How to please your mother-in-law after marriage
The first move, sweet mouth
Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law to stay together, mouth to sweet, try to say good things, such as "jumping square dance field is quite powerful, mother-in-law good color ah, etc.", that not only can bring her mother-in-law to keep up with the trend, but also can make her mother-in-law happy, two birds with one stone! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
The second trick, gift
In the end, the mother-in-law is a woman, but also for people daughter-in-law, women why difficult for women, right! For the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with each other, which the mood and situation she actually knows best. For people who have had a similar experience, as long as they are moved by love and reasoning, they can be turned into peace. But moving feelings in addition to sweet mouth, but also know how to send gifts to sensitize the mother-in-law, so send the right gift is very important.
The third move, smile
"laugh it off" and live in harmony with her mother-in-law, no matter what she says, do not contradict it, mother-in-law said, although sometimes too blunt some, but they are real, smart daughter-in-law to give appropriate understanding. This kind of "laugh it off" attitude, quite to the mother-in-law's temper.
The fourth move, pampering
Pampering should be a woman's strong ah, such as pampering behind their parents, pampering behind the husband, of course, you can also be pampered behind the mother-in-law, of course, this pampering can not be less than in the back of the mother of the same Oh, because she is not your mother, as long as she thinks you are her daughter on the line, not to mention that pampering is actually a show of weakness.
How to deal with the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
1, choose the daughter-in-law, we should consider the treatment of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
If you only consider the daughter-in-law white rich and beautiful before you get married, and do not take into account her character, then you are likely to encounter the problem of the clipboard. For example, if you have a small-minded and serious mother, you should try to pick a daughter-in-law with a mild character and a big heart, preferably with a big grin. If your mother has a weak character, then try to pick a daughter-in-law who is spirited but filial and kind, and so on. If your mother values money particularly highly, then try to find a girl who is not too materialistic. In short, never look for two women with strong personalities to have a LW in the same home. At the same time, a sensible mother-in-law, is also very important.
2, to establish authority, do a good job as the head of the family
As a man to HOLD the family, you as a married man, is the head of the family, in dealing with family affairs must know how to dominate. For the mother is to reflect the respect, for the wife is to reflect the tolerance, but you have the final say. Look at the cowardly Wang Chuanzhi, mother, daughter-in-law, brother and sister-in-law did not listen to him, his family into what kind of wife, mother and brother are complaining about him. To make your daughter-in-law and mother understand: this family you say, all have to have rules, not excessive. If someone is not like words, to promptly criticize and educate.
3, dealing with fairness
Your daughter-in-law and mom made a mistake, try to be fair, can not be for the honored one, can only be on the matter, absolutely no double standard. Household chores, if your daughter-in-law cooks, then your mom should consciously go to brush the dishes, if your mom cooks, then your daughter-in-law should consciously go to do something else, this home should not spoil anyone, and do not raise a grandpa. (Of course, except for special times, such as your daughter-in-law's pregnancy, the month or your mother's age, illness, etc.). There is another great advantage of being fair in dealing with things. If you are fair, you will make your mother and daughter-in-law feel that you are targeting things rather than targeting one of them, and they will not have such bad feelings as "marrying a daughter-in-law and forgetting your mother" or "you and your mother are bullying me together" and so on. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
4, to your mother-in-law and father-in-law and daughter-in-law's family of other elderly filial piety and respect
Heavy contempt for some men, asked his wife to their parents and filial piety, and care, and respect, and their own daughter-in-law's family do not think. Then why don't you ask yourself, you to put your daughter-in-law from childhood hard work to raise the old mother-in-law and father-in-law how? Love is mutual, even between husband and wife, one-sided love is not long, let alone two families?
5, do not pass gossip
Women are always smaller than men's minds, not to mention the two women who spend time with each other? If your daughter-in-law or mom has a complaint about the other side, the most stupid thing is to tell each other directly, such a man deserves to be clamped. The right way to deal with it is to comfort her and defend the other person. For example, in the morning, my mom said angrily, "Who spilled the cup, spilling water all over the table and wetting my favorite painting? Even if it was my daughter-in-law who spilled it, I would say, "Sorry mom, I accidentally spilled it this morning, I'll dry it up for you, I'm really sorry". One thing to understand is that between mother and son, even the biggest conflicts can be dissipated into thin air. Between husband and wife, it rains in the sky and flows on the ground, and the two of them do not bear grudges when they quarrel. It doesn't matter if you have any big differences with them, but if there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it's not good to resolve it, so the best way is to prevent it in advance. Don't think it's a small thing, a dike of a thousand miles, collapse in an ant hole, to prevent the slightest step.
