Inspirational long article: the world, and will not live up to your efforts
By Xie Kehui
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The first low point of my life was at the age of fifteen, and it was also at that time, the first time I understood that what you want to be at peace with each other, and in the end, it is just evolved into a single shape.
When I first entered middle school, I was particularly concerned by teachers. I'm not sure if I'm a good teacher, but I'm a good teacher, and I'm a good teacher. You know that the best encouragement for adolescent girls is not the award, but the name of the teacher read out on the radio, and the cultural performances when you always stand in the first row, then already know that other people's envy and attention is more important than anything else.
My sharp turn came from two things.
One thing was inexplicably being ? early love? About this matter, I have not had the opportunity to clarify until now, of course, that time even less opportunity. Almost all of my classmates identified me? early love? and, ironically, they gloated that the boy didn't like me. The homeroom and language teacher at the time told my parents that she was just too full of herself and that the boy didn't even like her. My mother was furious at the teacher's disparagement of her daughter and her own daughter's lack of ambition. That semester, I slipped from fifth in the class to 20th.
The other thing came from a change in my body. That year, I gained weight from 100 pounds to 130 pounds for unknown reasons. Now, every time I see those girls wearing glasses, wearing school uniforms, dragging their fat faces, shaking off their own body fat, I can clearly brainstorm what I looked like at that time. Adolescence was simply too cruel to me. As a student, the destruction of a girl's self-confidence was never her grades, but her image. The boy who was once rumored to be the only one who avoided me, and I never dared to look up at him, as if a glance, is a kind of invisible ridicule.
I don't know how I got through that time, I feel especially like a change from the main character to not qualified to play on the bench, I sat on the cold bench, muffled over and over again, to see nothing more than a sideways glance. But I'm still particularly grateful for that time myself, never give up on themselves, cold bench although cold, but the heart is always with the heart to warm themselves.
In the absence of friends, a person to go to the cafeteria to eat, a person to do recess, a person to jump rope, a person to shoot baskets. I didn't mind that my tall, obese body never had a partner, and no one wanted a partner. I was fairly attentive in class because I knew that if I couldn't do a topic, there was no chance of asking my classmates. Including the teacher, she never paid attention to me afterward, except for my fairly good grades, which could earn the class a place in the top 100 in the whole year section, but never had any qualifications for awards and honors.
But I always smile, I don't want to use my face of sadness to let those who don't like to get carried away, I want to use a smile to sensitize myself, even if often a person.
There is a teacher very much like me, a number of years later, she ran into me when she asked why then always look at me in class especially busy, I said if you fire alone at home without help, is not busy. She said, "You can ask me for help. I said you have so many students, I do not want to make things difficult for you, so rely on yourself.
Years later, someone said I always look like a face of gnashing teeth to carry all the things, I said, because only they are never leave themselves.
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My university is a local college, very unknown. When I was a child, once the test scores were bad, my grandmother would always scare me: reading is so bad, after that you can only read so-and-so university. Small places are always very strange, more longing for the outside world, so become sacred, and for their own city has everything, as if it is not capable of jumping out of this place of talent to live in the place.
It's a coincidence that this is how I filled in my local school after scoring a second grade, and I'm still proud of it.
But a distant relative thought otherwise. She didn't know that I was studying at a local university, and then we met at a very casual dinner party. She also guessed that I was about to graduate, so she asked me where I was studying and said she could introduce me to a good job. But when I told her the name of the school, she was silent. At that time, the whole atmosphere of the meal immediately fell into an awkward, around the relatives, including my parents do not know how to clean up the scene. She said: now this kind of local institutions, if you graduate, it is difficult to find a job, 1000 yuan a month no one wants. Later, my father said that he could not tolerate others to say this about their daughters, the daughter is ugly, but also can not tolerate the taunts of others.
The year I graduated, my graduate school grades were not bad, and at the same time, I also got a regular job. Of course, I chose the latter. I don't want to talk about how my senior year was after everyone left campus, sleeping alone in a cold dorm room, surrounded by people who went out for internships, while I read, memorized English, and then had time to write all kinds of manuscripts, throwing my weight around in an uncertain future. I always remembered the words of that distant relative, but I worked hard not to contradict her, but to make myself live a better life.
