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I have heard many married men complain: too tired; Life pressure is too great; Men are really hard to do.
Now society demands too much of men, and now women are too harsh on men. The status of men is plummeting, but the burden on them is multiplying. Women always want their men to have everything and must satisfy themselves everywhere. If they don't do well, they will move out those poisoned chicken soup from the internet and judge men condescendingly.
Yes, I was brainwashed by poisoned chicken soup.
For a long time, women have always demanded men according to the standards of online poisoned chicken soup, no matter what conditions and circumstances that sentence was produced.
In fact, this is just to find a "reasonable" reason for your selfishness.
No one is perfect, and no matter how good a man is, he can't fully meet your so-called standard to love you. He has his own thoughts and expressions. You can't deny all his previous efforts and all his kindness to you because of one of his shortcomings.
After all, people should be rational when dealing with feelings. The best feeling is three words, almost. What do you mean, almost? It means that people should be grateful and can be more than enough. They can't be insatiable and dream about it every day.
Men are hard to do, and married men are even harder to do.
I thought that if I married my wife, I could share some life pressure for myself. As a result, instead of helping to share the burden, his wife has been creating pressure on him.
So what? While trying to earn money to support the family, I think about my family's heart. In fact, the pressure of work alone has overwhelmed him, but he still has to consider family, children, parents and how to please his wife.
I don't want to care so much, but I have to care so much. Because this family always needs one person to take charge, modern women do not take responsibility, only themselves.
This is not a man's voice, just the voices of some good people.
Many people who have seen the movie Shepherd will envy the gentle and virtuous heroine Li Xiuzhi. Why? Because she is not only hardworking and kind, but also considerate of men's difficulties. How many women want to do this now? Many modern women have been instilled with a deep-rooted concept since childhood, that is, if I give birth to your family, you have to support me and spoil me for life. Even if you work hard, you should strive for a better future than others, otherwise you are unmanly and don't deserve to marry me.
In this world, most people are just ordinary people. As the saying goes, a clever woman can't cook without rice, and a penny is worth a penny. Making money to support the family is not a simple matter, because everyone is just an ordinary person, so you can't expect so much from an ordinary person, and always ask him according to the standards of "great man" and "awesome man".
This is a bit selfish and cruel.
After listening to a sentence, the more sensible a man is, the more tired he is! Although I agree with this sentence sometimes, I have to be fair. Being sensible and responsible is an excellent quality. When you are born, you must have it, and you must not throw it away because you are tired. On the contrary, the more tired you are, the more you must persist.
I am tired because I have taken on too much, not only my own obligations, but also the responsibilities that the other party should bear.
I met the most difficult person. One second ago, the dog was scolded by the boss, thinking that the children at home needed to eat and drink, so they had to smile bitterly. The company is facing layoffs, and all employees need to face the pressure and rack their brains to sit in front of the computer and write the plan.
Then I took time out of my busy schedule and made no less than five phone calls when I went to the toilet, asking relatives, friends and finding a school for my children.
When I got home, the kitchen was cold and cold, so I dare not complain. It's simple. I just don't want to quarrel with my wife. I've given up. What's the point of arguing? With these efforts, I can do more.
After cooking, I called my wife three or four times before coming out of the room. Watching the children finish eating, they quickly cleaned up the dishes and chopsticks, and then rushed to the hospital to deliver meals to the seriously ill old father.
When he came out of the hospital, it was already past eleven o'clock in the morning. He felt that the world was quiet, but he couldn't be idle and began to think and prepare for tomorrow's work and meeting.
I know that the life in front of me is because he married a woman who won't help him share it, but he is too tired to dispute with his wife, too lazy to quarrel, or doesn't want to quarrel.
Instead, he pretends to be happy at home every day. Everything is to maintain immediate stability.
You can't forget your wife's birthday, Valentine's Day and wedding anniversary.
Never thought about divorce, too much scruples. I have met him many times. He shook his head and sighed in the bathroom, smoking a stuffy cigarette, and came out with an indifferent face.
It's no use complaining, everything depends on you. Maybe he realized his life long ago, but there was no turning back before opening the bow, so he had to close his eyes and let fate take it one step at a time.
Even so, his wife can't understand him, and thinks that he lives easily every day and it's not easy to meet him. I always questioned him with the standard of chicken soup: "Do you look at other men?" "You just don't love me!" I have never thought about what I have done for this family.
Is it always taking, or always paying? When you ask others, do you ask yourself the same standard?
If a man tells you that he is tired, you must not think that he is tired after a day's work. It is a kind of mental fatigue, which comes from mental pressure and oppression. After a long time, a person is easily defeated.
But I tell you, although it is difficult to make money and life is stressful, you can never really crush a man.
What can really crush a man is often the person he loves most around him.
Zhang Ailing: Men after middle age often feel lonely, because when he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who depend on him, but there is no one to rely on.
In the dictionary of adults, there is a kind of sadness called relying on oneself.
In marriage, men actually don't want much, just two things, understanding and care.
Maybe it's just a small move, a thoughtful word that can stand from his point of view. You have no idea how warm and moved his heart will be. At that time, he could breed infinite strength and power in an instant.
The more you know about a man, the more gentle he is. The more you understand his difficulties, the harder he works.
Marriage is the mutual support and warmth of two people. There are two very important words you need to understand, mutual and mutual.
When two people are together, give each other more send warm. Life is not easy, don't give up easily.