2. Confucius said: "Those who have virtue must speak, and those who have words must not."
3. A scholar has a long way to go to strive for self-improvement. Isn't it important to think that benevolence is your responsibility? Isn't it a long way to die?
4. Walking broadens life. Now you don't have to worry. Let the trees that should belong to you in the future grow longer and those flowers bloom more. When you meet them, it is the most beautiful time.
5. The heart is a pocket. When it is not installed, it is called scheming, when it is installed a little, it is called calculating, when it is installed too much, it is called scheming, and when it is installed too much, it is called trouble. We often cling to the utilitarian close at hand, to the gorgeous life, to the fruitless love, and it is easy to fall into a state of being at a loss. In fact, if you put down a little, you will get more; People who can let go are those who really know how to live, and they will live more freely!
People with bad temper often use the weather and wind direction as an excuse to cover up their grumpy and gloomy temper. Dickens
7. Money doesn't matter much, just be happy; Friends don't care much, just be close. Although the pressure is great, everything will pass. I hope you can get rid of your troubles, be happy, have a better career and a better life.
8. If you don't have a good morality and a good faith, how can you die there?
9. The benevolent is not worried, the knower is not confused, and the brave is not afraid. In a threesome, there must be a teacher; Choose the good and follow it, change the bad.
10. Happiness is the same. This is not a whisper. As long as you adjust your mentality and lifestyle, you don't have to look for happiness everywhere. Happiness is all around you. Therefore, every happiness comes from the heart and is made with heart.
1 1. Make friends through writing and help others through friendship.
12. Maybe everyone will learn to change and grow slowly after experiencing some changes, and then let go of all pride and stubbornness.
13. When you are depressed, you don't have to talk to others for comfort. Stay alone for a while, comfort yourself and get out of the pain, and you will be stronger than before.
14. If the heart doesn't move, what does wind energy do? If you don't get hurt, the years will be fine. May your heart warm every morning like the sun.
15. Don't do anything that hurts others, and don't be defensive. We should be careful in future work, implement the details well and avoid unnecessary mistakes. Even if you encounter a temporary stumbling, you should quickly adjust your mentality.
16. The secret of success lies in knowing how to control the power of pain and happiness without being countered by this power. If you can do this, you can control your life, otherwise, you can't control your life. Anthony Robbins
17. No matter how bad you feel, get up, freshen up, fight and never give up.
19. A gentleman seeks the Tao without seeking food, and a gentleman worries about the Tao without worrying about poverty.
20. It is not enough to discuss those who are ambitious in the Tao and are ashamed of being naked and not eating enough.
Sentence (Part II) 2 1. Love those who are kind to you and forget those who don't cherish you.
22. Eating a big pot of rice, basking in the warmth, adjusting the bad mentality and maintaining a good mood are what many people yearn for.
23. Rest when you are tired of life, stop when you are tired of work, smile when you are in a good mood, and reduce when you are stressed.
24. No one can change the past. Let bygones be bygones. The important thing is to learn a lesson and start over!
25. There are too many questions in life that can't be answered, and too many answers don't understand why. Everything has a destiny. What we need to do is to be kind in prosperity, stay calm in adversity, and leave the rest to time.
26. Life needs stability, and you must have enough time to reflect to make yourself more perfect; Life needs to be accumulated, and only by looking back often can it be sublimated in the gain and loss of taste. In fact, life does not need this meaningless persistence. Learning to give up makes life very simple. There is a feeling that there is no chance, and there is a kind of giving up that is called fulfillment.
27. Time has forced us to change a lot.
28. Sometimes we are unhappy because our abilities can't keep up with our ambitions and our desires exceed our needs.
29. Personality is a person's intangible essence. -De Moody
30. Don't envy those who live better than you. People who live better than you are because they work harder than you. No one will succeed easily, so you should believe that as long as you work hard enough, you will succeed.
3 1. The bird standing on the tree is never afraid of the branches breaking, because it believes in its wings instead of the branches. Instead of worrying about the future every day, it is better to work hard now. On the road to success, only struggle can give you the greatest sense of security.
32. Xian Zai, come back! A spoonful of food, a spoonful of drink, in a mean alley, it is unbearable to see. I won't change my fun back. Hyun-jae, come back!
