Faced with these demands from your mother-in-law, I think it's better to let your husband step in and talk to your mother-in-law, avoiding a conflict between yourself and your mother-in-law, and at the same time, your mother-in-law is more likely to accept it. Mother-in-law grew up in an environment very different from ours, mother-in-law in her era of contact with the education and we have a world of difference, some of the points of view in the present is no longer applicable, but mother-in-law a moment to determine the concept of difficult to change, in order to avoid conflict, sometimes we have to make certain compromises.
Some daughters-in-law are short-tempered and talk straight to the point, completely ignoring their mother-in-law's feelings, leading to each other into a fire and brimstone situation, in fact, it is not necessary, the mother-in-law is very old, the nature of the heart is like a child, we have to coax the child like coaxing her to be able to eliminate the gap between each other, but there are some individual mother-in-law strong character, to see her daughter-in-law did not do well in the place, they began to accuse, resulting in a very tense relationship. The relationship is very tense, you can take a roundabout strategy, will tell their own ideas to their husbands, let their husbands to communicate with their mothers-in-law, the effect may be better.
For the child's words, any mother is happy to listen, after all, the child poured most of her life's blood, she asked her daughter-in-law to learn the hometown rituals and customs of her son's good, I hope that his son can have a good wife, so that his son is not so hard, if the daughter-in-law can stand on this point of view of thinking about the problem, then 90% of the family conflict can be resolved. But sometimes the son's words do not work, this time you can let their own children to communicate with the mother-in-law, for grandchildren, the mother-in-law's favor will definitely make you jealous, of course, the mother-in-law love grandchildren is supposed to, they do not have to be jealous, as long as the mother-in-law is no longer forced to learn the hometown rituals will be able to.
If the persuasion is not successful, then you can use other methods to distract your mother-in-law's attention, such as encouraging her to participate in some collective activities, such as going out with the companions to dance, go on a trip, go hiking, etc., when your mother-in-law has their own hobbies and interests, she has no time to care about your natural.