Back then, Zhu Yuchen's mother looked at Huo Siyan, desperately wanted her to do their daughter-in-law, Huo Siyan scared and shook her head, openly said: "His mother was deceived by my appearance, I'm quite fierce to my boyfriend, she is trying to give Zhu Yuchen to marry a new mother , I'm not suitable. "
Now, more than a decade has passed, Huo Siyan has long been married to Du Jiang, but also had a lovely son, Zhu Yuchen 43 years old, still not married, not that he does not want to, but he did not dare.
As the saying goes, marrying a wife when marrying a good man, marrying a man who is not married to a mama's boy, but on the contrary, Zhu Yuchen is the one who is afraid of the "people see people" mama's boy.
But his mother, but especially happy to think that mombo male is very cute.
She loves her son with her whole life, and can't wait to take care of everything for him, but this love has imprisoned Zhu Yuchen, making him unable to enter the marriage.
In her own wishful thinking, the mother pushed her son into the emotional abyss.
Now, Zhu Yuchen is 43 years old, but no one dares to marry him, such a mother-in-law is suffocating, Zhu Yuchen is her puppet, how can the daughter-in-law and the power of resistance?
Zhu Yuchen was born in Shanghai, he also has a sister named Zhu Beibei, siblings are the heart of their parents, food, drink, housing and transportation are treated equally.
But his mother's love for Zhu Yuchen is even stronger. In her opinion, her son is her sky, her land, and the meaning of her life.
As a result, Zhu Yuchen's childhood was happy and depressing.
His mother wanted Zhu Yuchen to develop morally, intellectually, physically and aesthetically, so she decided to let him learn the piano.
But playing the piano was so boring and uninteresting that Zhu Yuchen resisted it, eating raw bean curd and going out in the rain in the hope of getting sick and escaping from the hours of study.
His mother recognized his little trick, and when Zhu Yu Chen got well, she gave him extra practice.
If Zhu Yuchen didn't listen again, his mother pinched his arm, bruising it until Zhu Yuchen practiced.
Under this pressure, Zhu Yuchen thought of death, he reached out and touched the electric door, but soon, he shrunk his hand back, Zhu Yuchen afraid of his own death, his mother can not stand.
Unable to resist and unable to die, the only thing Zhu Yuchen can think of is to escape.
In 1997, at the age of 18, Zhu Yuchen applied for the Central Academy of Drama, but unfortunately, he failed.
However, Zhu Yu Chen met Tang Wei, who had also failed in the examination.
Adolescence of the two, quickly attracted to each other, they agreed to repeat together, the next year to re-examine.
The days of studying with Tang Wei are one of the few relaxing times for Zhu Yuchen.
A year later, Zhu Yuchen was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama and became a classmate of Deng Chao.
The good news is that Tang Wei decided to go north to accompany Zhu Yuchen to school, so that she could feel the atmosphere of an art school.
While studying, Tang Wei had to take up a part-time job to pay the monthly rent of 300 dollars.
She had thought that Zhu Yu Chen would come to the hut to cozy up with himself when he was not in class, but as a result, on the day of the opening of the school, Zhu's mother came a long way to send her son, and Tang Wei could only look at Zhu Yu Chen's back as he entered the school gate in silence, envious and blessed.
Unexpectedly, the embarrassing scene for Zhu Yuchen appeared.
Into the dormitory, Zhu Yuchen to go to the bedding, his mother stopped him: "Son, you wait a moment, mom to."
After laying the bedding, she immediately asked Zhu Yuchen's roommate: "You sleep snoring? Don't disturb my son. "
Zhu Yuchen was so ashamed that he could not wait to find a crack in the ground to drill into it, and as a result, the crack had not yet been found, and his mother was once again shocked by her words.
She opened the window and saw the wall full of creepers, and in her mind, she immediately associated the creepers with small bugs, and the bugs would crawl into the dormitory and bite his precious son.
Zhu's mother had a brainstorm: " Can I use boiling water, to scald this creeper? "
The roommates froze, Zhu Yuchen direct "social death", rushed to pull his mother out of the dormitory, for a long time, the roommates do not pay attention to Zhu Yuchen, they feel that the boy is not to be messed with.
