Divorced and single women are how to live alone
Divorced and single women are how to live alone, people are going to have seven feelings and six desires, feeling different emotions, each of us in life may experience these different emotions, because emotions are complex, affected by too many factors. The following shares how divorced single women are living alone.
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Self-reported: Li sister 45 years old, divorced for nine years
In the blink of an eye, divorced has been nine years, and live alone has been nine years, this life is really fascinating, fascinating do not want to give up.
The first year, because of the cold violence of her husband at home, chose to divorce, divorce this thing for me completely deviated from the original traditional good girl route, that this should not appear in my dictionary.
But in the face of him, day and night never say a word to me disdain, which makes me have to go crazy, the inner tell me, can not tolerate such cold violence, otherwise it is indulgence.
Or leave it, the first year a little uncomfortable. I did not want children. On the one hand, my ex-husband was stronger, and it is true that he was also much better off financially than I was. On the other hand, I couldn't raise a child with what I had at the time (my mom died early and had no one to help with her, while my grandparents could), couldn't give her a better life, and I did get tired of family life and wanted to be alone.
The first year of my divorce, I fell off the wagon. Took the only 500,000 dollars that was allotted to me and bought a small apartment.
The next year, the small apartment was officially delivered, and I put up some money for the renovation, which was done in my favorite style. This style in the lurking view is very childish, he likes the kind of very old-fashioned Chinese style.
Once unattainable dream, at least for the expectations of the living environment, or their own to satisfy themselves.
Bought a cat, before my ex-husband never gave me a cat, he said, if there is a cat in the house, it will be strangled.
In the third year, changed a job. The salary went up 1.5 times and the hours were freer. I became closer to my daughter, visiting once a week or once every two weeks. 12-year-old daughter was able to understand the choices I was making at the time.
In my fourth year, I had a boyfriend who broke up after three months. He was two years older than me, and at the time he wanted to move into my small apartment, and I wondered if I really wanted to accept such a man intruding into my private space. After thinking about it, I broke up, I just couldn't give up the freedom of being alone, and he couldn't figure out why it was so repetitive, but in the end, it was a clean break.
And secretly made a decision to never fall in love again, and refused anyone's blind date and introduction.
In the fifth year, my daughter went to a major junior high school, and I was very happy for her. But it also means that you can only see her once a month. One was to hear the news of her ex-husband's remarriage, and surprisingly there was no sadness or joy. He also bought his daughter a dress so that she could attend her dad's wedding properly.
In the sixth year, there was another job change and the salary went up a bit. That year, Dad had a small operation, as the only daughter of me, or very busy, a person to be a man to make. The aunt who came to help at the time sighed and said, if not divorced in the first place, at least my father has a son-in-law to help.
I told her. Later, we also have some son-in-law and even son of the hospital patients, their children from the beginning to the end have not appeared, my aunt also believe that I said, there is no son-in-law is not important, the key is the daughter of the reliable on the line.
In the seventh year, I heard that my ex-husband and his wife gave birth to a male child. I discussed with my ex-husband that if he felt his daughter was a burden, he could give me custody. The ex-husband said nothing, the daughter also said it does not matter, because now also not much to go back, there is no big impact on her life, if by the time she is an adult, read the university, she will naturally live with me.
The eighth year, began to learn the online food video pouring food, found himself quite talented. Maintain self-discipline, often be praised for good figure, beautiful. I have two men who are smaller than me chasing after me, ruthlessly rejected. One of the cheeky, and now the place into a gay friend, quite good friends, tires broken he will come to help me change the kind, no other evil thoughts. His current girlfriend is my colleague's sister, I introduced to him, we three relations are very iron. The daughter is in the city of the university, often give me a video phone call.
Ninth year, a little want to retire early, do a salty fish. Was asking about a house in the city where my daughter is in college because she wants to work there and wants to switch over.
In short, these nine years of living alone makes me not want to remarry at all, very satisfied, now this state. But some people say that although you are having a good time now, you will surely regret it later, do you think I will really regret it?
Written in the back:
Living alone is really addictive, and for many middle-aged women, living alone is a luxury.
