able to do to concentrate on the conversation, actively respond to the content of the conversation, and constantly "stimulate" the development of the conversation, to increase the heat of the conversation, then, your conversation will be in the back and forth, you say my words, laughing and joking, as if the "chess meets the match, will meet the good man, the man meets the good man, the man meets the good man, the man meets the good man, the man meets the good man. Will meet a good talent, people meet a soulmate," as you and your lover more and more interested in talking, and even talk about a night is not enough time. But in general, no matter how much fun you have with your lover, you must be ready to end the date at the right time. You must make your conversation does not interfere with your lover's work the next day, not to disrupt his (her) life order. Because you and he (she) is, after all, the first date, do not want to prolong the joy of conversation and flavor and spoil the good results have been obtained, the end of the time on the end of the cool, for each other to leave an unfulfilled suspense, which is also in order to make the conversation can be carried on, so that you in the second date with him (her) to talk about the more enthusiastic. ◆ Seek common ground while reserving differences, talk about popular topics ◆ If you and your lover have different interests, of course, it's easy to feel that "the words don't match the words", and it's difficult to produce **** Ming. However, it is not necessarily impossible to find any similarities in the differences. For example, you love to read and write, he (she) loves to sing and dance, may *** with the same topic to be a little less, but you always have to watch movies, watch TV it. You do not talk about reading and writing, nor singing and dancing, but from the evaluation of the current domestic and foreign movies, television programs to start, you can always find **** the same language, right? You can exchange views on the plots, characters, methods of expression, performing arts and so on in movies and TV. In the process of discussing these, your own concepts of life, society, right and wrong can be shown, so as to achieve the purpose of mutual understanding. If he (she) is not even interested in art, you can also talk about current news, anecdotes, recent hot topics, or talk about problems encountered in the work, etc., if your work is the same or similar, then the topic is more. You can talk about the work of the success or failure of the sweet and bitter, talk about the problems you encountered those who are not good at solving the problem, you can also talk about clothing, food, housing, transportation and other popular topics. In fact, the conversation can not be speculative, there will be no "cold field", and the situation of the two sides of the conversation have to do with. If your lover is a reticent person, it is not easy to talk about kissing, you have to try to open the box; if your lover is a passionate talker, he (she) will always respond to your conversation, so that the date in the atmosphere of a very good match. In short, as long as you take the strategy of seeking common ground while reserving differences, there are still a lot of popular topics to talk about on a date. The key is to see if you can talk to each other according to the specific circumstances of the conversation, be flexible and sensitive to find and seize the topics of interest to both sides, be warm and friendly, and talk freely. ◆ Use movement to control static Randomly capture the topic ◆ The dating place of lovers can be indoor or outdoor. If you and your lover's a certain topic after the end, a moment can not find to make the lover interested in the topic to continue, and then sit down is really like sitting on pins and needles, it is difficult to endure this silence. Then, take the initiative to propose to your lover to get up and move around, take a walk, is not a good way to break the deadlock. Walking can always capture the scene around you, people and things as a topic. Generally speaking, if your lover does not show bad feelings towards you, even if you are in a depressed mood, you will respond positively to your conversation. Because of the beautiful nature for you to provide a warm, active, relaxed and happy, vast and romantic atmosphere, immersed in which the lovers this time really have to see what is good, listen to what is pleasing to the ear, talk about what are cozy feeling. Wentao should girlfriend Xuezhu about rushed to the East Lake Park, although they do not know each other too well, but literature is their *** with hobby, natural *** with a lot of language. They read what good books around the recent? What new work published and other topics to talk about hot and intense, excited. Maybe it is tired of talking, maybe it is the end of the topic, when Xuezhu on today's business culture, culture and business of a pithy generalization finally put a period, Wentao did not continue in time to say, and then there is a "blank" between the two, looking at each other, it is not embarrassing. Xuezhu see the situation, immediately "close the market": "Let's