When my husband and I got married, my in-laws were older. My husband's family is not well off, and he has three siblings, a brother on top and a sister on the bottom. The eldest brother's family of two is an elementary school teacher, the youngest sister-in-law after graduating from junior high school did not study in, early marriage married a woman.
My mother takes care of me during the month, my mother helps me with my children, and I have my own job and earn more than my husband.
The reason I like my husband is because he treats me well.
When I was young, I watched a TV series in which the heroine said, "I'm looking for a man who is so dominant that he can get everything done so that I can hide behind him and be the woman behind him; or who is so gentle that he is willing to help me pour the foot-washing water when I come home from work.
My husband belongs to the latter, not earn much, and no opinion, but will contract all the housework.
My father-in-law is an honest man, and usually does not talk much. He has two favorite things in his life, smoking and drinking.
My mother-in-law is a mouth is very broken, basically no emotional quotient can be said of the person, the eldest brother's family since we got married also do not care about the in-laws, but the in-laws like to subsidize the eldest brother's family: there are good food, remember the eldest brother's brother, the rent of the field of money to the eldest brother's family, and even the elderly in rural areas that the more than 100 yuan per month to let the eldest brother take the money.
When my father-in-law was 75 years old, he was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer, and in the choice of conservative treatment and whether or not to operate, the eldest brother's family didn't speak up and didn't pay for the treatment, and made a transparent person.
Hubby said that I always make the decisions in our family, and he doesn't know.
My mother-in-law said, "I'm old and I don't have any money.
My sister-in-law, said she is a married daughter, splashed out of the water, the family's affairs she can not control.
All the difficulties are on me.
I could only ask the doctor, who said that my father-in-law was so old that an operation would only aggravate his pain, and the possibility of a cure was very small, so it would be better to treat him conservatively, and to be able to live a good life in the last six months of his life.
So I told my in-laws what the doctor said, and they didn't say a word.
I brought my in-laws to the city, and in addition to going to work and tutoring my kids, I had the added responsibility of taking care of my in-laws.
I would take my in-laws to the park every day after dinner to take a walk and watch other people dance; I would watch old movies with my father-in-law, even though I didn't like them; I would go to the township market with my father-in-law to look for some old objects; I would take my father-in-law to the big shopping malls to see the prosperity of the city; I would suppress my temper every day, not yell at the children, and I would not quarrel with my husband.
When I encountered troubles, I solved them by myself. I will go to the hospital on time every week and ask the doctor's opinion.
And my eldest brother and sister-in-law, never showed up.
Six months passed, and my father-in-law was still in good health and could walk on his own.
Until the tenth month, the father-in-law was bedridden.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman in a hospital, and I've never seen her in a hospital.
Helpless, only to send back to the in-laws. I asked my sister-in-law to take care of it, and gave her 3,000 yuan a month, and she refused. The two members of my elder brother's family are on summer vacation and are also unwilling to take care of my in-laws.
My husband quit his job and went back home to take care of his parents. I can understand that, after all, he is his own father.
My father-in-law died a year after he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, and he lived six months longer than the doctor expected. I remember my father-in-law taking my hand a few days before he left and saying that he was lucky to have me, so that he could live a decent life, and my mother-in-law was there too.
My eldest brother and my youngest aunt, who acted like they didn't have in-laws, never came home to see their parents.
My father-in-law had already left, and it took me three phone calls before my great-uncle and sister-in-law returned home.
At the funeral, the great-uncle brother and the little aunt were talking and laughing, and could not see a bit of sadness.
The mother-in-law suddenly said very loudly, "If we had done the operation at that time, not conservative treatment, is it still alive now?"
The eldest brother and sister-in-law also conformed: "Right, right, right."
My mother-in-law also said to me, "You are afraid of the cost of surgery, so you let your father conservative treatment, look at the next door that Zhang Laowu, surgery and live for another three years."
The mother-in-law said, is a brother of the family door, he is only 35 years old, got rectal cancer, and check out the time is early.
I didn't realize that my eldest brother and sister-in-law also began to attack me: "At that time should be surgical treatment, what conservative treatment, is afraid of spending money."
"The daughter-in-law of a faraway place just can't be wanted, how about treating her well she won't take her in-laws as family."
"She is taking revenge on you and my father for not taking care of her month and not helping her with her baby."
"On the basis of their own housekeeping, they do not care about the elderly."
The whole family started a crusade against me.
My no-nonsense husband didn't say a word.
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Shay is really going to be pissed off at your in-laws for not doing or saying anything.
Your mother-in-law, not low emotional intelligence, Xiao Xie think it is bad, can not see you pay, but also love to move the right and wrong, have to make the family house is not peaceful, only willing to give up.
I don't know who she's going to rely on when she gets old.
In the matter of treating your father-in-law, you have a clear conscience, and all the denigration is unfair to you.
You should have your own sharpness, don't hold back and let people think you are weak and deceitful.
I'm @ small Xie chat emotion, look forward to meeting you in the world of words.