Under normal circumstances, when a person speaks, the blood circulation in this area will be more active than when he is silent. So the more you talk, the more developed this area will be, so that your eyes will protrude downward and outward. In other words, if two people with similar aspects stand in front of you, one with slightly convex eyes and the other with slightly concave eyes, then it is often the former who talks a lot. Once they start talking, they will talk and sometimes even dance. And you can take advantage of this and search for information that is beneficial to you from his eloquent speech.
Of course, your opponent is probably a taciturn person, and you can't hear more useful information from him, but you can still capture some "truths" through his eyes that he may not even realize.
Eyes can easily betray a person's heart. If a person's eyelids are slightly closed, his eyes are rolling around and he dare not look at people, then he can basically conclude that there is a ghost in his heart. On the contrary, honest people will look at you quietly and calmly, and that feeling can't be faked.
Of course, you can't stare at your opponent for a long time, which will make people feel uncomfortable. Psychologists believe that it is more appropriate for a person to stare at the other person's face for 30%~60% of the conversation time. If well controlled, it can effectively promote good results. Therefore, correct gaze is very important in communication.
To sum up, there are three kinds of staring methods that are widely used in daily life.
Social gaze
When your eyes are lower than the other person's line of sight, you will create a typical social atmosphere. The focus of gaze is between the other person's eyes and mouth, so as not to make people feel stressed, so that the talks can be held in a cordial and relaxed environment. Therefore, mastering social gaze plays an important role in business negotiation and business cooperation.
(2) Close gaze
This kind of gaze is widely used among strangers, friends of the opposite sex and relatives and friends who meet for the first time. Generally speaking, this kind of gaze starts from the eyes, then the chin, and reaches all parts of the body.
For example, when a person approaches you from a distance, you often quickly glance at the other person's face to the waist to determine their gender. Then, you will look at each other again to determine how interested they are in you, and focus your eyes on their eyes, chin and abdomen. If two people are close together, they will focus on the area between the eyes and the chest. Young men and women often express their feelings through this intimate gaze.
(3) Control gaze
In more serious and formal occasions, controlled gaze is not uncommon, such as between superiors and subordinates, between teachers and students, and between opponents. The focus of this gaze is in the triangle area in the middle of the other person's forehead, accompanied by a tense and serious atmosphere. The biggest function of this gaze is to create a sense of psychological deterrence to the other party. Relevant research shows that people who win in sumo, boxing and other competitions are not necessarily because of their excellent skills, but because their eyes have won them psychological advantages. Similarly, in negotiation, if you can keep your eyes on the other side's area, then you can successfully take the initiative.
As a silent "language", eye contact will be self-defeating if it is not used well. So in the spirit of being responsible for you, I have to give you some reminders:
(1) aim your eyes at each other. If your eyes wander on the other person, or if you are looking at something else, the other person will think that you are avoiding or being rude, then the conversation is likely to end in discord.
(2) Focus on the other person's face. As I said before, focusing on each other's eyes and chin is conducive to creating a relaxed atmosphere.
(3) Don't stare at a certain part of the other person for a long time. Studies have confirmed that if the gaze time exceeds 10 second, the probability of anxiety will increase. Especially when the opposite sex meets, it needs more attention.
(4) Don't suddenly leave your sight. On more advanced occasions, when someone is looking at you, if you look away quickly, it will make people feel that you are avoiding or hiding something. So even if you are not interested in the other person, you should calmly avoid his sight instead of running away quickly.