The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to solve.
WeChat group a group of friends posted an article about whether to live with the in-laws, the group immediately exploded, spitting sound endless.
A said: living with in-laws, I don't even want to have children.
B said: "As soon as the in-laws realized that they were pregnant, they moved in, and they knew that they had a daughter-in-law who had been aggrieved by the pregnancy.
C said: Once the child is born, the mother-in-law to take care of, really a lot of falling out.
D said: mother-in-law often interfere with some details of life, I have been trying to find ways to draw a line ......
E said: do not live together, live together is a minefield, remember.
F said: after I got pregnant she suddenly came running and did not go, when my husband insisted on renting her a house, she cried in front of me, crying, I was soft.
G said: Try to keep a distance from your mother-in-law and don't live in the same house. Rather work harder on your own and bring up your own children.
H said: I'm a single dog, and I don't have this problem yet. In the future, I will strive to earn a lot of money, and when my husband says he will live with his in-laws, I will buy a house near the neighborhood and give it to them with a big hand.
This is really a heavy and unresolved topic. The family has a difficult experience, do not go through enough to talk about life.
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My friend Xiao Bei, on the other hand, doesn't live with her mother-in-law, but what is the reality?
Xiao Bei and Da Dong met at a singles event, added each other to WeChat, and after meeting a few times, quickly entered into a passionate relationship.
Dadong is a single parent, and his father died of illness when he was in middle school. His mother, Xiao Bei's mother-in-law, raised her son alone.
The son grows up and in turn takes care of his mother, being extremely considerate. The relationship between mother and son was exceptionally strong.
Initially, the mother-in-law did not see Xiao Bei. She is a native of the area, her own family and her husband's family are well off, while Xiao Bei is from abroad, the family is average, and there is a younger brother.
"You can't find a wife with a younger brother, and in the future you'll be designated to subsidize your mother's family."
The mother-in-law more than once to do the son's ideological work, but can not argue with the son like.
Last year on Tanabata - Chinese Valentine's Day - Xiao Bei and Da Dong entered into marriage.
The wedding march played, Xiao Bei holding his father's arm toward the other side of the aisle, Dadaos, the spotlight on the father's eyes wet, marrying his daughter's heart both happy and sad.
The down payment for the new house is paid by his mother-in-law, who lives in the old house herself, and has made an agreement with his son:
Daito naturally listens to his mother's words.
The newlyweds, you and me. Your business is my business, your mom is my mom.
Xiao Bei thought, once a week to see each other, there are six days is completely their own.
But it didn't last long.
The mother-in-law can't stay at home by herself, and from time to time she comes with the keys to Xiao Bei's house, claiming to help them clean and cook.
However, the house wasn't much cleaner, and the meals weren't cooked well.
Once the two of them were intimately nestled on the sofa watching TV when their mother-in-law made a surprise visit, causing immense embarrassment.
As time went on, there was always a feeling that somewhere in the house, there was a pair of scrutinizing eyes.
Xiao Bei also thought, mother-in-law is also good, so tolerate her intrusion again and again.
After much tolerance and a habit of obedience, her mother-in-law began to intensify her behavior.
There was a time when Daito was busy with his work and traveled a lot.
Every Friday, before the end of the day, her mother-in-law called Xiao Bei and asked her to buy food, and also gave her a menu, and waited for Xiao Bei to go back to cook.
Occasionally, when Xiao Bei works overtime or has something to do, she calls her son and cries:
"This is my life, no one will take care of me when I'm old, I'm going to die earlier."
The phone call often lasts for an hour.
Six months later, Xiao Bei was pregnant, and the family was naturally very happy.
The mother-in-law, who grew up with a high standard of living, relied on her parents before marriage and her husband after marriage, and after her husband's death, she relied on her son, and finally looked forward to seeing him grow up.
She was used to relying on others, so Xiao Bei didn't expect to be taken care of by her mother-in-law.
Because of the severe reaction to her pregnancy, Xiao Bei took a leave of absence to recuperate at home.
The mother-in-law said she would take care of you, but Xiao Bei declined.
Two weeks passed, and the mother-in-law called again, complaining that Xiao Bei did not go back to see her.
"What kind of woman doesn't give birth to a child? It's normal to have a reaction. I was pregnant, but I went to work as usual until I gave birth."
Xiao Bei couldn't help but argue with her mother-in-law, and the next night, Da Dong came home and said with a pulled face that her mother-in-law had been hospitalized.
The pregnant Xiao Bei came to the hospital with chicken soup to see her mother-in-law, and outside the ward door, she heard the mother and son talking and laughing, and pushed open the door and mother and son immediately cold face, her mother-in-law changed to a sickly state in a second.
I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good look at this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good look at this, and I'm sure you'll be able to get a good look at this.
Xiao Bei felt completely cold, depressed to the extreme.
The first time I saw this, I had to go to the hospital.
Last month, the marriage was divorced, and the first anniversary of the wedding did not wait.
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How many marriages end up with a mother-in-law?
A posting on the Internet even said that it is better to find a good husband than a good mother-in-law.
The reality is that many families, it is because they do not put the husband and wife relationship at the core of the position, the mother-in-law relies on the son, the husband is a mama's boy, the wife is only concerned about the children and ignored the husband ......
All of these, resulting in a lot of family conflicts, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problem is the brunt of the contradiction.
It is said that the best modern mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is a bowl of soup away. Once a month to see each other, do not bother each other on weekdays, bring gifts on New Year's holidays is enough.
Yes, the concepts, lifestyles, habits, and educational philosophies of the two generations are vastly different, and really don't lend themselves to living together.
Keep a proper distance, be polite, be independent and respect each other.
You like to get up early, I'm used to going to bed late.
You dance your square dance, I chase my Korean drama.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
This is a good thing.