1, be an emotionally stable adult.
There are many unhappy things in life. To be an emotionally stable person and find an emotionally stable partner is to prevent life from entering a hard mode. Imagine that after a hard day's work, you have to face the depression, anger and pain of your other half when you get home. The starting point may be that today's food is not fragrant enough, the work is not satisfactory, and the e-commerce customer service reply does not say "you" and you forget to say good night. Is your love still there?
2, emotional tolerance, strict with self-discipline, lenient with others.
Getting along with couples is not a game, but a responsibility. While pleasing yourself, you also have an obligation to think of the other half. If two people can be strict with themselves, be lenient with others, maintain a friendly and open attitude when encountering difficulties, criticize each other less, state themselves more, and sincerely assume themselves and their partners, there will be fewer and fewer emotional conflicts.
3, the three views are consistent, and the heart is in harmony.
The real coincidence of the three views will bring a super tacit emotional experience. If there are always all kinds of embarrassing quarrels, it means that the three views, living habits and life experiences are very different and will be out of place.
You can share my emotional experience with my partner.
We met by playing with the same friend, and both of them would go in and stand. The only child of working families in second-and third-tier cities will come to the first-tier city of Shanghai to drift together. It can be said that the backgrounds are very similar, and they are all the most common towns as problem writers.
After being together, I also faced many difficulties (wry smile):
For example, I have been working in the imperial city, but I want to settle in the magic capital with him; He doesn't earn as much as I do, because he graduated from graduate school; Both of them have jobs, and they can't catch their breath until 10 every day, so they can't maintain their feelings at all; His family and mine have different customs in marriage and so on.
But even in the face of so many difficulties, we have no fierce double killing and cold violence this year. Keep in mind the three core keywords, so that we can be more weather-resistant. Now I think of all sugar.
I can always feel my boyfriend's love overflowing.
When he cleans together, he will naturally sigh, "How can you be so happy at work when you have a baby?" On the way home from work, I will bring back some small surprises that I like to eat, watermelon and fried tofu to make me happy; He will unconsciously pat me after I get up in the middle of the night, go to the bathroom and go to bed. It is natural to wake up every morning. The first thing is to get into the quilt of the landlord and rub your nose to install a big dog. ...
The feeling of being loved is hidden in the details, so he will feel particularly safe. Even if he is involved in the work, he will not worry about being perfunctory and neglected, and he will not think about it. Extrapolating to the future marriage life will be so bleak.
I am very good at being strict with myself and lenient with others.
Because the two sides are facing different places and love, I resolutely stopped social security and left Beijing, far away from my hometown, which is only 100 km away from Beijing, and drifted from Beijing to Shanghai. But it's my personal decision. I never think it's a huge sacrifice I made for each other. And objectively speaking, many life difficulties faced by girls are imposed by society and life, not brought by their partners. However, my boyfriend will take the initiative to put forward and recognize my efforts in communication, insist that boys take more responsibilities and be a good boyfriend in life, so that I won't feel that marriage life is difficult because of our two-person life.
For example, he spontaneously does all the cooking work, ensuring four dishes and one soup for each meal, but when I wash the dishes, he will clean the table, stand by and watch me chat with me and pick up garbage, and he is never idle when I work; He will naturally do the work of standing tall, carrying, storing and sorting out large items at home.
When we were thinking about getting married and living in a first-tier city, we emptied six wallets. Boyfriend is willing to share the property equally under the condition of a higher down payment at home to compensate the sacrifice of women at home.
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We are all people who have a lot of fun in life, and we always surprise each other.
We are in perfect harmony. After the beautiful love began, we gained new skills from each other: buy buy and buy buy visited dozens of board games, played steam games together, read novels that interested each other together, went to friends' houses to eat cat meals together, and studied how to fry things with an air fryer together. We all feel the same way. We are not consuming past life experiences and interests, but constantly merging, sharing our interests and supplementing each other's interests.
May everyone find their own happiness ~ happiness is not far away.