The children have probably finished their mid-year exams in the past two days. They are no longer stressed and are playing crazily at home.
Two days later, they ushered in the happiest moment of the year - summer vacation.
Many parents are both happy and confused about the two-month summer vacation.
I am happy that my child can finally relax, and I no longer have to go out early and come back late every day to take my child to and from school.
The troubling thing is that two months is too long. If we let the children relax completely, we are afraid that the children will go crazy and lose all their studies. Moreover, if other children go to cram schools, if their own children do not go to cram schools, they will fall even further behind.
Therefore, it is estimated that few parents are willing to let their children not attend any training classes during the summer. Most parents will enroll their children in one or two training classes or interest classes.
So summer has become a carnival season in the training market.
As long as parents walk around outside, they will receive various training school leaflets. In addition to traditional training in mathematics, Chinese, and English, there are also various interest classes such as art, music, dance, basketball, football, etc. In recent years, in order to cater to people's needs, the types of training courses have become more diverse, such as logic dog, Go, chess, etc., as well as various overseas trips, which simply dazzles parents.
Therefore, facing the summer vacation, parents are busier than their children.
Not only do we have to design summer plans for our children, we also have to inspect various training classes and attend classes, and we also have to deal with the children to get them to agree to attend training classes. For the sake of the children, I am really worried.
I have always maintained an open attitude towards summer training courses. Don't say anything that is not good at all, and don't report it to your children regardless of good or bad. An either-or approach to doing things is not the attitude a mature person should have. Whether or not to go to school depends on the specific situation of your child.
But there is a type of child that I hope parents will pay attention to and enroll their children in training classes.
This type of child is in the lower grades and has a certain dislike for a certain course.
Why?
I think everyone who has gone to school will have this experience:
If we meet a teacher we like, we will like his course and study hard. I learned the course better. On the contrary, if we meet a teacher we don't like, then we won't like the courses he teaches, and we will learn poorly in the courses.
This kind of psychological reaction is called the halo effect in psychology: it means that when people form a good or bad impression of a certain characteristic of a person, they will tend to think that person Other aspects of people are also good. The simplest example is something endorsed by a celebrity. As long as he is a fan of the celebrity, he will naturally think that the things recommended by the celebrity are good.
For children, the younger they are, the more obvious the halo effect is, because children have no ability to differentiate. They will only rely on instinct to feel that others are good to me. If they are good, I will I will like him, and then I will like the courses he teaches.
Similarly, when they don't like a person, they hate his course. Older children may still use reason to overcome this shortcoming, but younger children do not have this ability.
So when a young child meets a teacher he doesn’t like, he will easily hate the course taught by this teacher.
But the crux of the matter is: for children in lower grades, this is just the beginning of learning. Once a child forms such a negative impression of this subject and does not lay a solid foundation, it is basically certain that the child will become weak in this subject in the future. The less you like it, the less you learn it, the less you learn it, the less you know it, and the less you know it, the less you like it, forming a vicious cycle.
So, for children in lower grades who don’t like a certain course because they don’t like a certain teacher, parents must find ways to remedy the situation, and summer provides such an opportunity. Give your child a teacher he likes, a teacher who teaches interestingly, and changes the child's impression of this course, making him think: This course is very interesting, why didn't I find it before? Let him fall in love with such a course and re-establish the child's confidence in such a course.
So, I suggest that for children in lower grades who hate a certain course, parents must find a humorous and interesting teacher during the summer vacation. The focus is not on how much the children can learn during the summer, but on cultivating their understanding of Love and confidence in this course.