This experience I'll talk about it, I have a brother, the body is not very good, since I took care of him a little more, and now we are all grown up, before not feeling the benefits of how many sisters, since my father fell ill this time, really appreciate the benefits of more siblings.
Although we are two siblings, it is possible to deduce the difference between having one child, two children, and many sisters from what happens in the family.
My father's illness is very serious, the material, the father himself out of a part, no more, sisters can be spread, the only child of the economic pressure will be very big; care of the elderly, the children can take turns to take care of more than one, there are diagnosis and treatment plan can be discussed with each other, more family to help share the pressure of the one-child child is really have to bear all of this alone.
Long time no filial son, no matter how filial you have, the old man is in need of companionship, but if you have a family, children, you have to take into account your small family, but also hold on to the old man, all of which also need to spend money, you can not give up the work, the whole chain will really be pressured by you to gasp for air, you will be very painful will be, the reality has turned out to be so cruel.
I used to have the idea of Dinky, but after experiencing so many things, I found that it is really important to have a few children on your knees, one child or not, two or three children or not, I just hope that when we grow old, we will not be a burden to them, and after we leave, they can have a sibling family who cares about each other, and will not have to share and discuss things with others.
A little bit of personal heart, just for the building reference
I personally think that two children is better than one, because two children grow up, can take care of each other, not alone, to support the elderly than a child's burden is easy, but also to reduce the burden of the child. I think two children is better.
It's hard to say whether it's better to have one or two, but if you have one, it's better than having a bunch!
It's hard to say whether it's better to have one or two children, but it's better to have one and raise it properly than to have a bunch of them. Each family's economic conditions are not the same, but each person's economic requirements are not the same. Rich certainly gave birth to no worries, no money feel that I'm still young can still earn ah, and not too much demand for life, feel that they are completely enough. So we do not need to question what.
2, want to make a good word. This is the idea of most of the parents to chase the birth of the second child, right? It is not that we must have a boy, the casting of a boy is also in the birth of ah, we still want to children ah! I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level.
3, parents' wishes. Many parents in the 80's and 90's are only children, parents often hope that they can have two, regardless of men and women, a family name, this is quite common in Southern Jiangsu. There is also a purely patriarchal, the first child is a daughter is not forced to give birth to a son, this really can not make people happy ah!
4, worry about the future. The plight of the only child is increasingly exposed, not only to support the problem of the four elderly, but the only child suddenly died, so that the parents really can not bear. Read more such reports, feel so heartbreaking. Also worried about children grow up, parents old, no relatives around. The first generation of only children at least have cousins, cousins, the second generation is really alone, what have to carry their own.
As the family planning policy can only have one child has been implemented for more than 30 years, now the policy of liberalization of the second child, a lot of people can catch up with the birth of a second child have to have a second child. The second child is good for the child's mother's health, each additional birth to the woman's chances of getting a fibroid is very little. The child's growth is favorable, two children growing up, the older child knows to take care of and accommodate the younger child, the two children are still playmates, the childhood is also very happy, the child's psychological growth and character growth are very favorable.
When parents grow old and need to take care of, two children can take care of the old man's life, as well as the children's families can also help, the two can take turns to take care of, does not affect the work and life, something can also help each other. The two children are better than one child, so so many people want a second child.
Friends! A child is certainly not good, a child home relatives will be spoiled, on the child's healthy growth is very unfavorable, good word how to write half of the son, half of the female, this is because of what? This is to tell you have children have children can be called good, a child at home more lonely play companion are not, a child if there is a big thing to find who to discuss, if there are two children at home, parents old two children can you take care of a month, he took care of a month, so that the child's burden is also a little smaller, the family of the two children will be every day there is laughter, want to give birth to two children of this idea is very correct, and the family will be able to take care of the child, and the child will be able to take care of the child, and the child will be able to take care of the child. The family has two children on the family on the society on the children are good, the family does not have two children's friends quickly prepare to give birth to two children, two children's families are the most happy and joyful!
The problems caused by one child are more serious. Take these two years on the Internet, many times in the subway because let no seat, in the public **** site and dancing in the square dance of the elderly conflict, in the restaurant because of smacking others three or four year old child screaming rushed over and kicked the child, in the online spit parents to have a second child do not ask for their own opinions, are after the ninety or even after the zero zero, but also the one-child generation. The most typical manifestation is that they do not respect the old, do not love the young, and lack basic tolerance and understanding of other people.
The reason is very simple, because after a child, the whole family of adults are bound to be spoiled and pampered, pampered and spoiled, what to give, accustomed to the whole world have to spoil me, let me, and will not think of their own social life, many times also have to let others a little.
In contrast, the two children are much better. They know from an early age that toys, food, and love from their parents are not for them alone, but to be shared with their siblings. The children who grow up this way are much more robust in their personalities.
So, I urge you to have a second child if you can.