If a person can control his passion, desire and fear, he is superior to the king. John Milton
34. Everyone has his own difficulties, which others can't understand and feel. Leave the sadness to yourself, never love in the past, never meet in the future, and live up to it now, so it is safe.
There are many definitions of success. Some people think that making a lot of money is success. In my opinion, success means doing simple things surprisingly well.
36. You can enjoy yourself. Anyway, the person you think of is probably asleep, the quilt is well covered and the dream is very sweet. You have nothing tonight except the possibility of sudden death.
37. Romance that doesn't belong to you is like a kite tied to a string. No matter how high you fly, you will always fall. Feelings that don't belong to you are like sand in your hand, no matter how tightly you hold them, there will be a risk of passing away; A heart that doesn't belong to you is like a clockwork. No matter how far you go, you will stop one day!
38. It is easy to see what is right.
39. You don't have to change yourself for some people, become yourself and feel strange. Be yourself, someone will always like you!
40. You can entrust six-foot orphans, you can send a hundred miles of life, and the big festival cannot be taken away.
Forty sentences of self-regulating mood and mood
Self-regulating emotional sentence 1. Smoke because of you, but also quit because of you, adjust your mentality and start over, to meet your best and most worthy self, if you come with butterflies in full bloom!
2. One must not be too eager for success, and don't think about reaching the sky in one step. Taking a step-by-step attitude is definitely much safer than the so-called "pigs can take off when standing in the air".
3. Indifferent to others' opinions, unhappy with others' flattery, and not angry with others' anger.
4. Being angry easily leads to anger and worry. This is a bad habit, it will make the mind produce inappropriate ideas. This is an impulsive and irrational behavior. Abraham
5. The pear is big, so find some friends to share it with. When you are tired from work, give yourself a holiday to relax. After a long separation, I miss you and send some blessings. I can't share this pear with you anymore. Learn to take care of yourself.
6. Sometimes, we try not to change the world, but not to be changed by it. No road is a detour, and no effort is in vain, because a wonderful life is never judged by results. Not all struggles will have a satisfactory result, but every struggle will make you different.
7. Your life is either influenced by others or influenced by others! So what kind of people will we be?
8. People you really like can't be friends, even if you look at them more, you still want to have them. I have never given up loving you, but I have changed from being strong to being silent.
9. Life is like a journey, with hardships and scenery. What you can see is your realm of life. Always seeing people who are better than yourself shows that you are going uphill; Always seeing people who are not as good as yourself means that you are going downhill. It is better to think about change than to complain.
10. When it comes to love, some people are willing to be fools, because they believe that trust is the most important thing, and there is no need to make their love unbearable in order to catch shadows; And some people want to be smart and don't want to deceive themselves in the face of love.
1 1. Rest when you are tired of life, stop when you are tired of work, smile when you are in a good mood, and reduce when you are stressed.
12. Don't look down on every little thing you do. Only by doing it beautifully can we achieve great things in the future. Don't worry too much about tomorrow, because anxiety can't solve any problems, it will only make the status quo worse. There is usually only one reason why you are confused: you think too much and do too little at the age when you should work hard.
13. Don't let bad emotions confuse the world and your own heart and emotions. The key to controlling your destiny lies in more famous sayings.
14. When you are not strong enough, don't complain everywhere. Do what you should do quietly. When you become good enough, you can stand at a new height and embrace more beautiful scenery.
15. If you leave, don't ask me how I'm doing. If I'm not good, you can't help me. If I'm fine, it's not your credit.
16. I thought that as long as I like it seriously, I can impress someone, but I found that I only touched myself.
17. Real happiness is optimism about life, happiness about work and excitement about career. -Ai En Stein
18. Life is a wandering journey. Cherish those who can move you, remember those who can make you cry, let go of those who can make you indifferent, and forget those who can make you indifferent.
19. When you are depressed, you don't have to talk to others for comfort. Stay alone for a while, comfort yourself and get out of the pain, and you will be stronger than before.
20. Everyone has his own difficulties, which others can't understand and feel. They keep their sadness to themselves. They don't love it in the past, they don't welcome it in the future, and they don't live up to it now, so it's safe.
A person's life depends on his ability to solve problems independently. If you ask others everything, even if you are surrounded by experts, you will still be in a mess.
22. There are many things people don't want to do in this life. If you care so much about everything, you will be even more tired.
