Because the neighbor's child was born over the age of four, he had been fostered in a relative's home, and after 16 years, the colleague bought a house in my neighborhood, and only then did his child pick up and return to his own home.
Because of the close proximity of the residence, there are interactions with their parents from time to time, and the two children naturally became good friends.
I still remember that his child just came back to the year or two, quite like people, do not lie, sunshine and confidence, and my daughter in the play together Huma a warm hearted little brother.
At that time, my daughter was small, often he was able to remind or stop my daughter in time to do some dangerous games, treating people with courtesy, sometimes I was busy at work, leaving them at home is still very assured.
In the last six months, my daughter has learned to ride a bicycle, and she has just learned to be particularly addicted to it, and she often goes downstairs to the neighborhood to play with it.
At first, I did not notice anything, but recently inexplicably feel uneasy, so as long as the daughter downstairs I will let her take the phone watch (can be located), even so I will be open from time to time to locate or monitor.
Yesterday afternoon, my daughter's summer vacation taekwondo class evening training at 6:00 p.m., because I went out to help the poor can not come back, called his wife to send her to taekwondo teacher designated place.
Poverty alleviation back to the evening training did not end, I parked the car in their evening training place quietly on the side.
I found that my colleague's children were staring at the children practicing boxing.
I went up to them and said, "Chong Chong, are you learning martial arts? I'm used to joking with kids like this.
He didn't look at me and he didn't answer me. I said again, "Hasn't your dad enrolled you in a class yet? (He had heard that my daughter was enrolled in Taekwondo and had come home several times to pester his parents to enroll him in Taekwondo.)
At this point he replied, "My dad is going to enroll me."
A short while later, my daughter's evening training was over, and I greeted her as she came over to us.
"Sugar, you are really too stupid, just now the coach taught how simple movements, you see what you made." The coworker's child said this while demonstrating to her daughter, who had just come off the field in high spirits.
The daughter is obviously not too concerned, saying "I'm just a slow learner.
A moment later, his wife also came over, his wife wants to wait for the taekwondo venue to be vacated after the square dance.
I asked my daughter to go home with me or wait for her mom.
I asked my daughter if she wanted to go home with me or wait for her mom.
I asked my coworker's kid if he was going home with me or with my daughter. （
I asked my coworker's kid if he was going home with me or with my daughter (it was starting to get dark by this time), and he said he wanted to go back with my daughter.
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My car is parked on the side of the square, close to my home.
When they got in the car, I asked, "Is your dad still not going to enroll you in Taekwondo?
He said, "My dad is going to enroll me in another place."
I asked again where it was, and he said it was next to something youthful.
I quickly thought about it, I don't think there is a taekwondo class in that neighborhood, but I'm not sure, and asked him, "Why don't you enroll in a class with Sugar.
His answer took me by surprise.
He said that my daughter's teacher is not good, so I have to enroll in another place.
The front has not been accounted for, the colleague's child fourth grade, now is the summer vacation, after the summer vacation to fifth grade, my daughter two to three.
As since the 2020 epidemic since the children at home for a month or two do not go to school, the colleague's children often come to my home to play, I am also want them to enroll in a class, so that can be in our adults busy when a person to pick up and drop off can be.
To the door of the unit, I said come to my home to eat, he looked a little strange, did not pay attention to me and left.
When I returned home, I told my daughter that I was not sure what Chong Chong was talking about, but that I was not sure what he was talking about, and that I was not sure what he was talking about.
The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good look at what I was doing and I was able to get a good look at what I was doing.
The next morning at 9:00 a.m., my daughter's street dance class opened a parent-teacher conference, the street dance class is last summer they enrolled together, this year, the epidemic half a year did not have a class, the teacher notified the parents to discuss the matter of the opening of the class.
When I arrived at the door of the street dance class, my colleague sent his child out of the street dance class and said he had something to do, so he sent his child there.
I went upstairs to the street dance class, and since the parents didn't come much, the meeting didn't take place, and my coworker's kid was bored and spinning around.
I went over and tapped him on the shoulder and said, "You move your street dance class to the afternoon so you can be with Sugar," and he just wouldn't answer me as he circled around the pole.
I said I'm talking to you, what are you running for, come here.
I pulled him down and said, "I'm telling you, did you hear me?
He did not answer me positively.
Back home I put the last few months colleagues of the child all kinds of abnormalities in the mind over again.