One person to eat, one person to live, one person to live ...... from the "empty nest old man" to "empty nest youth" "empty nest middle-aged "This state of life is very free, but often labeled as lonely, heartbreaking. In fact, it is really so, depending on how you choose.
Living alone, you are not alone in the fight, in the persistence. A data as of 2016 shows that 50.2% of Americans over the age of 17 are single and living alone. More than half of the population in Scandinavian countries live alone, 30% of South Koreans live in "one-bite homes," and 40% of the population in Japan lives alone.
The choice of values in a pluralistic life style is also changing and is no longer static. It is better to be alone than to go through the noise that comes with remarriage.
As the sister above described in nine years of living alone, many divorced women continue to choose to live alone and not married because: "After being alone for a long time, you are too lazy to argue, too lazy to worry, too lazy to deal with all the trouble that comes with remarriage, including the stress of getting along with the man's family and relatives and the hassle. "
For them, any trouble brought about by remarriage is not worth it on earth. The freedom of being alone, uninhibited and letting go of the soul is what the heart desires.
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Divorced single women, old age days how to arrange?
Divorced single women, if you can meet each other again appreciate the partner, you can consider together to partner life. Sometimes two people living with a person to talk to, the days are also cozy, a person when no one constraints, when hungry when to eat, when sleepy when to rest, out and in and out is a person very lonely. There is a companion with each other to exercise together with the grocery shopping together with the travel, there are happy two people to share together, is two happy.
There are troubles **** with sharing. But the wish is good, if life can not meet the right companion themselves do not have to be lonely, to plan their own days, as far as possible to the daily schedule of the compact point, in addition to eating and resting and then the free 'time with hobbies to fill.
For example, playing chess, swimming, square dancing, fishing, traveling, calligraphy, picnics and other hobbies into the free time, a day down very full, regardless of age, no matter what stage, no matter in the home or outside, especially outside the dress neatly. To make your life alone can also live a team look.
Divorced single women are how to live alone3Divorced women living alone is too bitter
Xiaoling is a divorced woman living alone with her son. Although life is very hard, but Xiaoling strong upward, hard work, a focus on the son's body, in order to let his son study, Xiaoling determined to no longer look for, a focus on the son and his life.
In the unit, Xiaoling is a hard-working, clean person, but the identity of the single woman there, she wants to live quietly, but the trees want to be quiet and the wind does not stop, there are always some unsuspecting men trying to approach her, harassed, belittled, and even with which man to say more than one sentence, will lead to malicious speculation and ridicule. But Xiaoling endured them all in silence.
There is a married male coworker always love to send text messages to Xiaoling in the evening, at first, just chatting about work, in the way of politeness, Xiaoling began to reply to a few sentences. Slowly, the male colleague's text messages more and more ambiguous, sometimes male colleagues in the overtime, and even sent a text message called Xiaoling to accompany him. The first time I saw this, I realized that the male colleague was not interested, and began to alienate him, and no longer reply to his messages.
Once, the colleagues went out for an activity, and when they came back, Xiaoling and a few colleagues took the male colleague's car to go home. The other coworkers got off one after another, the last car only left Xiaoling alone, almost home, the male colleagues but refused to give Xiaoling parking, proposed to go for a ride, Xiaoling insisted on going home, but the male coworkers do not stop, and drove the car directly to the countryside.
Stopping the car, the male colleague sat in the car and chatted with Xiaoling, and suddenly forced Xiaoling to hold in his arms, Xiaoling struggled, but a woman's strength is very small, and can not get away. Xiao Ling felt that the male colleague's hand has begun to touch, in an emergency, with the foot kicked the door, the male colleague to let go of the hand, Xiao Ling took the opportunity to jump out of the car, and played back home.
Back home, Xiaoling cried a lot, the heart of the bitter but can not say, said the bad people will think it is Xiaoling first initiative, then the male colleagues back a rake, Xiaoling instead of the bitter can not say, only to hit the teeth and blood swallowed.
Listening to the real story of Xiaoling, in addition to her heartache, or heartache. Please do not say a slap in the face words, the world, for single women would have been very unfriendly. May every single woman be treated gently, life is already bitter, do not add to it.