The 66-year-old granny in Changsha is on fire, selling her own fried stinky tofu during the day and hitting the bars at night. She not only realizes her career and hobbies, but also lives out her own excitement. Although the children of the family were against her going to the bar, they accepted this special hobby of their mother's as they saw her enjoying herself. Because of such a fashionable old man, let a lot of people ask the question: how can the elderly with the times? In fact, it is very simple, that is to do what they want to do, have their own life on the line.
In our inherent impression of the elderly, the life of the elderly should be to drink tea, play cards, walk the dog, take the grandchildren, and then go to the top of the square dance. In fact, many older people may not like this kind of life. They may prefer to take advantage of their retirement to do things they did not do when they were young, such as traveling, hiking, fitness and so on. However, why are so few elderly people able to do so? One reason is that their children are too busy, and they can't afford to make their children work harder, so they sacrifice their hobbies and continue to be their children's? Nanny? Secondly, it is because the children are still not fully independent, so the elderly can not rest assured, so they have to continue to do dedication for the sake of the family.
So, if the elderly want to keep up with the times, they have to start from themselves, to learn to let go, so that their children can learn to live independently, but also to find their own really want to live. Like this grandmother in Changsha, and many other older people who have a rich life in their later years, they are not preoccupied with their children, but have chosen to live in their own way. This makes life easier for themselves and allows their children to be less stressed.
That said, have to say why the elderly have their own life children instead of less pressure. Because the two generations of people's thinking and lifestyle differences are really big, young people have their own mode of life and attitude, and the elderly often can not accept, if the two lives intertwined, there will always be a variety of contradictions. Parents often can't help but meddle in their children's lives, which may eventually lead to irreconcilable conflicts between children and parents. In this way, not only the children's side is doubly pressurized, but the parents also feel that the children do not understand them at all. If older people stop interfering in their children's lives and go about their own lives, then everyone can live more freely and have a better relationship with each other.
So, in a sense, no longer meddling in children's lives is also a reflection of moving with the times. In the modern society that is now tolerant enough, the elderly can not be limited by age, to do what they like, after all, life is only once, the first half of the life hard work, the second half of the life on the live to themselves.