I was born two babies Ma Ma, I said the personal experience, did not have two babies directly, I have their own group of friends, big baby is also big, have my father to do a mouth to eat on the line, I will come every year to say that there is a trip, since there are two babies, everything has changed, all day long surrounded by the child turn, big baby's learning is also neglected, dropped, the original want to buy what did not hesitate to buy, now consider their own age, they are not the only people in the world to buy, but also the most important thing is that they can not buy. Now considering their own age, but also to take care of the little one, rely on the husband alone to earn money to support the family, the economy has not been as generous as the original, but also know to economize. Although the second baby is particularly cute and smart, but if time gives me another time, I firmly will not have a second child. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to find the best way to do this, but I'm sure you'll be able to find the best way to do it. Most of the friends and I, as well as two brothers. To be honest, the conditions are similar to those of people nowadays. When I went to school, I didn't go to school with a big hand, as they say on TV, and when I played, I looked for my own classmates. Now all adults, so to speak, I and my brother a week is less than five words, we are in a neighborhood, my friend and his brother meet less than once a month, they live in a unit. They live in the same flat. It feels like they are two only children. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to get out of this, but I'm sure I'll be able to get out of this, and I'm sure I'll be able to get out of this.
Often see the online comparison of the experience before and after the birth of a child, the birth of a child on the bitter days? We gave birth to two children have not yet spit it out! We are not not talking! Is long ago has been too tired to have the strength to distinguish between the good?! What is a life in hell? Please allow me to tell you...
1, birth
Cesarean the first, you have to cesarean the second poor people
2, stay up all night
Raise a baby 3 years do not want to sleep well, stay up one and another, but also intensified
3, fortunately there are old people to help, or do not want to give birth to a second child
two children elderly people are grabbed to raise the two sides of the watch one, this is really my blessing, but usually live separately, only to see the oldest on the weekends, but also the bitter taste
4, the life is not endless, dieting
When I was pregnant with my first child, I gained 180 pounds, and after losing weight to a normal level, I was pregnant again, and I was able to plunge my maternal instincts into my child, so I gained weight in the shape of a hippopotamus.
5, Traveling is going to be a battle.
Taking a kid on a road trip is not the same thing as moving to a new location. With the move is no different, two children's travel, something more, look at the child must be standardized with a full set of people, carry, look at the child, look at the road .... The child is quite happy to play, adults are simply to go to suffer!
6, those who spend
Raise a child is a money crusher, raise two children I never touched the money.... I've never been able to get my hands on any more money...
Not to mention the fact that my family has two boys, you know...
The kind that can be taken down with a sigh of relief...
7, play
A child can play quietly for half a day, the two children did not stop, a moment of this cry that screamed, a day to cry N times, the room is full of cries, shouts, yells ...
8, writing homework
Parents accompanying the homework is not hospitalized, the gas back to the milk those, I can only say ... To want to give birth to a second child, must calculate the age difference, really when the oldest on the elementary school and then want a second child? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it! The first time I saw this, I was able to see it in the back of my head!
Yes, this is the image of my daily life, with all the strength of the lion's roar, and then explode in place day by day, but if you ask me, give birth to two children regret? But if you ask me, do I regret having two kids? Just kidding, that's my own son! Even if they make so much noise that I can't hear my ears, I won't regret it! It's just a natural law that mothers should be strong. Do you know any mom who really throws her kids away? It's your own child, of course it hurts! Every little mess will be a time of truce, there is a time to be good and pampered ah, have two children, I am happy, a little bit of pain and tired, I'm happy!
I'll talk about our family, my mother-in-law is an only child, but my mother-in-law had two sons, a son in Beijing, a son in the hometown, there is a ninety-year-old mother at home, this year, the eldest son just gave birth to a baby, they bought a house in Beijing, the pressure is very great, let my mother-in-law to go to the child, my mother-in-law went to see the child, my father-in-law to take care of the mother at home, my husband's grandmother hospitalized, because only my mother-in-law is the only one who can take care of the baby, she has to take care of the baby. Because my mother-in-law is the only one, before and after the hospitalization of 20 days are my mother-in-law and my father-in-law to serve, not even a replacement person, you may say, is not the grandmother has no money? Grandma's grandfather died when she was young, and it was not easy to bring up her mother-in-law all by herself, so where did she get the money? Her children have all started their own families and have their own jobs, and they also have to pay for their car loans and mortgages, and not going to work means that they don't have any income, so their children have all come back to look at Grandma, and they all go back to work again, and the situation in my sister-in-law's house is exactly the same as in my mother-in-law's house, and they are both one-children, and they both have a grandma, and they are both one child. They have someone sick, often busy, my mother-in-law said, must be two, at least in the parents are sick when there is someone to replace you, you have no replacement you have to hire a nurse, but you also have to have the money, and the female parents can not be sick, or think of it all feel terrible, I'm not saying that you want two children, of course, one and one of the benefits of the two also has two advantages, they can be I'm not saying that I want you to have a second child.