Violent people always go from one extreme to the other. -To Fuller.
24. I don't like to talk when I am sad. I like silence without comfort. I like to stand by the window and stare at the distance. Like to walk aimlessly, like to cry alone, wipe tears alone, feel sad alone and share with others. See the line of sight blurred to clear, blurred to clear, repeated. Later, I found that we have always been just one person, strong and happy.
25. Wildcat women are very headstrong. They are stubborn and lovely, savage and gentle. Even if they don't want something, they can't let others have it. They are greedy because they are afraid of loneliness.
26. The benevolent is not worried, the knower is not confused, and the brave is not afraid. In a threesome, there must be a teacher; Choose the good and follow it, change the bad.
27. Life is very stressful, and all kinds of food are full of magic; Strawberry cabbage is comfortable, full of energy and lemon flavor; Excessive tension and anxiety, use half an onion every day; Ginger can provide oxygen to the brain, and red dates and lotus seed milk can make the nervous mood easier; Dear friends, following the rules will reduce the pressure and make you happy.
28. By the way, I haven't controlled my weight recently, because my parents sent meals and my weight soared. Next, we should control our weight, adjust our mentality and welcome the New Year happily.
29. Character is a person's destiny. Heilarites
30. Fight for what you like, cherish what you get and forget what you miss. Life is so simple.
3 1. To be a real person, it is not enough to have logical thinking, but also to have a strong temperament. Stendhal
32. Kindness is not easy to learn, and its cover is also stupid; If you know well and don't learn well, your cover will waver; Honesty is not easy to learn, and its cover is also a thief; Straight board is difficult to learn, and the cover is distorted; If you are brave and study hard, your cover will be messy; It is difficult to learn, but it is also crazy.
33. "Why don't you work hard and want everything"-please remember this sentence. What kind of life you want depends on your own struggle. If you want it, you have to pay first. Good morning, * * *! !
Only when you are satisfied with yourself will you be satisfied with your life. Do a job you like, earn a little but spend enough money, stick to one or two hobbies, take care of your family and don't forget to keep yourself.
35. The sea is full of laughter, the tide of life is surging, and difficulties and hardships are also presented. When the sea smiles, the pressure will tell who wins and who loses. When the sea laughs, don't bother yourself. Smiling smugly is still attractive in this life.
36. One thing, no matter how beautiful, once there is no result, don't pester it again, it will be very tired for a long time; A person, even if he remembers it again, can't catch it, but he should put it down at the right time. This will hurt and break his heart for a long time. Sometimes, giving up is also a kind of persistence. If you miss the splendor of summer flowers, you will definitely walk into the quiet beauty of autumn leaves. Everything, anyone, will become the past. Don't embarrass it. No matter how embarrassing or difficult, you must learn to get rid of it.
37. No one suddenly doesn't love you, but you suddenly know it.
38. You cannot change the environment, but you can change yourself; You can't change the facts, but you can change your attitude; You cannot change the past, but you can change the present; You cannot control others, but you can control yourself.
39. No matter when, where and who, you should try to decompress yourself. At this time, you will feel the relaxation and satisfaction brought by decompression! Wish: At this moment, your mood is as cool as the summer breeze.
40. The relationship between two people is like knitting a sweater. When it was established, it was a needle and a thread, thin and long. Just pull it gently when you remove it.
Sentences that regulate self-emotion and spread positive energy
Sentences that regulate self-emotion and spread positive energy (I) 1. The relationship between two people is like knitting a sweater. When it was built, it was a needle and a thread, thin and long. Just pull it gently when you remove it.
2. Look down on what you value and value the most easily overlooked relatives.
When life is unhappy, treat it as a "holiday". When the "holiday" ends, life has just begun.
Don't look down on every little thing you do. Only by doing them beautifully can you achieve great things in the future. Don't worry too much about tomorrow, because anxiety can't solve any problems, it will only make the status quo worse. There is usually only one reason why you are confused: you think too much and do too little at the age when you should work hard.
5. It doesn't matter how much money you have, just be happy; Friends don't care much, just be close. Although the pressure is great, everything will pass. I hope you can get rid of your troubles, be happy, have a better career and a better life.