During the epidemic, students were on vacation and several of their children often play together, to a quarrel with other neighbors, causing the parents of that neighbor to loudly reprimand them (my daughter came back to say) to the last few months, regardless of the time, or lunch breaks or meals to my home to call the sugar candy, there is a morning after 10:00 am to come to my home until the evening of the phone call of his parents to go home and so on and so forth.
Of course I know that he is more than ten o'clock in the morning to eat, twelve o'clock at noon he is not eat, to the afternoon we eat let him eat, he said he ate, I asked how many meals today, he said he ate two, in fact, he was more than ten o'clock in the morning to eat a meal.
I have come to the conclusion that the boy has changed.
I was reminded of a photo I saw on my cell phone not long ago of an older girl in blue encouraging two younger children to play on the balcony, holding on to the railing with her hands as she waited expressionlessly to see the two younger children fall off. ......
I remember once I turned on my phone watch to listen in and heard a few of their kids yelling and screaming, so I went downstairs to look, just in time to see my coworker's child dancing around to her daughter and carrying her arms like a captive in a movie ......
I broke out in a cold sweat.
So after dinner, I asked my daughter if she felt Chong Chong was different from before.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman with a baby in her arms, and I've never seen her with a baby in her arms.
The first thing I noticed was that I had a lot of trouble with the kids, but I was not sure if I was going to be able to get them to do it, so I thought it would be a good idea if I could get them to do it. (My daughter is an absolute genius at expressing herself verbally).
So I asked my daughter, "Are you doing the right thing? My daughter said of course it's not right.
I said then why do you still do it, my daughter said that if you do not do the colleague's child will hit her, said while giving me a demonstration of how a kind of behavior.
The daughter also said that once she said she did not eat in the morning to drink some milk on the line, the coworker's child said that the word milk is not suitable for children.
Colleagues are a big man, good lively, often invite some people to his home to drink, speak not pay attention to the wine scene swearing, say some yellow paragraph also do not avoid children.
I remember one night more than nine o'clock in the evening colleagues called me to go drinking, but also said that their family Chong Chong let me take my daughter to go, my daughter is about nine o'clock in the evening to go to bed on time.
Of course, I didn't take my daughter with me, and when I got to his house, a couple of people were drinking at 12:00 p.m., and my coworker's kids weren't sleeping, and they didn't urge him to sleep. At that time, I felt that the adults were very bad for the child.
The change in the coworker's child started in the last six months, but we didn't think about it carefully. He is two years older than my daughter and is not as tall as my daughter due to partiality.
Through what my daughter described, they play together, and the coworker's kid is that boss role, making up some competition games on his own, but all on his own first.
Encourage them a few smaller children to engage in mischief themselves far behind to see a few of them get into trouble ......
The more my daughter said, the more angry, but I was in thought.
Daughter also not forget to remind me, do not dare to tell the coworker's child, or he will beat her.
But the coworker's kid is a definite sign of bad things to come.
I didn't directly advise my daughter not to play with him in the future, but just reminded him that he should be careful and protect himself when you play together again.
As my daughter went out, I asked for a phone watch, and I told my daughter to call me if there was anything wrong, and it was only then that my daughter said that she had called me several times and that her coworker's kids had let her hang up the phone or had directly hung up on her.
I said, a few times is my daughter to me to complain about half of the phone watch to hang up.
Recently, the neighbor's children and I always talk to blink, and to my house to call my daughter, used to knock on the door to come in and turn around, recently are knocking on the door to wait outside.
I told my daughter that this child has changed, my daughter also said that it is changed, before always remind her of what danger how to avoid, now it is the more dangerous the more let her do.
I remembered a few days ago, I repeatedly told them not to ride bicycles on the road, but they rode their bicycles out of the neighborhood to buy snacks by me, and my colleague's children rode their bicycles across the road, and it was good to see my daughter cross the road to push the car.
My daughter asked me what she could do to correct her coworker's child's bad behavior, and I said it was hard, but she could try, because you used to be good friends.
The coworker's child all kinds of bad behavior is due to the lack of self-confidence to low self-esteem, exactly how from a simple, sunny children become a lie, blinking words mischief constantly, I can actually guess eight or nine.
As a parent, you have to be attentive to your child's developmental stage, and you can't ignore the fact that you have to give different guidance at different times.
There are some things I can't say directly to my coworker's kids.
There are some things I can't say directly to a coworker's child, but as an outsider the situation can't be changed.