Read: almost New Year's Eve, take the baby to go to relatives, mothers are the most annoying is the baby was some "bear relatives" of the goodwill of the teasing, such as feeding the child snacks and drinking ah, hugging the child kiss, take the child to play with firecrackers, ah, all kinds of tickling to make fun of ah, know that this is not good for the baby, but mothers can not pull their face refused to stop! The first is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you want to do with your child.
"Bear relatives" the first move: messy child feeding, drinking
Common scenarios: Ms. Yin's daughter in a relative's home was fed half of a walnut, resulting in cardinal points, because the parents in a timely manner with the "Heimlich maneuver" first aid and hospitalization, her daughter out of danger! Only then was her daughter out of danger. During the Spring Festival, many hospitals, almost every day can be received by relatives fed nuts snacks and lead to a foreign body stuck in the throat of the baby.
In addition to indiscriminately feeding nuts to babies and young children, feeding alcohol to children is not uncommon "theater". The netizen "Jing Jing mom" in the parenting forum, said a relative with chopsticks dipped in wine to their 1-year-old child to drink, resulting in the child's violent cough.
Tips: You should clearly remind your relatives not to feed snacks such as melon seeds, walnuts, peanuts and jujubes to children under 3 years old. The first thing you need to do is to learn the "Heimlich maneuver" in case of an accident and win the golden time.
To feed alcohol to infants and young children must be rejected, children are in the stage of growth, the body's organs are not yet mature, especially the digestive organs, to children drink, will damage the liver, stomach, and reduce immunity and memory, and to infants drink, if the seriousness of the impact on brain development.
"Bear relatives" second trick: teasing the child that "mom does not love you"
Common scenarios: a mother said 6-year-old daughter DouDou always hit only 3 months brother, and always crying and asking themselves, is not love her! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. It turns out that this Spring Festival, will always hear the relatives to the new addition to the brother to tease Doudou, for example, "your mother in the future only love your brother, do not love you." The first time I heard this, I would cry, but my relatives were so happy to hear it.
In addition to "Mommy doesn't love you anymore," "Are you a boy or a girl? I guess you're a girl!" Most of the children will not know what to do and cry, the relatives of the fun, but the parents can not do anything.
Tips: Early childhood experts suggest: adults to tease the child, actually a tease. They tease the child to make a mistake, or panic or even cry, the adults will laugh. Adults do not have malicious intent, or because they like children; but for children is a cruel behavior, often make children feel angry, frightened, upset, deceived, disrespected, so that their hearts are hurt.
When a child is fooled, parents need to be the first to protect the child. Don't try to persuade the child because you are in the way, and don't try to persuade the child, or explain for the person who teased the child. When the child is crying, parents can calmly put the child's feelings out, on the one hand, let the child understand that people do not mean any harm; on the other hand, also said to friends and relatives to listen. If necessary, you can take the child temporarily away for a while to take care of the child's emotions.
"Bear relatives" third trick: tease the child's sensitive parts
Common scenarios: 2-year-old boy Dudu just learned to walk before this Spring Festival, his mother put on his crotch pants. When traveling to relatives, Dudu bare little *** run around especially cute. A lot of relatives are in the dodo *** touch, pull a pull. Older elders, will also play a play dudu's "small penis". "One of Toot-toot's aunts even wrapped her hand around Toot-toot's penis and lied to him that it had flown." And the aunt didn't even wash her hands after playing mahjong. The original child's sensitive parts were relatives "attack", so many mothers troubled.
Tips: Maternal and Child Health Hospital dermatologist: parents should beware of relatives to tease some sensitive parts of the baby, such as the genitals, this way of teasing is not only unsightly, but also on the baby's health has a negative impact. The baby's genitals and urethra mucosa is relatively delicate, easy to be damaged, adult hands contaminated with germs will invade the baby's urethra, resulting in urinary tract infection. In order to avoid the child to be subjected to such disturbances, parents can go to relatives before the child to wear a diaper or diaper, and then with the whole crotch pants.
Teach you how to gracefully refuse someone teasing your child?
