Yesterday, I went to Missy's readers' meeting, where she shared her own experience of growing up, and a young girl asked her why she chose to live by writing words, "I also want to do what I like, but people around me are blowing me off and saying that I'm sure I can't do it well, which makes me feel very unconvinced."
The youngest also said her ex-boyfriend often laughed at her writing dreams, and when she said she also wanted to publish a book in the future, and wanted her book to appear in the Wuhan bookstore, her ex-boyfriend also mercilessly attacked her, saying that what she wrote was a mess of words, and that no one would like her at all in the future.
The youngest said that at that time, when she heard that even her favorite people said she could not do it, she felt that she really could not do it.
But when you think about it now, "What the hell does he know? Why does he say I can't do it? It's just that he's too lazy to make changes, so he's dragging me along with him! When you're in a relationship, you still need to find someone who supports your growth and grows with you."
After hearing this I couldn't agree more, and think that this definitely counts as an important criterion for choosing a spouse - to be with someone who recognizes you, to be with someone who supports you, and to be with someone who can grow with you.
When I was in college, there were a lot of couples around me, some of them were sweet and harmonious, and some of them had a three-day fight and a five-day breakup, so I always wondered why it was the same as being in a relationship, and why it was so much worse.
Now a little more mature look back, and the three views have a lot to do. That couple often quarrel is not because of what jealousy ah ambiguous ah, more because the girl wants to do more interesting things, but the boys think it is not interesting, that she can not, she said that she wanted to learn photography, he fought against your high myopia and even focus is not allowed to waste the money, she went to learn Japanese, he said you can learn what kind of time it would be better to go to bed with this ......
Girls who have heard too much about it think why does he look down on them so much? Why does he not approve of anything she does?
Long time to think, oh my God, and such a man to live a lifetime is simply too horrible, is it in the future they want to go to a square dance but also to listen to him to say that their body is not good to jump is out of the ordinary?
It is not possible to bear, or break up.
Really, and always say you can't live together is a kind of destruction, if a lot of things really does not sound feasible, then you can rationally analyze the reasons, can just habitually oppose, so you will silently wear out a lot of curiosity and enthusiasm.
Of course, it's not a question of love or not, it's just that he can't report to appreciate his other half, can't support her from the bottom of his heart. Moreover, many men are like this, he has no plan for life when he feels that your planning are all delusions of grandeur, he has no pursuit of his own when he feels that other people's pursuits are all jokes.
It's the same when you're in a relationship, and it's even more so when you're married, so people still need to keep their eyes open.
Why many people want to have a relationship before getting married, because the relationship is not just you and me, and not just today's dinner and tomorrow's movie is so simple, look at the stars to talk about ideals, talk about life.
What if the other person is the man mentioned in "Tokyo Women's Illustrated Guide"? He only likes women who don't have dreams but just support his dreams all the time. Then for the next few decades, it's wrong for you to want to write, it's wrong for you to want to dance, it's wrong for you to want to take photographs, any idea that makes him feel bad is wrong.
What if the other guy is one of those men who always habitually dismisses you? He just wants you to stop fiddling around, stifling and dismissing all your novel little ideas. Then the next few decades are all wrong for you to have the slightest vision of a future he can't afford.
I'm surrounded by female friends who are already married, so let's just take those who are still dancing as an example.
Love belly dance girls will have a little dream - have their own dance hall, you can decorate the dance hall full of exotic look, you can hang their blingbling performance costumes, a song a sound, this is completely their own place.
This little dream, some husbands will support, I believe in you, you like it can be, some husbands just hear to jump, you think you own who?
In fact, observing our circle, many teachers who dance well have a man behind them who is incredibly supportive of her, and is even willing to help her take care of all the miscellaneous things, "Don't worry about doing what you like, I'll always be your back."
The people who can be in the company of such a person are lucky, it is really hard to meet, so think about it, there are more and more people who do not want to get married is also understandable.
The best relationship between two people should be to support each other to accompany each other to help each other to grow, which is a relationship that can be long-lasting and comfortable.
Why do we all like men like He Han? Or all the idol dramas have the main character aura of the man? Are women unrealistic? Putting aside the Mary Sue plot, it's just that women desire that the other person can be like those male protagonists, who can support them and help them no matter what happens.
A stagnant life is too boring, we can't live our whole lives as if our hearts were dead, when I share all my passion with you, I want you to give me a little strength, not a cold water from head to toe.
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