get up and walk it!" Wen Tao to make up for the "fault" responded: "I was just about to do it!" It is true that "there is a lover in the heart, there is a world outside," Xuezhu got up and raised his eyes to see that there are so many topics around them waiting for them to explore: verdant green shade, fragrant flowers and grasses, the moon and stars of the sky, the blue waves of the lake, snuggling and lingering couples... ...She believed in "flick" to a topic with Wentao whispering stroll, talk about the excitement, good not moving. The same can be seen, Xuezhu in the dating ability to adapt is relatively strong, she faced with her boyfriend appeared in the instant "cold field", categorically take the method of moving to control the static, guiding Wentao in the movement to find a casual topic, so as to ensure that they are active, cordial, natural, pleasant atmosphere of the conversation. ◆Push the heart to lift the psychological pressure ◆ When dating, some lovers to show their gentle and elegant, like to talk about some of the complexity of the polite words, or open and close their mouths to talk about some of the high-toned axioms, which is very easy to aggravate the lover's psychological pressure, there is a "cold field". In fact, too much hubbub and polite, to the lover is not just the right amount of polite, but that you and his (her) relationship is still relatively sparse talk, has not yet reached the intimate degree of non-restrictive etiquette. Open your mouth to talk about the tone of a very high axiom, does not show that your knowledge, coincidentally, you are not talking with him (her) on an equal footing, face to condescending leadership or mentor's tone of voice to teach him (her). In this way, at the very beginning you will put him (her) and you are not equal position, he (she) how good without suspicion, relaxed and easy to talk with you heart to heart? Dating is a heart-to-heart talk, you put your heart, honesty, generally say will be positively responded to by him (her). Falsehoods, cover up, around the right to talk about him, even if you search your stomach to find out a lot of diplomatic rhetoric, for the promotion of each other's emotional development is also of no great use. Only sincere, enthusiastic, friendly, frank, both responsive and not too worried, in order to lift his (her) psychological pressure, break his (her) silence, provoke his (her) interest in conversation. Bypass the "minefield", humor to break the deadlock First date, because we do not know too well, in the conversation will inevitably break into the lover's "minefield", talking about the lover does not want to talk about the topic of the scars, so not only will there be a serious stalemate, it is more embarrassing in the embarrassment of the embarrassment. However, at this time you can not be nervous Oh! He (she) both difficult to talk about, do not want to talk too much or simply do not want to talk about this topic that causes discomfort, you do not have to break the pot to ask the end, which pot is not open to mention which pot. At this point, you can try to diverge from the topic, use humor to get rid of the dilemma. Yan Ling had a painful love experience, she loved her boyfriend like a drunk, but his boyfriend is a foot in several boats, finally abandoned her and other girls romantic go. Once, she and her second boyfriend Xiao Yao dating, Xiao Yao asked her: "you on the love of universal casting nets, focus on catching fish, how do you think?" I didn't expect that when he said that, Yan Ling not only didn't take care of him, her face instantly became so ugly. Xiao Yao knew that he had mistakenly entered his lover's "minefield", and hurriedly added: "Ah, please don't mind, I mean, I have a satirical story dedicated to you about being unfaithful in love. The story says that there was a man who was unfaithful to his wife, and he often brought his mistress back home to spend the night when she was not at home, but he was always worried that she would find out. So, one night, he suddenly woke up from his dream and pushed his wife beside him in a panic, saying, 'Get up and go, my wife is back.' When his wife also woke up from her dream, he was instantly dumbfounded." Before Xiao Yao's words fell, Yan Ling was already amused by his humorous story. Here Xiao Yao used the form of a story to first shift the direction of their conversation, and then used the infectious power of humor to dilute the unpleasant emotions he brought to Yan Ling because of his carelessness in speaking, thus naturally and skillfully transitioning the possible "cold spot" over and winning the sweetheart's happy smile. Dating in the "cold field" may occur at any time, how to skillfully avoid this embarrassing dilemma, the method varies depending on the specific circumstances, the key is to take stock of the situation, adaptive grasp of the atmosphere of the two conversations, keenly capture the information, digging two people to talk about the connotation of the two people to expand the two people to talk about the extents of the two people, so that your date! There will be a continuous topic, to achieve the "heart of the words can not be said" purpose.