Contact for a long time, they realized that Zhu Yuchen is a poor man, actually began to sympathize with him, the relationship has become better.
Escaping the clutches of his mother, Zhu Yuchen kept his hair long and called it literary, but in fact, it was his belated rebellion.
Zhu Yuchen is very spiritual, learning to perform hand in hand, and soon became the top of the class, but his relationship with Tang Wei is getting fainter and fainter.
In 2000, Tang Wei's four-year college entrance exam finally got into the Chinese opera, and she became Zhu Yuchen's ex-girlfriend.
The two who once worked together for the **** same goal became the most familiar strangers.
I don't know years later, Zhu Yuchen remembered this relationship will not regret, after all, this is the only section of the mother did not interfere in the relationship.
After graduation, Zhu Yuchen ran a dragon set, wandering for a few years, has not made a name for himself, until he met Zhao Baogang.
In 2006, Zhao Baogang, the preparation of "struggle", the need for a group of energetic young people, Zhu Yuchen became the "Huazi" of the right choice.
Zhu Yuchen ate the dividends of the explosive drama, and his life is hanging on.
Zhao Baogang liked Zhu Yuchen so much that two years later, he starred in "Who's in charge of my youth".
Zhu's mother couldn't sit still as she watched her son develop more and more, coinciding with her retirement, and once she thought about it, she simply went north to take care of her son full time.
So, she carried a large iron pot straight to Beijing, the package, but also with 80 hairy crabs.
Zhu's mother gave herself a clear and definite position, to be her son's "maid", no matter where her son goes, she has to give him a warm kitchen.
It is said that wherever there is Zhu Yu Chen, there is home.
Zhu's mother woke up at three or four o'clock every day to prepare a variety of "nutrients" for Zhu Yuchen, thirst-quenching soup, pear water to moisturize the lungs, green bean soup to relieve the summer heat, and VC juice, etc. There are a lot of bottles and cans.
Zhu Yuchen's assistant, had to put these bottles sat on the body, the phone set a good alarm clock, every day on time for Zhu Yuchen drink.
A day down, Zhu Yuchen can not drink a few mouths of pure water, I do not know if it is not over-nutrition, those years, Zhu Yuchen became greasy, face also pitted has been bad.
Zhu Yuchen wanted to rebel, and was afraid of hurting his mother's heart, can only bear in silence, the network has become a place for him to vent his emotions.
Here, he expressed himself recklessly, but suddenly one day, he realized that his mother had copied word for word what he had posted on the social platform, and instantly broke down.
He stopped posting content, the emotional outlet was blocked, Zhu Yuchen depressed to the extreme.
Fortunately, his mother did not go to the shooting site, which became the only place for Zhu Yuchen to breathe.
In 2009, on the set of "Love is Perfect If You Want It", Zhu Yuchen shared his sugar water with Huo Si Yan.
Huo Si Yan found it so delicious that Zhu's mother boiled a double portion of the sugar water every day so that Huo Si Yan could replenish her nutrients as well.
Compared to Zhu Yuchen's resistance to the sugar water, Zhu's mother loved Huo Si Yan's good behavior and cried out for Huo Si Yan to be her daughter-in-law.
But Huo Si Yan is so smart, she lied that she already had a boyfriend, which discouraged Zhu's mother from setting them up. Later, in a program, Huo Siyan openly said, " His mother was fooled by my appearance, I'm quite mean to my boyfriend, his mother is trying to marry Zhu Yuchen a new mother, I'm not suitable. "
After a few years, Zhu Yuchen has not been looking for a girlfriend, not that he did not want to find, is that he looked for, his mother are not satisfied. Zhu Yuchen simply do not look for yourself, mother think who is suitable, he will go after who.
Just then, Jiang Yan appeared.
Jiang Yan is 7 years younger than Zhu Yuchen, graduated from the Beijing Film Academy, white skin and beautiful long legs, the most important thing is that she does a good job.
Once, Zhu Yuchen brought home a Demoiselle cucumber made by Jiang Yan, and his mother was pleasantly surprised at the knife work, which was perfect.
She immediately made a picture in her mind of Jiang Yan washing her hands in soup for Zhu Yu Chen, and encouraged him to go after Jiang Yan.
Zhu Yuchen successfully chased Jiang Yan, he thought, since then can start and beautiful two people's world.