Later, when I ran into this distant relative, she pretended that nothing had happened, and she pushed her glass of wine with me as usual, and I never mentioned it. But I always remember the look of bemusement on her face when she met me again, until I patted her on the shoulder with her to defuse it. There are times when all your strength comes from yourself, and the strength to be able to sit down and talk and laugh with others comes from yourself, and your best weapon against all disdain is never to take up a shield, but to take up a weapon, and communicate with her without moving, and also communicate freely.
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I initially wrote a period of time, but also experienced a period of sea casting. Sea casting is actually a very painful thing, like you suddenly fell into the river, waiting for someone to support a Penny to pull you to the shore, but he only has one, so it does not necessarily belong to you.
In fact, I've had a pretty good time submitting articles, and at the beginning, I put out about five articles, and I was able to get one accepted. There are some very responsible editors will take the initiative to write to me, tell me to return the article, told me to submit another, of course, most newspapers are stone silent. For a long time, I almost can't hold on, people again big determination will be knocked down, let alone a test of water.
That year, I ran into an editor, almost a turning point in my life. At that time I had not yet written a column, there is no large number of appointments, through the sea can be published, you can be excited for many days. The editor is a very cold editor, until now, in addition to have a manuscript sent to her, we rarely chat.
But she is very respectful of authors' manuscripts. An hour after I sent her the article, she replied to me with information about using the manuscript, and called me, and her exact words were: I think your article is very good, if you can, welcome to contribute more to us, you can open a column, very welcome.
As a small author, I did not sleep well almost all night. Not so much the joy of having landed on my own, but the feeling that the world, does not fail you in your efforts, nor does it fail to give you hope because of your obscurity. As well, you begin to identify the world as a place where you have hope of meeting a good person and begin to strive to be one. Soon after that, I started writing columns and gradually many of them started coming my way.
Now, I work with this editor all the time. She often asked me why, once the page does not have a manuscript, contact me, I am always the first willing to write, even if the fee is not high. I always said pretentiously: because I want to be a good person like you ah.
Eileen Chang said: If you know the former me, you will forgive the present me. Every present self, in fact, is the past self of the patchwork, you used to be good, you used to be bad, you used to cry, you used to laugh, in fact, has always been, and live and let live. I would like to say that after many years, when you have tasted life, your mind is a huge sensor, you do not have to control and do not have to deliberately experience, it is coping with ease, will also keep you safe.
Inspirational article: The road is taken step by step
By Miguel
In the two years since I graduated, my friend Kai has been in a state of extreme anxiety, and his mood has been fluctuating. The only way to vent, is to write something on the Internet, understand the people to give some words of comfort, do not understand the people laugh and drift through, can not read the people said he was in ? I'm not sure if you're a fan of this. , living a vain life.
In fact, his anxiety is not without reason, many people have experienced: do not dare to think about the future, do not know where tomorrow?
Out of the ivory tower, drifting in a foreign land, clutching only a few hundred dollars, renting a humble house, going to the Internet café every day to cast the resume, the city's various districts have been running all over the city, two months down, is not able to find a suitable job. The money in hand is less and less, looking at the former classmates and friends are gradually stabilized down, the heart can not help but anxious and panic.
The most difficult thing is when parents call to ask about the recent situation. The most important thing to remember is that you can't afford to lose your face. Parents have been supporting themselves for many years, looking forward to graduating from the university, always think that they have made it, if you know that you have not even found a job, I'm afraid that the heart will be disappointed. The only thing you can do is to report the good news against your will, saying that everything is fine, and then secretly wiping a few tears after hanging up the phone. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need.
When I was not in the world, I thought of the prosperous city, everywhere is the opportunity to display their talents, like the countryside in the fields of the blooming wildflowers. But really into the community, only to realize that most people are just making do, always have to first live in the city without relatives, only to be qualified to talk about the dream.
The first job, a monthly salary of 1200 dollars, Kai accepted, because there is no other choice. At the end of the month, he was paid, according to the number of days, he got 400 dollars. The 400 dollars, for him at the time, was a life-saving straw. He held it until his palms were sweaty, and he said in his heart: "Finally, I can live.
