Should I insist on sending my child to kindergarten when it's cold in the winter? Small class?

I'll give my opinion, maybe different from others, just for reference.

I was heavily influenced by my grandmother. My grandmother is a very powerful person, although uneducated, but very insightful, her daughters as long as they can study, all read books, went to college. She basically brought up our next generation, and she spoiled us very much, never scolding us or letting us work. As for kindergarten, we could go there if we wanted to, but not if we didn't want to. When it was cold in winter and I had frostbite on my hands and couldn't get up, my grandmother said, "Forget it, just rest at home. I was able to get a good deal on my own, so I stayed home.

My grandmother's theory is that life is very hard, and you have to be nice to children when they are young, so that they can be more comfortable. Of course, going to kindergarten or not is not high enough to mention that life is hard. Her implication is that if you can do whatever you want when you're young, and you don't have to be so rigid about it, you're going to have to learn to do it later in life.

My grandmother raised the third generation of college students, many of them graduate students, and we are very grateful for her education. Because my parents were so busy, they didn't have time to take care of us, and my grandmother took care of all these things.

When I became an adult, especially after having children, I felt that my grandmother was right. There's no need to be so stereotypical when you're a kid. So, my kid went to kindergarten the same way. Not only did she not go when it was cold, but she didn't go when she wanted to and didn't go to kindergarten for a few days.

A lot of people didn't understand at the time, and I guess there was some talk behind the scenes. I don't even have to think about it to know what they were going to say. It was just two points. First, to develop children's social skills; second, to develop children's self-discipline, not afraid of hard work.

Let me start with the results. My child is now very good, she is extremely well liked, every time after class time, she is surrounded by students, very high prestige among students; secondly, she is extremely self-disciplined. All of her teachers are especially enthusiastic when they see me, and they praise this child as if she were an angel. I smiled every time and said to my child, I go to your school treatment is really dip your light, because I never get close to the teacher, and never give gifts.

Under my influence, there are some people who have partially done what I did, and the results have been great.

What is the reason? The reason is that both of those are false propositions.

The first is about children's social skills. A lot of people have the misconception that more human contact makes for better social skills, but it doesn't. The strength of social skills has to do with your personal charisma. A lot of attractive people don't need to take the initiative to talk to people, they will naturally attract others. How to be charismatic? It is to have self-confidence, to have a sense of humor, they also have a certain talent, open-minded, not too catty. Such a person's social skills will not be bad.

Secondly, about self-discipline, not afraid of suffering. People are three-dimensional, all-encompassing immersed in the environment. Is kindergarten the only way to cultivate self-discipline and a spirit of suffering? My grandmother spoiled us, but she didn't spoil us, because she was a very hard-working person, and she was very strict with herself in all aspects. How much of a difference do you think it would make to go to kindergarten or not in a family like that? Parents always exaggerate the role of something, but in fact it is not, the growth of people is all-round, all kinds of small things, little by little out of the influence.

Also, the fact that my kids don't go to kindergarten is partly a result of my dissatisfaction with kindergarten. I think the toddler stage is a very important stage in developing a person, developing curiosity, focus, etc., but I think most kindergartens are destructive of these things, and I'm not so sure it's better to let her play with herself and educate herself at home.

So, I think for going to kindergarten or not, parents can totally relax a little bit, it's okay to go, it's okay not to go, it doesn't have that much impact, the real impact is the daily dribs and drabs. So, parents and friends must do themselves a good job and be a good example ah.

What do you think?

My family was admitted to the school in September this year, the northern city in December I chose to let him rest at home, three months sick almost two months, eat the medicine than the previous three and a half years to eat more than the kindergarten always take the medicine to go to school, I don't know exactly what the reason is, the cold and fever are insisting on going to the I admit that I am pampered in this matter, but compared to the daily medication, I still insist on their own! I'm not spoiling him, on the contrary, I'm very strict with him. The reason why I don't go is because my eldest daughter was in a small class at the time, went to school either unhappy, or bedwetting, and was sick for three days, and went to a local public institution kindergarten, as long as the sick must be absent, at least three days, should be afraid of infecting each other. So I didn't go to school for more than a few days in a semester. Another thing is that the parents' day is well publicized, saying that they will teach cultural lessons, English and all kinds of things. But when I asked my daughter what she learns in school, besides singing and watching cartoons, she seldom even goes outside to play, and the teachers are too troublesome and afraid of accidents, and it is even more impossible to go out if it is cold in winter, so she usually just moves around in the classroom. Therefore, kindergarten can not learn anything, but also can not take good care of children, small children will be more disadvantaged. There are also those who say that kindergarten is for children to learn to live in a group, but I can only laugh. Children who fit in are born to socialize, while those who don't are still withdrawn even after 10 years of kindergarten. My son is more than three years old, did not go to kindergarten, go out no matter where they meet the neighbors to say hello, see the children go up to play together, dancing square dance to stand in front of the stereo C seat. When he leaves the house, he has to say goodbye, and when he enters the house, he has to say "I'm home", and when someone comes home, he even says hello and helps the adults with their shoes. When my sister was scolded and cried, I would go up and touch her head and say, "Don't cry, sister. Usually favorite counting, English, all rely on self-study, like graphics matching, computer is their own switch, play their own cartoons, and watch are educational, do not like violent cartoons. Lots and lots of things to see him excel, but none of these came from kindergarten. The eldest daughter was over the age of three can not wait to send to kindergarten, a lot less time to accompany her, but also quite regrettable, as for the knowledge or, interpersonal communication or are in elementary school after learning, of course, unless the kind of noble kindergarten, may not be simple to bring children, did not have on also have the right to speak. But in terms of ordinary kindergarten even public kindergarten, if the family has someone to bring, kindergarten is not so good only choice.

