As the saying goes, no good mother-in-law can't have a good daughter-in-law. The daughter-in-law can be a good mother-in-law to teach out. So if you want your mother-in-law to help you balance the family relationship after marriage, then you must love her daughter. Some movies and TV dramas portray a lot of harsh, unreasonable mother-in-law image. Many people mistakenly think that the mother-in-law is an unreasonable old man. In fact, the mother-in-law is also a mother, is an ordinary mother. Most mothers-in-law have a sharp tongue and a soft heart. Always want to give their children the best help.
First of all, as a mother in the treatment of her daughter's marriage can not overstep the bounds of the hands and feet. As the saying goes, only the feet know if the shoes fit. If you do not consider whether the character and outlook on life of both parties are consistent, and only rely on your own preferences to judge your daughter's marriage. Then it will leave a potential danger. Due to the overly harsh and critical mother-in-law, it will also increase the conflicts between the daughter and son-in-law, and even the breakdown of the marriage.
The second thing is that when intervening in your daughter's family, mother-in-law must grasp the distance, correct her attitude and recognize her position. To realize that you come to your daughter's home is to ease the burden of the daughter, to help the young couple better run their own small home. Don't forget your original intention. When it comes to anything, don't be so stubborn as to seek the advice of your daughter and son-in-law. Only when there is a discussion can things be handled properly. Otherwise it may affect their relationship as husband and wife.
And then Mother-in-law do not monopolize power, to learn to let go will be appropriate. Many people take marriage as the second crossroads of their life and a crucial turning point. A mother-in-law should be able to really let go of her daughter. Realize that they are adults and married, they are independent individuals and learn to keep a distance from them. Give them some free space. Let them learn to grow up and be independent and bless them.