How to get along with your mother-in-law after marriage
First, to filial piety mother-in-law
After marriage, the mother-in-law is equivalent to half a mother, so in ordinary times, should be filial piety as your mother filial piety her, you can often and her shopping, grocery shopping, take a walk or something like that, so that she feels that you are truly concerned about her, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship as long as dealt with, and will not let your husband caught in the middle of a difficult situation. Your husband is caught in the middle of the difficult, to do a good job behind the husband's wife, so why worry about the family is not happy it.
Second, more pampered in front of the mother-in-law
Daughter-in-law can be pampered in front of the mother-in-law, itself shows that you get along well with the mother-in-law, it can be said that the mother-in-law in the heart of the daughter you as a mother-in-law as their own, but remember, in front of their own mothers can be a bit of a tantrum, but to the mother-in-law must be moderate, there is no degree of it, then it will be a botch up.
Third, behind the back of more praise mother-in-law
Some times, face to face praise mother-in-law always make people feel very hypocritical, but if it is behind the back of praise mother-in-law, the effect is very different, mother-in-law in other people's mouths to hear other people say, daughter-in-law said she is good, it means that her efforts to get daughter-in-law's affirmation! The mother-in-law is naturally happy, naturally have a sense of accomplishment, the daughter-in-law praised the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law in the hearing, the husband's heart is also happy.
Fourth, understand the nagging mother-in-law
Mother-in-law this age, nine out of ten people love to talk, love to nag, love nagging, she told you that a thing has been said all the time, even to say several times, you may also be tired of listening, but do not show too much, after all, on the age of so she told you you do not like to listen to the words, things do not have a big problem, you can endure when she I did not say, or you can find an excuse to leave, if your mother-in-law always say you do not like to listen to words, you can try to chat with her less, you can find something to do, but do not show that you do not want to chat with her.
Fifth, meet the evil mother-in-law
for their husbands can endure, really excessive kind of mother-in-law you do not have to go to please, there is a kind of mother-in-law how good you are to her, she does not feel that you feel very bad, this is not tolerated, often this kind of people are afraid of soft, you do not want to be more than good to her, not more than the bad on the right, tell your husband about everything, so that he can deal with, after all, the son said the words, the mother-in-law is more than capable of handling, but the son of the mother-in-law is also a good person, so he is not a good person. What the son said, the mother-in-law is more able to listen to.
Factors affecting the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
1. After all, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not pro-mother-daughter
Although the mother-in-law said on the mouth, will treat the daughter-in-law as a daughter, but treat their own daughter, surely they can put up with their daughter's little temperament, and quarrels will not be taken to heart, and the daughter likes the mother-in-law also know that they are also willing to spend money on their daughter's purchases. On the contrary, for the daughter-in-law, the mouth and the heart of the gap, the daughter-in-law talk back will be remembered in the heart, to buy things for the daughter-in-law certainly also feel an outsider, will not be able to give up. Two people with no emotional basis, with emotional and economic involvement, naturally less conflict.
2. The influence of the family of origin on the mother-in-law
Many like to make things difficult for their daughters-in-law, most of them do their own daughter-in-law, often endure from the mother-in-law's difficult. So when her own son marries a daughter-in-law, this kind of dissatisfaction brought to her by her family of origin, she will transfer it to her daughter-in-law. Some mothers-in-law even intensify the problem, while they may have already experienced mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems, so their mothers-in-law will not take it seriously. But in the long run, the end result is in the creation of the same daughter-in-law tragedy only.
3. The son's connection between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
The son plays a very important role in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many men in the family as a husband or son's role, in the face of mother and wife's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law issues raised, feel that this is a matter between the women, need to be resolved on their own, and so have ignored the importance of the men should be borne. As long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are reasonable people, and then the man in the higher emotional intelligence, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is not bad.