Winter is very cold, to insist on sending small children to kindergarten? Of course you should! Because:

In the view of many parents, children in small classes are just going to play around and it doesn't matter whether they go or not. In fact, this is not the case at all.

So if you don't let your child go to kindergarten because it's cold in the winter, all the hard work you've done before the winter will be for nothing. At the end of the winter, if you send your child to kindergarten again, you will have to start all over again.

I've seen this discussion online more than once: Why are foreign children not afraid of the cold, while Chinese children become "bears" in winter?

Almost all families with children are like this, winter has not seen the shadow of the grandparents began to shout to the children to wear pants, cotton pants, mom and dad out of the house Hate to give the child wrapped a quilt. Even though everyone knows that children are not afraid of the cold at all, but of the heat. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.

Just as the questioner was thinking about temporarily interrupting his child's kindergarten education because of the cold weather, the cold weather is like an enemy for us parents. In fact, it's not necessary at all.

As long as your child is dressed normally, he will not be afraid of the cold at all, and will have no problem going to kindergarten.

The last reason why it's not necessary to send your child to kindergarten is that the colder it gets, the more you can develop your child's self-control and perseverance. How can parents miss such a great opportunity?

After all, in winter, being able to get up early every day, on time, from the warmth of the blanket is a challenge for an adult. The harsh external environment can greatly refine the child's heart, always growing in the greenhouse, how to grow into a big tree?

And, if parents don't let their kids go to kindergarten just because it's cold, the kids will be prone to out-of-control behavior, lack of self-control, and do whatever they want to do in the future, which is more trouble than it's worth.

So, what do you need to pay attention to when you send your child to kindergarten in winter?

I've seen a lot of winter children, out of the parents are wrapped tightly, in addition to the two gurgling eyes, the rest of the position, all covered up. Even, because of too much wear, the child is difficult to walk, only by the father difficult to hold in the arms.

In fact, the child is really not afraid of the cold, so there is no need to wrap him into a dumpling. A normal sweater over a cotton shirt and a pair of cotton pants over a single pair of pants is enough. And, the kindergarten indoor temperature is generally higher than at home, it is best to give the child to wear a thicker coat, but not too thick inside the inner wear. If the jacket is too thick, coupled with the uniform, the child will easily sweat, and sweating in winter is most likely to cause colds.

In short, there is one principle - moderation.

In winter, it gets dark early and light late. People are visual creatures, and children are no exception. Early in the morning, it is still dark outside, there is no sun sunshine on the buttocks of the morning call, the child is very easy to stay in bed. However, it's easy to get used to it, and then it's hard to get out of bed, and then it's late every day, and then it's not going to school.

So, it's important to let your child go to bed early. There is only one way to get up early and not stay in bed, and that is to go to bed early. The first thing you need to do is to get up a little early in the evening, eat a little early to clean up, clean up a little early to tell a bedtime story, and then go to sleep as a family. The child's work habits and family work habits are closely related, parents are early to bed and early to rise, the child is bound to be an early to bed and early to rise of the self-discipline of the baby .

A lot of our parents have no idea what they are doing with their kids. The baby said a little where not comfortable, immediately began to pick up the phone to the teacher to ask for leave. The child said that the homework is very difficult, can not finish, parents immediately said, it is okay, you are happy on the good. Is this good? Although it is not bad, but in the long run, the child will become more and more "greedy".

So, if you want to be able to go to kindergarten in the winter, you have to have the principle that you can't easily give your child a vacation. Except for the really bad cold, even if it is snowing heavily and the traffic is paralyzed, as long as the school does not notify the closure of the school, you have to send your child to the kindergarten on time.

This will not only help develop your child's sense of rules, but also make him understand the meaning of perseverance.

My principle is that as long as it is not sick