How to refuse - strong touch, strong embrace, strong kiss, ask for a kiss
Cute *** meat face, clumsy movements, let a person look at the heart of love, can not help but reach out and pinch a little, and even some overly enthusiastic "fans" will be a bear hug! The first thing you need to do is to take advantage of the fact that you can't get your hands on your own baby, so you can't help but reach out and pinch it. If you're so close to your child, haven't you ever thought about the fact that if an adult carries germs, he or she may pass them on to the child? The toxic qualities of cosmetics can be brought to children? If everyone pinches their little faces and noses like this, aren't they afraid that their pretty little faces will grow out of shape? I think it's scary to think about ......
Teach you to elegantly refuse to tease the child skills Part1:
1, direct refusal. If it is an acquaintance, this trick should be more direct, you can say "please do not always pinch / hold the baby, this will be unhygienic yea!"
2, politely refused. If it is not too good, you can use a kindly baby's tone of voice to them to say "Thank you grandparents so like me ah, but pinch more will be drooling, it does not look good ah.
3. Divert attention. To break the baby back from the line of sight of others may be saved from the "poisonous hand", this time to remind you, in the other people's words of praise finished, the baby's face turned to their own: "Come on, Auntie said that the baby grows fat it? Mom to see the fat is not fat ah "Oh ......
How to refuse - a variety of feeding baby snacks
family and friends to eat, see the baby cute also have to give the baby a taste, but sometimes The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. Moreover, the baby is small, can not resist the food temptation ah, it is easy to "silly" to taste a bite. This is the first time I've ever seen a baby with an eye on the road, and I've never seen one before.
Encountered such excessively enthusiastic, excessively polite friends and relatives, really let the mother is very helpless, this time the mother do not embarrassed, play your little universe, quickly come up with a variety of types of reasons to excuse the past!
Teach you to elegantly refuse to tease the child skills Part2:
1, the classic pie reason: "The baby a few days a little cough / throat is not good / fire it!"
2, euphemistic school reason: "Since the baby is still small is not suitable to eat or the baby is just eating a good meal out or the baby is still small, we have not let him eat these snacks it." Before saying these words, it is best to first on behalf of the baby first thank people for their kindness, and then informed in a gentle tone, in most cases other parents also understand and recognize Oh!
3, on behalf of the collection of pie reason: "baby is not hungry now, eat later." Can't refuse the enthusiasm, the hemp can first take over the food of others, and then directly into the pocket (if the food is packaged) and said "baby is not hungry, eat later. This way, you can gracefully take the food home and make a decision, picking out what the baby can eat, and what the baby can't eat, and then just eat it yourself, or another family member can eat it.
How to refuse - a variety of scratching to amuse
If it is the baby's parents' acquaintances, especially like with the baby to come with intimate physical contact: scratching. Being able to watch your baby laugh happily all the time is the most gratifying thing as a parent. But if the baby is made to laugh passively for a long time by scratching in this way, it is not desirable.
Listening to the baby's laughter and watching the baby dance around is a great joy. However, the hemp on the protest: such a small baby is not autonomous consciousness, if the laugh too long, may lead to the baby lack of oxygen, serious or even asphyxiation? This worry is not unfounded. In addition, there is a special case, never make the baby laugh, is in the baby eating, it is easy to cause food directly into the esophagus choking, very dangerous.
Teach you to elegantly refuse to tease the child skills Part3:
1, just say it. "Ouch, this way to play with the baby, too dangerous! Blablablabla (possible impact)"
2, if you think it's still too direct, a little euphemism! "Ouch, play with your baby like this, he might get tired! I found an interesting game, why don't we try to see ...... (recommend a small game with a low risk factor)".
How to see the side of the "bear relatives" -
The child is always not living in a vacuum, always have to face the shape of the community *** people and things, so the encounter with other people to tease the child is not entirely a bad thing, the parents to deal with the right, the bad can also become good. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that. In this process, parents encourage their children to say their true feelings, boldly express their own ideas, bravely reject others "tease" him, the child's inner strength will slowly increase, which is a good thing. If the parents can rationally and appropriately deal with the problem of "teasing" the child, the child will subconsciously follow the example of the parents, learn how to deal with their own dislike of the scene, learn how to deal with the world, this is not a vivid lesson?