I didn't realize that my mother was picking on Jiang Yan again.
She smacked Jiang Yan wearing less, showing shoulders, waist, thighs, and urged Zhu Yuchen to break up with her.
Jiang Yan is the age of youthful beauty, or actors, naturally show their own beauty, besides, show body is not a sin.
But Zhu's mother stubbornly believes that wear less = frivolous.
Zhu Yuchen really likes Jiang Yan, he is not willing to leave her, but he can not convince his mother to accept Jiang Yan.
Gradually, Jiang Yan saw Zhu Yuchen's hesitation and understood Zhu mother's attitude, so she asked Zhu Yuchen: "You're looking for me, not just because I can cook and take care of people, right? Do you actually think I'm suitable for you, or am I suitable to be your wife?"
Zhu Yuchen was dumbfounded by the question, and the two then broke up.
The failure of this relationship, the blow to Zhu Yuchen is very big, he closed himself up, no longer in love, people also more and more fat.
Perhaps, for the sake of a new start, perhaps to make his mother change her mindset, in 2018, the 39-year-old Zhu Yuchen took his mother on the variety show "My Family That Boy".
As a result, Zhu's mother's comments made the show's ratings go to a new height, but Zhu Yuchen was also completely labeled "mom's baby boy".
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Let's take a look at what Zhu's mother had to say:
Regarding her role in marriage, she said:
Regarding her role in Zhu's life as a "mama's boy," she said:
"I'm not sure if I've ever been in a relationship with a woman, but I think it's a good idea. > For her own position in Zhu Yuchen's life, she said:
For Zhu Yuchen's feelings, she said:
Zhu's mother never thought she had a problem, Zhu Yuchen once told her, "When I feel I can take responsibility, mom, you can rest assured that I will have a family."
This sentence reveals Zhu Yuchen's fear of marriage, but his mother thinks that Zhu Yuchen is afraid to get married because he is too childish himself.
If the son's marriage is not settled, she is not anxious to understand, after all, even if a man is 50 or 60 years old, he can marry a young girl in her twenties, and it is not too late to have children.
However, the daughter is also more than forty years old, still did not walk into the marriage, she grew up watching her mother's contribution to her brother, but also fear of marriage: "I can not afford this responsibility."
A pair of children, are in the face of marriage, talked about the word "responsibility", but the mother was not moved, she still stubbornly believe that women should pay for the family, should be sacrificed to achieve the next generation.
But is it really good for the children?
Facing the camera, Zhu Yuchen cried, "How come there is no one, willing to stay by my side?"
The answer is self-evident, it's his mother that's blocking all his marriages.
In Zhu's mother's planning, Zhu Yuchen was to live with her after he got married.
She even thought that to be able to marry into the Zhu family was to enjoy the blessings.
But this blessing, no one wants, and no one dares to take.
Probably being controlled enough by her mother's paranoia, it wasn't long after she got off the show that Zhu Yuchen was revealed to be in a relationship with jewelry designer Du Ruo.
Du Ruo walks in the forefront of fashion, dress style and Jiang Yan a bit like, exposed legs exposed navel, and tattoos.
I don't know, what does Zhu's mother feel when she looks at it.
Just, four years of love, the two still did not enter the marriage, perhaps, Du Ruo waiting for Zhu Yu Chen to get rid of his mother's control of the day, after all, who is not willing to live with such a mother-in-law under one roof.
There is no doubt that Zhu's mother loves Zhu Yuchen, and it is because of this love that she can treat herself as a Filipino maid and keep herself busy.
But this is not the kind of motherly love that Zhu Yuchen wants.
When a child is young, a mother can block all the storms for her child, but the child will grow up one day, they are independent individuals, to face all kinds of society.
The mother loves the child, the child filial piety parents, is already the best relationship.
Cute should be moderate, more to keep the distance.
If, mother Zhu does not want her son and daughter to die alone, she must hurry to let go and let them go to find happiness.
As for Mother Zhu, she should also focus on her own life, go to square dance, go traveling, go to practice calligraphy, painting, flower arrangement, and so on.
Children and grandchildren are blessed by their children and grandchildren, so don't interfere with their children's lives in the name of love.
Love from the heart, keep a proper distance, so, it is good.