I regret asking my mom to help me with the kids

Dear Mom:

You should be surprised that I am writing to you.

I'm ashamed to say that it's the first time I've written to you after thirty years of being your daughter.

Do you remember Xiaolin, the girl who used to play at our house in high school?

A few days ago, she called me and cried that she regretted letting her mom take care of the baby, and that if she hadn't helped her, her mom wouldn't be suffering.

Like you, Xiaoling's mom is very upset that her daughter has to work so hard during the day, so she sleeps with her kids at night.

The child will always wake up several times in the middle of the night, either to drink milk or have to change the diaper, often the old man just want to sleep, the little girl woke up again ......

Maybe long-term labor, the last month, the old man will always be inexplicably irritable, dizziness, loss of appetite. Later, the hospital diagnosed that her mother suffered from anxiety disorder.

When I heard Xiaolin's cry, I couldn't help but think of all the things you've done for me over the years.

Busy as a drummer

Coke is now 7 years old, and it seems like yesterday that you were helping to bring him along.

By the time I got up at 7:00 a.m. every morning, you were already back from the grocery market with breakfast ready, and the floors were already washed and polished.

When I came back from work at noon, every time I said I would take Coke to play, you go to the lunch break. I'm not sure how much time I'll have to spend with you, but I'm sure I'll be able to find a way to make it work for you.

In the evening, let you go with those aunts in the neighborhood to dance, but you let me take Coke to play, their own housework is finished, only willing to go to rest.

I remember that when you first came here, you always had to hold the baby in your arms when you went to bed.

I was worried that you would be tired if you held him for a long time, and I wanted to take over for you. And you always say that I work already hard enough, off work on a good rest ......

Originally thought married, the husband is the only dependence, after the birth of the baby only to find that the mother is the most solid backing.

Silently swallowed all the aggression

It is said that the concept of intergenerational parenting is different, even if the pro mother and daughter is also a quarrel.

The two of us have been in conflict over Coke for a long time, but you've always been able to take a step back and listen to what I have to say.

After Coke was four and a half months old, you said it was time for Coke to have some supplemental food and to have some salt.

I disagreed, saying that the book said that adding complementary foods too early would cause digestive disorders, and that giving salt to babies before the age of one would increase the burden on the kidneys. You said, "That's what you ate when you were a kid, and you didn't see anything wrong with that." Behind the scenes, you're sneaking around with your parenting books, writing and copying, and that's more serious than my college entrance exams.

Mom, you know, for a long time, I thought you were indestructible, no emotions.

I remember that time when Coke had a fever in the middle of the night, and my temperature was like a roller coaster, going back and forth. The first time I saw you, I was so happy to see you, and I was so happy to see you, and I was so happy to see you. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the work you do.

The next day, Coke's father came back from a business trip and saw his son wilting like an eggplant.

"A good child, how I traveled for two days to become like this, adults, children are not let people worry."

This sentence stabbed you in the heart, you did not say anything, silently returned to the room.

Tossing and turning all night long, I was so upset, and then I saw that you were wronged, and I had a big fight with Coke's father, like a lion with his hair blown up.

Later, when I saw the CCTV documentary "Lou Lou", I realized that you are not not aggrieved, you don't want to hurt our relationship by quarrelling with us, so you bury your aggrievement in your heart.

I also realized that perhaps in countless late-night hours, you were like this, silently swallowing your grievances and secretly wiping your tears.

There is no such thing as a mom who doesn't know what she is doing, she just doesn't want to do it to her children.

Mom is the one who gives you the bottom of the barrel