When the days gradually into the right track, the pressure of survival has basically been solved, at least can afford to rent a cheap house, can afford to eat small restaurant meals. However, the initial anxiety did not dissipate, but rather intensified.
Some people around the world have been promoted, some have gone abroad to study, some have entered foreign companies, some have bought houses, some have driven a car, and some have begun to prepare for marriage. The other people's lives always seem to be in a big step forward, their own survival over the baseline, compared with others, but there is a long distance.
Around the girlfriend is no longer as simple and pure as the university, a lovely more ice cream has not moved her heart, she now wants Haagen-Dazs; see others in the city in a corner, have a home of their own, and then look at their own simple rental, she is full of aggrieved, although not directly, but everything is written on the face.
He panicked, messed up, facing the reality of their own, he did not know what tomorrow? He envisioned those future, he gave her those promises, in his heart, more and more like a distant dream.
Finally, love lost to the naked reality. Many things, think through will not be entangled, decadent and depressed. The pain of losing love is inevitable, but Kai is still awake. In order to get himself adjusted as soon as possible, from the past memories of the withdrawal, he will be a large amount of time and energy into the work, no longer concerned about the surrounding people whether to get married, buy a house, promotion, those will only add to his irritation.
He was transferred from the original office staff to the sales department to do business, every day early morning and late at night, and deal with many strange customers. This is like a special window that gives him a chance to see another world and opens up another path for his heart. He forgot about time and worries and focused on each day's task and each client.
From the initial repeated rejection, to the subsequent small orders, and then later pulled to the big customers, all the way through the rugged and difficult, but also brought him great encouragement and confidence, healed his heart wound, expelled his inexplicable anxiety.
The busy days always fly by. Now he has his own foothold in the company? Independent office, the office door is clearly written on the three words: manager's office. Yes, relying on their own struggles and efforts, he has become the company's business manager, the company equipped with a car, although the house is still rented, but it has long been not a humble hut.
Every holiday, he can frankly call his parents, tell them that everything is fine, and occasionally pick up his parents to come over to live. As for the feelings, the most important seat is still empty, but he is no longer anxious and panic, if he meets the right person, he believes that he can afford to give her happiness, can afford to give her a warm home.
Looking back on this journey, Kai always smiled and said: ? In the past, I was very worried about my future, every day so anxious that I could not sleep, the heart is like carrying a nest of rabbits. Later, I thought about it, I just live in front of me, the result is that the days have become better, and the career is also smooth. I suddenly realized that there are some things you desperately want to think, worry, no use at all, the eye can do a good job, the results will not be too bad.
Life on the road there are countless stations can rest feet, some of the baggage can wait until the time to go back to the back, not to put all the baggage on the back of today's back. You and I can only live in the here and now, so there's really no need to be afraid of tomorrow.
Motivational long article: why do you want to work hard?
文/知乎@王远成
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In 2013, a western restaurant in Urumqi organized an event.
Simply put, every Monday after 12:00 noon, the restaurant's public number sent a message, you receive the message in the first time back to the past 'one dollar to kill' four words.
The first ten users to send a message can get a set of 300 yuan package.
I know this activity when Urumqi participation is not much, so that activity, I won.
That said, this kind of restaurant class for working in Shanghai, I often go to eat, Zhangjiang's Legend Plaza has a lot of similar stores, consumption with the deer port and so on a level.
But this kind of thing in the eyes of the parents after 50, even if they can afford to go down to the restaurant, but also will not eat Western food. We all know why.
The other day, I called my girlfriend and told her to ask her family to invite my mom and dad to a Western-style dinner tonight.
Mom, of course, refused, the family back to the phone and I said, "You and Yue Yue (my girlfriend) to eat on the good, to take care of the girl.
I said: "I won the lottery, 300 dollars of things, we can not eat the two of us, the four of us together, a meal is 1 dollar."
Then my parents went along cheerfully.
Well, it was a 300 dollar meal. Plus a free chicken fillet for giving a positive review on VW Dianping, and a free coffee for sending a friend's circle. Anyway, a large table food, even for 4 people is still rich.
Mom ate a big steak that night, a big bowl of pasta, a number of snacks things. It's a very good idea to eat a big steak, a big bowl of pasta, and a lot of snacks.
