"A hundred years to repair the same boat crossing, a thousand years to repair *** pillow sleep", in the sea of people, a pair of strange men and women can be repaired into a husband and wife, this is to fate. Both husband and wife should cherish this fate, together with the management of marriage, marriage will be happy.
But not all couples can really grow old together, those who love each other and grow old together are happy people. Some will be unfortunate enough to be widowed, and some will have their marriages break up and become single again.
There are millions of ways to live life, and it's not always necessary to live it one way or the other. But in comparison, two people who have a companion together, who support each other, who take care of each other and understand each other, will have a better life.
There are some couples who choose to remarry after divorce for various reasons, and they hope to break the mirror and start everything over again. So can couples who remarry after divorce really still break the ice? Here we come to listen to three divorced and remarried people, their heart's true thoughts.
Ms. JI: 33, divorced three years later, remarried for the sake of the child
My husband and I divorced for a lot of reasons that can not be explained in a few words. Divorced 4-year-old son with him, I would like to take my son, but the conditions do not allow. I worked in a private factory with a low salary, and after the divorce I lived in a group home, so I didn't even have a place to live if my child followed me.
Later, I remarried to a man who was also divorced. But after the marriage there were always conflicts because of his daughter, so once again I got divorced. When I got divorced for the second time, my first ex-husband also got divorced once again for the same reason I did.
And then later on, my first ex-husband and I remarried under the arrangement of my friends. The reason why we got remarried was mainly for the sake of our children, but the marriage was not a happy one after the remarriage. After those previous experiences, after remarriage, my husband and I no longer have the same state of mind as before, although we no longer fight, but there is little passion.
The two of us live like housemates and are responsible for the children. Husband and wife appear to outsiders to be respectful of each other, the reality is that the two hearts can no longer really merge together, just hitchhiking to get by. The couple's life is also rare, occasionally once or twice, and treated as if it were a task to be accomplished.
Mr. Kang: 38 years old, it is impossible to break the mirror, just make do
My wife and I got married with little emotional foundation, her mother and my mother together with the square dance, the two people are very chatty, they are trying to set us together. The two of us got married after talking for half a year, and we often had conflicts after marriage because of some trivial matters.
One time after a fight, I was so upset that I went to drink, and a female colleague happened to be in the bar, so we both drank together. As a result of drunkenness, the two of us spent a night together in a confused manner, and when my wife found out about this, she divorced me.
After the divorce, I didn't stay with the female coworker, she had a family. A year later my ex-wife came to me and wanted to remarry me, saying it was for the sake of the child, who was 5 years old at the time. My parents also strongly urged me to remarry, saying that the last divorce was all my fault, and now that my ex-wife is not concerned, I am not quick to agree.
I then remarried with my ex-wife, and only after remarriage did I realize that the reason why she remarried with me was because our house in that area was going to be demolished. Once I knew this, I became much less attached to her, and she didn't exactly forgive me for cheating on her. Now we make do with what we have, just for the sake of the kids!
Mrs. Ni: 37 years old, remarried for a year, divorced once again
I divorced my ex-husband because he cheated on me within the marriage, and at that time, I was young and vigorous, and I filed for divorce immediately after I learned that he cheated on me. Since he didn't have me in his heart anymore, why would I want to stay married to him? So although he pleaded with me not to divorce, I insisted.
His parents were furious when they found out we were divorcing, his mom scolded him and his father even hit him. So after I divorced him, he took advantage of coming to see his kids and has been begging me nonstop to forgive him and beg me to remarry him.
I had a lot of people introduce me to people after my divorce, and I dated a few of them, but none of them were as good as they could have been. Those people were either widowed or divorced, all with children. I am also with children and I would face a lot of problems if I remarried, so I hesitated to get the courage to remarry.
The ex-husband chased me for two years, so I still chose to remarry him. But after the remarriage, I realized that he was still out there, and the money he earned was spent on these women. I finally understand what is called "dog can't change to eat shit", so one year after the remarriage, he and I divorced once again.
Conclusion:
Marriage should not be divorced unless it is absolutely necessary, and you will face a lot of problems after divorce. Remarriage is much more complicated than a first marriage, it will involve a lot of people and a lot of things, and halfway couples are more difficult than first-time couples.
But since the divorce is finalized, it is courageous to move forward. There is some truth in the old saying, "A good horse never goes back to its pasture". If there wasn't any truth to it, it wouldn't have been passed down, so it's actually very difficult to get back together after a divorce and remarriage.
The remarried couples who can really get back together, after all, are a minority, and the vast majority of remarried couples, who have a lump in their heart, can't really forget about the past. The reason why they choose to remarry may be for other reasons, such as for the sake of the children.
If you are really remarried and want to be happy, then you need to work harder. Especially the first time the party at fault in the divorce, must be doubled to pay, and strive to cover each other's heart hot, this remarriage is possible to break the mirror, will be happy again.