The experience is that you will be very happy with your mom. Mom has a particularly touching saying, which probably means, "My parents have worked hard for many years, and I hope that one day you can choose a partner without too much concern, and dare to want all kinds of people, and can afford to do so."
Mom's requirements for choosing a partner were simple: each was comparable to the other in terms of general conditions. Parents never in the minutiae on the tangled too much, parents most important is whether you love this person, how much love, the other side really love you? It is not that they are not realistic.
Rather, they know too well that after marriage, the trivial life of a chicken feather, if there is no real love, the passion faded really is not a day to go on.
So every time I see someone post about their parents asking for a local, their parents asking for someone who doesn't wear glasses, their parents asking for a civil servant, their parents asking for a regular worker, their parents asking to live together after the wedding, and so on. I've never heard of any of these requests. Actually living together, these things are not the deciding factor in marital happiness.
My mom and I said that she had to let go when I grew up, and that parents had to be weaned and independent when their children grew up. I've never been a father or a mother, and I don't understand if it's a hard thing for parents to let go and stop controlling.
Mom picked up and learned some new hobbies after I went to college in order to let go, square dancing, cooking, reading, playing mahjong, and in general enjoying herself. She would say that my kids are grown up and deserve to have their own lives, and that their parents have their own lives too.
Some parents are dead set against it. The reason for this is that parents and children form an unhealthy ****born relationship. The parents don't have their own separate mental world or are too controlling.
Parents can't control and depend on their children, and all of a sudden they lose the center of gravity in their lives. Growing up the parents are worried about the child making mistakes, so they prevent the child from exploring, and the child fails to be independent. Growing up, even more afraid of not independent children to break into society, so a hundred arrangements for good. Even, in the child's choice of object haphazard guidance, in the child after marriage blindly meddle in small family things.
My mom also told me how to understand whether the boys are really good, to see when a problem arises, how he solves it; quarrels, how he defuses it; because you and the family conflict, how to treat you.
Good times are a thousand times better, but living life, look at the poor light how to live. This is the time to see not only his ability to deal with the problem, but also to see the weight of you in his heart. I am really lucky to have such an emotionally intelligent mom.