After dinner, the family sat down and chatted.
Everyone is very full, Dad lit a cigarette, a few people rest, I was ready to go to the checkout, when the restaurant on the last dish: a 68 worth of ice cream.
Well, it's that kind of gelato, big, big. In a cup.
Everyone couldn't eat it, so I looked at it and said, "Well, don't eat it, then," and went to the bar, ready to check out and leave.
When I came back from the checkout, I saw my mom eating the huge ice cream that was supposed to be eaten by several people. She was a little distressed and said, "Why don't you all eat it, it's such a waste."
I went over and grabbed the cup, and I said mom; you're going to eat your stomach.
You can't pay attention when you see your mom holding such a big ice cream to eat.
It's not because she loves it, or because it's delicious, it's just because she thinks it's a waste if we don't eat it.
She held up that cup, that a little greedy to a small advantage of the happy expression, and that upscale Western-style restaurant dim soft light is very contrary to the contrast in the together, my heartache and heartache.
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I'll tell you what it means to be poor.
After graduating from college, you fell in love with a girl. The girl is smart, lively and kind, and when she smiles, she looks like a blooming daffodil, hovering over your heart with a little angel.
In your heart is the existence of Liu Yifei, in line with all your expectations for marriage, you chase her, hate to give her out of their hearts.
Finally, that night, the girl said to you with a shy face; we first with look.
You are very happy.
The girl does ordinary work, there is a girlfriends, her husband burst rich, famous car, not to mention, the girl donkey brand bags every week, all kinds of festivals, all kinds of pie, even Qingming Festival can receive flowers, go out to dinner and open the red wine will always have to be the most expensive. The two of them the same section, every day to eat together with live together, you can feel that kind of girl's lonely?
Well, you like the girl, the phone is broken. You take her to the walking street shopping, you guys into the applestore, tried the 6s, photo really bright and interesting. And you can tell the girl likes it. But then you both come out and end up walking into the Xiaomi store next door.
Well, I know you're trying to say that people who really love you don't care about that, and she doesn't blame you, but really, it's all about the 20-year-old girl, and what girl doesn't have a little bit of vanity?
In the end, have you ever loved a girl in your youthful years, with all your heart and soul?
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Although you are poor, but the girl is very kind, you are good to her, she was very moved, the two together. Six months later, go to see the girl's parents.
The girl a thousand instructions, so you bathe in advance to scrape the beard and do face mask iron suit and tie shoes polished. A face of nervousness rang the doorbell of their home.
Girlfriend's home is very understanding of etiquette, the prospective mother-in-law in the kitchen busy afternoon, made a few dishes, while eating and chatting, you are in the seat with the girlfriend of the eye, her face of joyful approval of your eyes, you are a little complacent, thinking that a great success.
Suddenly, the mother-in-law said half jokingly and half seriously: you two things, originally I do not agree. Next door to the old king's son, civil servants, my girl can be good, but you're good for my girl, she also loves you, we are in the heart, we are not unreasonable people, there is no other requirements, you have to buy a house, even if you pay a down payment, the two of you together with a mortgage can also be. The house write you two name, the other, her father and I do not oppose, home appliances decoration, her father and I want to find a way.
You are willing to write your name, even if it's only her name, but you can't afford it.
You said: "Auntie, we are now working hard, I can certainly. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
Mother's face changed dramatically, and sent you out of the door.
After this girl two weeks phone does not pick up WeChat does not return, two weeks later you asked her out, in the street garden downstairs, you look at her, feel that these two weeks passed more than two years. She is a frosty face, let you hate not seven feet of male face, kneeling down to beg him, she just said I'm sorry. Cried and ran away.
Two months later, you received her WeChat, "I got married next month. A little memory about the past, I remember, thank you."
You blessed her, deleted her, and since then you buy drunk night after night, you are indignant that this society is so unfair.
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Well, the above story is a bit cruel.
Mother promised you, you two rejoice, the two borrowed money, buy a house, mortgage, marriage. Everything from simple. The girl is very understanding, she does not want to diamond ring do not name table, house simple decoration, appliances slowly buy, days are not bad. The first time I saw this, I was able to get the ball rolling, and I was able to get the ball rolling, and I was able to get the ball rolling.