6. Being very angry easily leads to anger and worry. This is a bad habit, it will make the mind produce inappropriate ideas. This is an impulsive and irrational behavior. Abraham
7. Nobody can change the past. Let bygones be bygones. The important thing is to learn a lesson and start over!
8. As the saying goes, only by sharing weal and woe for a long time can you make friends who will never look back. You are my companion on the stormy road, and send my sincere wishes. I wish my friends happy every day, escape from the mountain of stress and live a wonderful life forever.
9. Modern people in circles are rushing to work, busy and wandering around. The pressure is too great to make a living at all. Dude, there's a good idea. Take time out of work to do it. Roll around and laugh!
10. You can't change the environment, but you can change yourself; You can't change the facts, but you can change your attitude; You cannot change the past, but you can change the present; You cannot control others, but you can control yourself.
165438+ There are too many people in my life. As long as you know it clearly, there is no need to please someone who doesn't understand you.
12. Sometimes, we live very tired, not because life is too mean, but because we are too easily infected by the external atmosphere and influenced by other people's emotions. Walking in the crowd, we always feel that there are countless pairs of eyes sweeping our hearts and lungs, and there are many rumors, which eventually confuse our minds and gradually bind us in a mess we weave. In fact, you live for yourself, and not many people can take you to heart.
13. People who have no money pursue wealth, while those who have money pursue simplicity. Struggle hard without a career, and always want to quit when you have a career. Everyone wants something different. But after the vicissitudes of life, you will find that the real good life is nothing more than a family of three, with both parents, not tired of work, earning a lot of money, living a stable life and quiet years.
14. The world is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. If you cry to him, he will cry to you.
15. Whether you are waiting or confused, don't leave yourself in the same place. Every day can be a new beginning as long as you make up your mind.
16. When you are not strong enough, don't complain everywhere. Do what you should do quietly. When you become good enough, you can stand at a new height and embrace more beautiful scenery.
17. The boss is responsible for everything. Suddenly there was a reform, and the maternity leave lost 8000 yuan. Ok, adjust your mentality and get ready for work.
18. Do you speak French? Change it to Cheng Gui. Can you not say anything about it? Deduction is expensive. Say it without deduction, so as not to change, I am at the end of what has passed.
19. There are many ways to relieve stress. I'll talk about it today: empathy is very important, and you can extricate yourself with nature; Deal with problems rationally and do a good job in environmental renewal; Music health care is very scientific, confident and independent to find happiness; Psychological constraints are easier to relieve stress.
20. You are like this. You are so cool, so stubborn, so sensitive, you will die. If anything happens, you will only die. There is no room for a grain of sand in your eyes, so no one loves you and no one cares about your feelings.
Sentences that regulate self-emotion and spread positive energy (Part II) 2 1. I just talked to Liang, and Youyou is right. If the child goes to college in the future, it will not be yours. We should adjust our mentality!
22. People you really like can't be friends, even if you look at them more, you still want to have them. I have never given up loving you, but I have changed from being strong to being silent.
23. Pressure may be the driving force, but it should not be too great. It is very important to adjust your mentality. If the pressure becomes depressed, you will always feel unhappy. If pressure becomes motivation, you can achieve new results.
24. Too few setbacks will make you feel that trivial things are troubles. May you no longer be fragile, may you be strong and impeccable, and may there always be light in your eyes to live the life you want.
25. Everyone has his hidden essence, which is different from anyone's. Let people have their own taste. -romain rolland
26. Our character is who we are. -Bergson
27. Life needs stability, and you must have enough time to reflect to make yourself more perfect; Life needs to be accumulated, and only by looking back often can it be sublimated in the gain and loss of taste. In fact, life does not need this meaningless persistence. Learning to give up makes life very simple. There is a feeling that there is no chance, and there is a kind of giving up that is called fulfillment.
28. The eagle pushed the bird that just learned to fly off the cliff. If it doesn't flap its wings, it will die. A good growth environment is the expectation of each of us, but it is not necessarily a bad thing if the world has not been gentle with us. The best way out is no way back. You never know how great you will become unless you push yourself.
29. The distance between us is just right, neither more nor less. We can hug each other or forget at any time.
30. Our success and failure always go hand in hand. There are smooth roads and thorny beaches. I used to be depressed and depressed. It's really not worthwhile to think about it now, because after the experience, I finally understand that the best solution is not to retreat and give up, but to adjust your mentality and face it bravely.
