Full of expectations for big cities, high expectations and high expectations. If we don't have a certain outline of life in a big city, then most people must be familiar with life in a small county.
The traffic is inconvenient, and the pace of life is slow. In the evening, I just go out for a walk and dance in the square. The pressure of life in a small county is not great, but as a young man, I have an unspeakable sense of exclusion.
As a result, many people choose to go to big cities to pursue their dreams. From the first moment they set foot in this city, they felt that everything here was fine, with more job opportunities, cutting-edge industry knowledge, convenience stores open 24 hours a day, and concerts by their favorite stars.
So I swore silently in my heart: "I must take root here and never go back."
After working here for 2 years 1 year, I gradually began to find that the reality is not as beautiful as I thought when I first came, and my expectations for the city and myself are not so high.
The high rent and cost of living make many people constantly move, constantly update the address of rented houses, and exchange long-term commuting for lower cost of living. You always have to pay back the money in your pocket and continue to owe it. It has been circulating, but there has never been any savings.
Moreover, whether living in a small county or a big city, people always have a common problem. They always feel that they are inferior to others, just like the phenomenon of "besieged city" in which everyone is seeking jobs within the system. People inside always feel that their lives are not as good as those outside, but people outside envy people inside and try their best to squeeze into this circle.
I don't know if you have heard of such an example. People who earn more than 10,000 yuan in Beishangguang always feel that they can't compare with those who earn three or four thousand yuan a month in third-tier towns. They believe that people are called life and they are living.
And even if they feel that their work and life in big cities are not as good as those in small cities, they will not immediately pack their bags to talk about envy, but they just have no performance in action.
What is the reason behind this?
Is it that you don't know the big cities thoroughly enough, or that you misunderstand the small counties too deeply?
In fact, as far as the overall environment is concerned, the ability of some new first-tier cities in the south to attract young people has been increasing in recent years. Undoubtedly, for young people, the preferred employment city is either a first-tier city or a new first-tier city. There must be a reason behind this.
Everyone is saying that this generation of young people is under greater pressure than anyone else. They can't achieve financial freedom by hard work like the post-80s generation, nor can they seize the opportunity of the times like the post-70s generation, so as to achieve financial freedom. Most young people of this generation can't have both, they can only rely on themselves.
For young people who work hard outside, many people have no choice They came to this city only to make money.
Without resources, background and connections, everyone is the last stop. Unlike life in the county, with the help of family and relatives, it won't seem so hard, but in big cities, they have only themselves and can only rely on themselves to achieve counterattack and make a comeback.
I saw the sharing of a netizen with an annual salary of 300,000 on social networking sites:
"Now I get a little more than 20,000 a month, with a mortgage of 8,000 a month and a car loan of 3,000 a month. The rest has to be used by a large family. Although the annual salary of 300 thousand looks good, life is still hard. When the child is older, all kinds of expenses will multiply. "
"College students feel beautiful, but the cost of living is rising at a speed visible to the naked eye, but their income has reached the ceiling to a large extent."
The place you think is beautiful may be exactly where many people want to escape.
On the contrary, people may think that the pressure of life in small counties will be much less, the pace of life will be slow, and the industrial development will be slow, giving people a feeling of slow life. However, the truth behind the slow life is that in small cities, except that the cost of living is slightly lower than that in first-tier cities, the price is actually not low, and the cost of living has not actually decreased a lot.
Those who always feel that they can easily buy a house and a car by working in a small county must be people who have never experienced life in a small city. Although the monthly salary of 5,000 yuan in small towns is not low, the prices are still the same.
To give a very simple example, in first-tier cities, milk tea with a cup of more than 10 yuan will sell more than 10 yuan in third-tier cities, and it will not change because of your low salary.
The economic development level of a place is positively related to the local income level. Although the starting point of wages in big cities is high, there are also rents that you feel terrible. Although the wages in small cities are not that high, the matching price level will not make it easy for you to buy a house and a car.
Calculate with everyone how much income is needed to live a decent life in a small county?
First of all, we should set a framework for a decent life: a car and a house, food and clothing, no pressure on children's basic education, and spare money on hand. This is the petty bourgeoisie life.
Take my hometown as an example. Third-tier small cities, the house price is 654.38+0.5 million -654.38+0.5 million, and the down payment is 200,000-300,000. According to the income level of most people, it takes 2-3 years not to eat or drink, and it takes about 4-5 years to save up after all kinds of expenses such as eating and drinking, which is about 3,000 yuan per month.
In addition, buying a car is generally 200,000. With a loan, the monthly payment is around 3000 yuan. Even if two people each get a monthly salary of 5000 yuan, they can't live a decent life. Coupled with the expenses of education and upbringing of children in the future, even though they are hungry, they should tighten their belts to live.
In addition to housing prices, the bigger difference between small counties and big cities may lie in trivial and pervasive factors such as traffic, work intensity and interpersonal relationships.
Those who are unwilling to bear these pressures retreat to small counties, while those who are more ambitious try to stay in big cities.
People who are used to living in small cities will feel that medical care, education and other things in the city are within reach. These are things that they can actually hold in their hands. Moreover, people in small cities have strong human feelings, and people living here are full of fireworks and know how to live.
On the other side of the big city, there are freshly ground handmade coffee, 24-hour convenience stores and concerts of favorite stars.
For many young people, even if big cities have good infrastructure and better educational and medical resources, many people actually can't enjoy it in the end, because the cost of buying a house is very high, and the work and life experience in big cities is only an experience in life for most people.
But then again, whether it is a small county or a big city, it is ultimately a matter of personal choice. We can't judge whether a choice is right or wrong according to the result, because for most people, the final result of choosing a big city will still return to their hometown.
Big cities have a prosperous side, but most people are carrying heavy burdens. Although small cities are relatively stable, many people want to jump out of their comfort zone. People are like this, never satisfied with the status quo and always making progress, but many people don't know which direction to make progress. I hope every decision you make has a clear goal.
Slowly learn to accept the gap between ideal and reality. There is a gap is not terrible. This is the truth of society. Keep your feet on the ground, do what you think is right, and stick to it, even if it is an experience, it is worth remembering.