Don't worry, the story is not over.
Suddenly, one day, the TV station broadcast: Sanlu melamine incident, the Quality Supervision Bureau checked the national milk powder, the whole army was destroyed.
One night, all the moms and dads started to buy imported milk powder.
My wife and I discussed this with her, and I think it's a good idea for us to save some money so that our children can have a good meal.
Well, so you continue to save, children drink imported milk powder, with imported diapers.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Your daughter is very smart and won an award for drawing in kindergarten.
The kindergarten chose 10 children to go to Japan to exchange with Japanese children, the teacher found you, your child is really good, is a good example of our school, this is also the child to open up the horizons of the opportunity.
Well, go to Japan, ten days, 6700 dollars, you can have a parent accompany.
A lot of parents want to go, but their kids don't have enough grades.
Your child is so competitive, you know? But you can't fucking afford it.
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We don't talk about love, we talk about family.
One day, our favorite mother in the world grows old, goes into the hospital and gets cancer.
Yes, this disease, there is no cure. Across the board is death.
The doctor said it was already advanced and inoperable, and the doctor recommended chemotherapy.
There are many kinds of treatments for lung cancer, and there is an imported drug called "Bevacizumab", which is not covered by medical insurance, has little side effects, does not cause hair loss, and does not cause vomiting after chemotherapy.
Ordinary domestic chemotherapy drugs, a needle of more than a thousand, can go to the health insurance, eat vomiting, hair loss. The patient was tortured as if he were dying.
Well, you're a good person, you're just poor.
Six months later the disease progressed, chemotherapy is useless, so the doctor gave you two sets of programs.
People who don't have money are treated conservatively with Chinese medicine, which hurts until they die.
Those who have money to eat foreign targeted drug therapy, Eraser and Trocar, a day a piece, 1000 per day, not medical insurance. All out-of-pocket expenses.
The effect is really there, after eating, the patient lying in bed can chat with you, and will not be comatose.
Oh, this is your closest and dearest, how do you choose.
You do not work hard, with what qualifications to choose?
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A lot of people say that going out early and coming back late is for the future, for tomorrow, balabala.
I now feel that living is for living the moment.
Money is really not everything in this society.
There are more important things than money.
But why do we get up early and work late?
We struggle is to, our parents one day, buy a favorite coat when do not gouge themselves.
In the event that we encounter cancer one day, we will be able to die a little more comfortably.
We struggle, and it is not that the girl can not break up with us.
But the girl broke up with us, can be because we do not have the same personality, different values, can be because of a variety of reasons.
But not because I lack of money!
I've seen too many examples of people who love each other but are separated because of money.
I hope such a tragedy will not happen to myself.
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For the old man who cooks for you every day with gray temples.
For the girl who complains about throwing your dirty clothes into the washing machine.
For the daughter who kisses you and says bye bye dad before she drinks the milk and leaves the house.
Everything in this house is the reason for your struggle.
Bullshit commitment, bullshit I love you ah, when I have the money later to give you XXX, you can cheat the girl this can not cheat your own.
The first thing you need to know is how to get to the top of the list, and how to get to the bottom of the list.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for it.
We go out early and come back late, to be when you go out to play, others eat 59 buffet, you can buy 199 VIP tickets.
What you want is that your girlfriend is saying to you that your husband is taking beautiful pictures with this cell phone, you can also smile and say the waiter swipes the card. Instead of holding her hand and leaving.
You look at those who swiped the card in front of the girl, life may actually not be easy for you at all. They just know that paying for the people they love is actually a happy feeling.
In fact, when you think about it, it doesn't feel bitter at all.
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Life is fair.
If you choose to be idle, there must be someone who carries your burden for you.
There are some things you do that don't always work out.
But if you don't do it, it will definitely be a failure.
And you go out early and come home late, just so your daughter your wife your parents can sleep until they wake up naturally.
Life has always been a topsy-turvy journey.
All beings are suffering, and there is no such thing as the world.
The journey is really short, the more longing, the more wind and rain.
The people who can afford to choose a boat with you and travel with you.
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