3 1. A person must not be too eager for success, and don't think about reaching the sky in one step. Taking a step-by-step attitude is definitely much safer than the so-called "pigs can take off when standing in the air".
32. Being a man is like water, the spirit of water: always change your form and keep looking for a way out, no matter when and where; Don't refuse to join any sand and stones, but wrap yourself up and go forward, strengthen your strength and go forward; Whenever I encounter obstacles, I always slowly accumulate strength and finally break through; Wan Li Wan Li, the nature has not changed.
33. Make friends through writing and help others through friendship.
Sometimes we are unhappy because our abilities can't keep up with our ambitions and our desires exceed our needs.
35. Every persistence is a successful accumulation. Believe in yourself, there will always be surprises, affirm yourself, and don't give up easily; Every morning is the beginning of hope. Encourage yourself and show your confidence. The harder you work, the luckier you will be!
36. Drink a bowl full of chicken soup, adjust your mentality and continue to travel in the sea of misery.
37. The secret of success lies in knowing how to control the power of pain and happiness without being countered by this power. If you can do this, you can control your life, otherwise, you can't control your life. Anthony Robbins
38. Every encounter in life is just the right time. You will meet some people constantly, and you will say goodbye to some people constantly, from strange to familiar, from familiar to strange, from like-minded to parted ways, from meeting each other late to seeing each other.
39. People who look forward to the future are dreamers with uncertain future; Looking back, it is the watchman who is addicted to memories; Grasping today's reality is the doer based on reality. Yesterday has passed, and tomorrow will come. Cherish today, now! Life will always give you another chance, and this opportunity is called tomorrow.
40. If you used to like someone, you could come at the call and leave them at once. If you like someone now, you can still come at the drop of a hat, but you will no longer accept it. Because I know now that I am fine, you only have one chance to love me.
Forty sentences about negative emotions learning to adjust themselves.
Negative emotions learn to adjust themselves. 1.
2. What you gave me was the hurt of despair. What I give you is the perfection of my life.
People can't be perfect, but they can pursue perfection. In the process of pursuing perfection, it is the transformation of the soul and the life you want.
Don't look down on every little thing you do. Only by doing them beautifully can you achieve great things in the future. Don't worry too much about tomorrow, because anxiety can't solve any problems, it will only make the status quo worse. There is usually only one reason why you are confused: you think too much and do too little at the age when you should work hard.
Time has forced us to change a lot.
6. Don't envy those who have a better life than you. People whose lives are better than yours are because they work harder than you. No one will succeed easily, so you should believe that as long as you work hard enough, you will succeed.
7. The pressure of life is constant, and the friendship between friends remains unchanged. Don't sigh when you are troubled by stress. Friends will calm your anger, and friends will always bless you.
8. Too few setbacks will make you feel that trivial things are troubles. May you no longer be fragile, may you be strong and impeccable, and may there always be light in your eyes to live the life you want.
9. Control your emotions in everything. Nothing can't be solved by a cup of milk tea. If one is not enough, two!
10. The best way for a person to survive in this world and society is to constantly learn and change himself.
1 1. Good temper is the wealth of life. -Wei Hezlet
12. It doesn't matter how much money you have, just be happy; Friends don't care much, just be close. Although the pressure is great, everything will pass. I hope you can get rid of your troubles, be happy, have a better career and a better life.
13. You gain wisdom after eating a pit, and after one thing, you sharpen your mind. Don't do anything that hurts others, and don't be defensive. We should be careful in future work, implement the details well and avoid unnecessary mistakes. Even if you encounter a temporary stumbling, you should quickly adjust your mentality.
14. Life is very stressful, and all kinds of food are full of magic; Strawberry cabbage is comfortable, full of energy and lemon flavor; Excessive tension and anxiety, use half an onion every day; Ginger can provide oxygen to the brain, and red dates and lotus seed milk can make the nervous mood easier; Dear friends, following the rules will reduce the pressure and make you happy.
15. On the road to success, the biggest enemy is not lack of opportunities or junior qualifications, but lack of control over one's emotions. When you are angry, you can't control your anger and make your partners around you flinch. When you are depressed, you indulge your depression and waste many fleeting opportunities.
16. The relationship between two people is like knitting a sweater. When it was built, it was a needle and a thread, thin and long. Just pull it gently when you remove it.
