Don't look at others through a magnifying glass, and don't look at yourself through a shrinking glass. Walking in the time zone arranged by fate for myself, everything is very punctual, before going to have the life I want, I have to become myself, don't worry you will eventually become a better version of yourself.
When I saw this passage in the book, I suddenly felt very warm in my heart, isn't this exactly what I said to me now? A while ago because the child school problems, the inner more irritable, they did not arrange these feelings let the child follow me to suffer. The first thing you need to do is to look at your own life and see if you can't find a way to make it work for you, and if you can't find a way to make it work for you, then you can't make it work.
I told my friend about this, and she said she suggested that I look at the book "I would like to be so full of life", which is especially suitable for me to look at this kind of life and see that I don't understand it, intermittent depression, and occasionally lost to the extreme. Uh-huh! Says exactly where I'm at right now, and that's where I need to replenish my inner energy.
I would like to be so full of life" is written by Xiao Mu Tou, who specializes in writing warm and grounded words, and can easily cure herself of a very sad mood after reading. She likes to collect her own "small fortune", with their own words recorded life, seem to be very casual description but contains a lot of truth, let you instantly feel like understanding. The people who live through life, most of them have good things in the center of their lives.
One, there is a life called others think you are very bitter
In the past, we feel that people's words can be feared, but in fact, this statement is not so exaggerated. The timid people are indeed fearful of people's words, and the bold people you talk about when people fart. It's all about whether or not you're living your life to the fullest, not what others say you should be. In the end, the network's speech changed your point of view, or other people's discussion changed your life.
People are actually very susceptible to the influence of those around them, and if you don't want to be influenced by those around you, you need to have enough determination. I have a relative in my family, in the past are the times of successor, she hard in the case of nothing, into the banking system to take over her father's class. At that time, the bank needed to test the bead and a lot of people around her think she is really bitter, but she herself felt desperate to get in, otherwise only with other sisters like farming.
Later, she got in as she wished, and stabilized her life in the city, and introduced her husband to work in the same system. The two of them can live, after all, have a work unit with a room, I heard in the city to buy a few houses, the following five sisters are also very care, and even in the economy has given them a certain amount of help. Listen to the old family sisters talk about her are like this: "living conditions are good, is only a daughter, when I heard that later pregnant with a second child a few months to check, or a male child, but that time to check the tight, in case of discovery of the work is no longer". I don't know whether these things are true or not, but in our rural areas they sisters seem to think that no son is not happy enough.
One time to do wine need change, the old family called to contact her to help change the money, then happened to me in the city, by me to go over to take, so I added her WeChat. Her WeChat is all about waking up early every morning to exercise yoga, dancing at night, and vacationing with her daughter's side and her daughter's travel photos. It is not at all the kind of life that the sisters in the old country understand, there is a kind of life that others think you are very bitter.
Second, the best life, not expensive
We always regret and expect to miss the present, and then promised a hopeless future, some people say the best life is now, the present can grasp the future but can not know.
Often we always feel that we have to have money and leisure before we can live the life we want, and every day we are tired of running and can not stop. I am opening a small store, I feel that every day life is very busy, before the child asked me to take to play, I will feel afraid to miss the business, afraid of my husband alone at home is too busy, afraid of their own one person with two children to play too tired. But since I tried to take the two children to play at intervals, in fact, everything is not as troublesome as imagined, the two children together are also very understanding, tired for sure, but everyone is very happy. Store everything is okay just call a fast food at noon to eat only, really not as difficult as we thought, we therefore a year to play a lot of places, take a lot of photos to leave a lot of good times.
The beauty of this book lies in the fact that the author always uses small things to evoke the good in our hearts. These things are around us often happen but never collect, read this book you will find that the happy life is their own can create, do not have to wait until the future now can.
We can start by making breakfast as a family, taking time to clean up together, shopping for groceries and cooking together, and going to the park together, all of which are things that can be done simply and are very much happiness-enhancing.
Third, women must be independent
As the author said, the past is very afraid of the word middle-aged women. I think middle-aged women sometimes is not only age, it is those we do not like the length of the family, complaining, aggravation, eyes only the family and children's group. My mom was not a very good raconteur, not much of a braggart, and she always felt that she couldn't tell a good story, so she never participated in all that gossip. With three children at home, she was constantly busy and she kept her life organized every day. She would make clothes for a lifetime and made a lot of shoes, I think those were her hobbies after a busy schedule, and she gave me the feeling that she didn't live to be the kind of woman in the countryside who loved to chew the cud.
As a post 80's I am not afraid to live as a middle-aged woman in my hometown, but I am afraid to live as a woman who only has a husband and children, and can only complain about her in-laws every day.
There is a classmate with us about the same age, she graduated from junior high school and got married, the beginning of the contact, and then she called every time not to complain about her husband is not good, that is to say, her mother-in-law did not help her with the child and so on. The last thing you need to do is to add a sentence that you'll know when you get married. I was thinking that if the marriage is so painful I will not get married, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict is so troublesome then do not live together.
Time proves that there is nothing that can't be done, as long as you try. After reading this book on the future life also has a very clear goal, let me reflect on the past few years of married life, the reason for living is not happy or pay attention to their own too little. From now on not only to read the book, but also to do.
When you're bereft, take a moment to read a book! It won't change your life, but it can definitely change your mood.
A woman's independence starts with independent thinking, giving yourself space to be alone every day. Knowing what kind of person we want to be, we can better move towards our goals. To make your life more fulfilling, be the best you can be.