17. There are many kinds of pressures, and Ah Q's spirit is also good; How easy it is to let nature take its course and laugh at yourself happily; Busy and tired, poor and full is life; Ordinary hardships are also beautiful, and how happy it is to enjoy life.
18. Faced with pressure, sometimes I feel helpless, sometimes I feel lonely, sometimes I feel scared, and sometimes I just listen to Nuo Nuo; Relieve the pressure, sometimes adjust the mentality, sometimes seek help for entertainment, sometimes rest, and sometimes tell the truth; I hope my information can make you happy!
19. The real manager is the manager's emotions. —— Gu Xiuquan
20. Don't calculate too much, let nature take its course. If you choose the complexity of life, you choose the pain. Choosing simplicity is choosing happiness. The lost scenery, the lost crowd and the desire to wait are all the ends of fate. Why be too persistent? What should come will come naturally, and what should go will not stay.
Negative emotions learn to adjust themselves. When you are depressed, you don't have to talk to others and seek comfort. Stay alone for a while, comfort yourself and get out of the pain, and you will be stronger than before.
22. A gentleman's name must be said, and his words must be done. A gentleman is nothing more than his words.
23. If you are in a bad mood, listen to sad songs less. If you are hungry, you should find your own food. If you are afraid of the dark, you should turn on the light. If you want it, you have to make money to buy it yourself. Even if life gives you all kinds of obstacles, there is no need to exaggerate your difficulties with sitcoms. The reality is so cruel, how can you pretend to be innocent? Don't care too much about what can't be changed. People who can't stay will try to give up, and broken hearts will try their best to heal themselves. Except for life and death, it is a small matter. Don't embarrass yourself.
24. Pressure may be the driving force, but it should not be too great. It is very important to adjust your mentality. If the pressure becomes depressed, you will always feel unhappy. If pressure becomes motivation, you can achieve new results.
25. It is the stupidest thing to change yourself in order to make others like you, so that others only like the fake you. You should insist on being your truest self, so that no one will like you anyway.
26. After the vicissitudes of life, read all the vicissitudes of life, like yourself, smile quietly, and face the ups and downs of life. With an understanding, I walked through the flashy world with warmth and indifference, warmed the cold years with a touch of pain with the gentlest gesture, danced lightly and flowed into the warm years, not to mention desolation. Looking back, I calmly and proudly faced the vicissitudes of life, even though my heart was riddled with holes, my steps had already faltered.
27. The distance between us is just right, neither more nor less. We can hug each other or forget at any time.
28. Wake up every day, face the sunshine, work hard, and believe that life will become simple and beautiful.
29. Whether you are waiting or confused, don't leave yourself where you are. Every day can be a new beginning as long as you make up your mind.
30. The pear is big, so find some friends to share it with. When you are tired from work, give yourself a holiday to relax. After a long separation, I miss you and send some blessings. I can't share this pear with you anymore. Learn to take care of yourself.
3 1. The most embarrassing thing is that others don't take you seriously at all, and you are still sentimental there, so don't overestimate your position in others' hearts.
32. The standard of maturity is not the absence of love and hate, nor the absence of emotions, but the silence of all thoughts and feelings.
33. This is a great summer gift! Send a cup of heatstroke prevention and decompression tea: a refreshing drink is good; Second, drink garbage and run away; Three cups make you feel happy, four cups make money quickly, and five cups have perfect curves and good charm!
If you always pay attention to other people's opinions and external threats, you can't do what you really want to do. You must stick to what you like, and concentrate on nothing, in order to gain something, instead of always being disturbed by others.
35. The pressure is not terrible. Face it calmly. Stress is like a gust of wind, and life is fun. Love is precious, and the pressure is not high. If it is for happiness, you can throw both.
36. Between success and failure, it is simple and complicated. In short, as long as you don't fail, that is the greatest success!
If you can control your thoughts, you can control your emotions.
38. There is no second chance in life. Don't be a lazy person. Laziness destroys the figure and dreams. Good morning! !
39. The benevolent is not worried, the knower is not confused, and the brave is not afraid. In a threesome, there must be a teacher; Choose the good and follow it, change the bad.
The biggest lesson I have learned is that our thoughts are the most important. If I can understand your thoughts, I can understand you, because your thoughts make you who you are. By changing our own ideas, we can change our lives.